Living In Parents Basement.

[JJJ's Ulcer]

25 is not the same as 36.

 

[Piper Maru]

I live in my parents basement as well. Quick, someone chastise me for it!

 

[Mace Dolex]

 

[enterthemadness]

25 is not the same as 36.

You don't say. Gee, I didn't know that. Thank You So Much for that. I was just saying I feel the same as he does mostly, but 9 years younger.

 

[James]

Geez, I'm betting Mace (among others) wishes he'd never said anything. One post and suddenly people are experts on his life. Keep it classy guys, geez.

 

[Erzengel]

Yes. No one should ever have opinions or express them.

Let's just agree with everything everyone says.

Oh wait...we're already on SHH.

 

[James]

Are you responding to me? Because that is absolutely not at all what I said.

 

[Erzengel]

4 people responded to Mace for the most part. Outside of Backstreets who was recently banned and said grow up and the rest of the people were critical of his life choices, no one was necessarily rude to him. So I don't understand the whole, "keep it classy".

 

[James]

I just thought it was a little presumptuous for people to be judging the guy and making all manner of cliche assumptions based off a single post. Everyone is of course entitled to their own opinion, whether they have all the facts or not.

 

[Anita18]

I just thought it was a little presumptuous for people to be judging the guy and making all manner of cliche assumptions based off a single post. Everyone is of course entitled to their own opinion, whether they have all the facts or not.

Well to be fair, everyone was going off what he said. And JJJ's observation that maybe his parents should be able to enjoy their retirements is a good point. Depends if he's still having his mom cook dinner or do laundry though.

 

[Piper Maru]

Clearly the man is a monster.

 

[Anita18]

Clearly the man is a monster.

If everyone's happy, that's cool. But to expect that everyone will accept his "I have too much stuff!" excuse is asking a little too much.

 

[Erzengel]

Bring him out.

 

[James]

Well to be fair, everyone was going off what he said. And JJJ's observation that maybe his parents should be able to enjoy their retirements is a good point. Depends if he's still having his mom cook dinner or do laundry though.

It's not fair though, not in my opinion anyway. If the people who responded to Mace (and it wasn't all the people) had only responded to what he'd written I'd never have made a peep about it. But at least two of the four people who replied to him were making assumptions based off little more than cliches. My point is none of us know the full story. Heck, maybe Mace is a big fat guy with no friends who spends all day watching anime and making his 70 year old mom deliver him sandwiches, but that would be a pretty outrageous assumption with no factual basis.

Anyway, I apologize. I didn't mean to ruffle so many feathers or derail the thread. I saw the guy getting a hard time and thought it was a little unjust, that's all.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

You don't say. Gee, I didn't know that. Thank You So Much for that. I was just saying I feel the same as he does mostly, but 9 years younger.

Well... That's the last time I'll sorta-kinda defend you. If you want to be lumped in with the 36 year old, okay.

As for James. I'm not making any bold assumptions about Mace. I'm making a rather less bold assumption that his parents probably want to get on with their retirement in peace instead of playing house-guests to their son who's pushing 40. I obviously don't know Mace's parents, but they'd have to be saints not to be immensely frustrated with his inability to leave the nest when he's already approaching middle-age.

 

[Spidey-Bat]

It's not fair though, not in my opinion anyway. If the people who responded to Mace (and it wasn't all the people) had only responded to what he'd written I'd never have made a peep about it. But at least two of the four people who replied to him were making assumptions based off little more than cliches. My point is none of us know the full story. Heck, maybe Mace is a big fat guy with no friends who spends all day watching anime and making his 70 year old mom deliver him sandwiches, but that would be a pretty outrageous assumption with no factual basis.

Anyway, I apologize. I didn't mean to ruffle so many feathers or derail the thread. I saw the guy getting a hard time and thought it was a little unjust, that's all.

What assumptions were we making? I made my judgment off what he said. Your post now is the first that says he's basically a lazy fatass mooching off his parents.

 

[Piper Maru]

Bring him out.

Yes I know, fire bad.

 

[Erzengel]

Or the fact that most parents while they will always worry about their children will wonder what will become of him if something would to happen to them. Could he afford to keep making mortgage payments/pay taxes? Would he have to sell the home?

 

[James]

Anyway, I apologize. I didn't mean to ruffle so many feathers or derail the thread. I saw the guy getting a hard time and thought it was a little unjust, that's all.

What assumptions were we making? I made my judgment off what he said. Your post now is the first that says he's basically a lazy fatass mooching off his parents.

From the same sentence...

...but that would be a pretty outrageous assumption with no factual basis.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Or the fact that most parents while they will always worry about their children will wonder what will become of him if something would to happen to them. Could he afford to keep making mortgage payments/pay taxes? Would he have to sell the home?

There's one more uncomfortable fact. It's an elephant in the room and I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but oh well. So people like James don't think I'm assuming, I'll just paint a picture of how I'd feel at age 36 living in my parents' house. I'd feel really uncomfortable, because my parents' disappointment would be palpable. Parents don't expect us all to be CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, but they do expect us to be financially independent and living our own lives certainly by our mid 30's. If my folks didn't physically kick me out of their house by 36 for my own good, then I don't think they would talk to me. It'd be an extremely tense, uncomfortable atmosphere and I'd be reminded every day "what the hell am I doing with my life?"

 

[Mace Dolex]

*walks away*

 

[Victarion]

There's one more uncomfortable fact. It's an elephant in the room and I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but oh well. So people like James don't think I'm assuming, I'll just paint a picture of how I'd feel at age 36 living in my parents' house. I'd feel really uncomfortable, because my parents' disappointment would be palpable. Parents don't expect us all to be CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, but they do expect us to be financially independent and living our own lives certainly by our mid 30's. If my folks didn't physically kick me out of their house by 36 for my own good, then I don't think they would talk to me. It'd be an extremely tense, uncomfortable atmosphere and I'd be reminded every day "what the hell am I doing with my life?"

Same here, man. I've been wondering that quite a bit.

 

[Anita18]

There's one more uncomfortable fact. It's an elephant in the room and I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but oh well. So people like James don't think I'm assuming, I'll just paint a picture of how I'd feel at age 36 living in my parents' house. I'd feel really uncomfortable, because my parents' disappointment would be palpable. Parents don't expect us all to be CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, but they do expect us to be financially independent and living our own lives certainly by our mid 30's. If my folks didn't physically kick me out of their house by 36 for my own good, then I don't think they would talk to me. It'd be an extremely tense, uncomfortable atmosphere and I'd be reminded every day "what the hell am I doing with my life?"

My friend knew someone who was 45 and living with roommates in sketchy apartments, living paycheck to paycheck, doing minimum wage gigs however he could get them. He wasn't living at home, but he had no aspirations either. And then he needed financial help and...let's just say that will probably be the last time my friend ever lends out money, even to her friends.

Starting in your mid-30s, you really have to consider what will happen to you if your financial state is not great and your parents can no longer come to your rescue. It's not necessarily disappointment at work, but reality.

And to be honest, many parents have to face that fact because their kids truthfully are incapable of living by themselves. I have a classmate from high school who's 30 and living at home still, and I think that's good because even back then, it was clear she wouldn't be able to live on her own. I think it's good that her parents are acknowledging that, and letting her stay on and supporting her. But it IS an uncomfortable reality, because they won't be around forever. And I wouldn't lay that on my parents if I was in any way capable of avoiding it.

 

[Spidey-Bat]

From the same sentence...

But no one made any accusations like that. You were basically just criticizing us for not coddling him over his situation. Sorry, but I don't really have sympathy for people who complain about their life when they have or have had the opportunity to change it and make it what they want. I used to be like this with my social life. I rarely ever hung out with my friends outside of school back in high school and I didn't go out much in college. Then I realized that what I was doing with my time was an immense waste and not something I should continue. So I changed and I'm a lot happier for it. One thing it did was help me get over my fear of driving. I used to not even want to drive in my town to pick up pizza. Now I always go and will get my parents' takeout if they order something. I even drove into New York City a couple weeks ago which some people would refuse to do their entire life. I don't drink and refused to go to bars. Then I started doing it and now I'm the one who has to poke and prod my friends to go out because I enjoy it.

 

[James]

That's awesome! I bet driving in New York was quite the experience. I'm glad you broke free of your unhappy social life and revitalized it, it's always great to hear stories of people changing their lives for the better. Well done