Lord of the Advice: Return of the King of Relationships

[Darthphere]

Well, that's not what I do. I'm mean when I say something sexual, like over the weekend I had a very adult conversation with a girl I think likes me about sex. She said she "I feel like I need to know someone for at least a year before having sex with them" (which it's getting close to). So when we do it we're looking for a response. So deflecting the conversation would be a negative response for example.

This story all reads like "I did this, I did that, I did this, I did that" and "that's all important for [tricking] her to have sex with me".

Seems to me, in light of what I've learned so far, that she doesn't want to have sex with him. He still thinks so/wants to/feels obligated to, so everything she does is a hint.

There doesn't seem to be a whole lot of give and take in this story.

Indeed. The most she did reaction wise was to threaten to move to the back seat. Now if she grabbed his "junk" or you know grabbed his hand to keep it somewhere on her yeah I can see this differently.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Depending on how experienced you are, there are definitely ways that you can convince HER to make the "move". Makes it more of an accomplishment.

Well, yeah, I use a little reverse psychology here a there. "Fine, whatever, it's up to you" is a great way to convince someone to go with your plans instead of theirs.

 

[Darthphere]

She is submissive, so I dont think she would initiate a move but I could be wrong.

How do you convince her to make a move?

According to who?


Oh dear.

 

[knowsbleed]

Well, that's not what I do. I'm mean when I say something sexual, like over the weekend I had a very adult conversation with a girl I think likes me about sex. She said she "I feel like I need to know someone for at least a year before having sex with them" (which it's getting close to). So when we do it we're looking for a response. So deflecting the conversation would be a negative response for example.

This story all reads like "I did this, I did that, I did this, I did that" and "that's all important for [tricking] her to have sex with me".

Seems to me, in light of what I've learned so far, that she doesn't want to have sex with him. He still thinks so/wants to/feels obligated to, so everything she does is a hint.

There doesn't seem to be a whole lot of give and take in this story.

Well, we weren't in the car (thank goodness) but I can see how it would be construed as a sexual assault situation as the girl might have been acting like that just to socially please/joke with people in the car. We don't know enough about the girl to know if she actually felt uncomfortable or if she is just that ****ish.

Then again this same girl apparently told another friend in the group to bite her bare ass. So I dunno what y'alls are hopped up on, frankly.

She's probably just that ****ish.

 

[Anita18]

She is submissive, so I dont think she would initiate a move but I could be wrong.

How do you convince her to make a move?

Um, if she really were, she wouldn't have made such sexual jokes to you. Still, doesn't mean she was asking for a groping and a dry-hump in the back of a car in front of her other friends.

You just don't know how to read people. Just stop before you get arrested.

 

[knowsbleed]

She is submissive, so I dont think she would initiate a move but I could be wrong.

How do you convince her to make a move?

Oh man, I don't think I can really explain how you have to be able to read a person and their signals. Perhaps I misjudged your level of game. Get some game. Game... get some.

 

[Anita18]

She said the moving to the back part it as a joke. Your right, you were not there.

nm. you guys were not there, so you have no context and do not know this woman the way I do. She has wrestled around with other guys and been grabbed all over before in front of everyone. Its nothing new to her. thats the way she is.

She edged on a guy to bite her bare ass after she let him bite her jean covered ass at a party.

So she's okay with being sexually assaulted in front of everyone, and you want to take advantage of that?

What a stand-up guy you are.

 

[Figs]

What a scumbag! Hahaha!

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

She is submissive, so I dont think she would initiate a move but I could be wrong.

How do you convince her to make a move?

You don't "convince someone". They're either gonna make a move or they are not.

Also, I say perverted messed up sh** all the time, I say the gayest sh** to my friends to f*** with their heads, doesn't mean I'm gonna do that...maybe.

 

[Dreadstar]

She told me she prefers to be submissive. Thats how I know.

 

[Hobgoblin]

A casual acquaintance is setting me up with a friend of hers. She is a nurse, has a house and is my age...but she has a 6 year old son. I dont want to be one of those guys that goes running like mad at the sight of a kid but I dont know if I have patience for a little kid.

I went out to breakfast the other day with friends that have kids, all under the age of 6. The constant chatter and noise and interruptions and crawling around under the table made me nuts. I dont know if my upbringing was weird or what, but my parents expected my brother and I to sit still and be quiet in public. I dont want to seem like an ogre if I meet this lady and her son.

 

[Anita18]

Little kids are temporary. Then you gotta last through the teen years and hopefully they will be cool for the adult years. My mom is thoroughly enjoying having kids now since we can do stuff together and she doesn't have to take care of us.

But first there's some 20 years of actual work.

 

[Erzengel]

A casual acquaintance is setting me up with a friend of hers. She is a nurse, has a house and is my age...but she has a 6 year old son. I dont want to be one of those guys that goes running like mad at the sight of a kid but I dont know if I have patience for a little kid.

I went out to breakfast the other day with friends that have kids, all under the age of 6. The constant chatter and noise and interruptions and crawling around under the table made me nuts. I dont know if my upbringing was weird or what, but my parents expected my brother and I to sit still and be quiet in public. I dont want to seem like an ogre if I meet this lady and her son.

She can have a well behaved son.

I wouldn't start worrying until after meeting them both. I mean you could not have any connection with her.

 

[Hobgoblin]

She can have a well behaved son.

I wouldn't start worrying until after meeting them both. I mean you could not have any connection with her.

Yeah, but after that day with 5 kids under the age of six, I was a little panicked.

That's why I agreed to meet with her. We may have absolutely nothing in common.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah, but after that day with 5 kids under the age of six, I was a little panicked.

That's why I agreed to meet with her. We may have absolutely nothing in common.

Kids that young tend to be crazier in a group. My coworker's 8-y-o son is usually very well behaved if it's just him and his little sister (he'll come and talk to you like any 8-y-o, which my fiance already dislikes, but he's calm), but we saw them at a party with other kids and he was running all over the place being nuts.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Ok, thats a little reassuring.

 

[The Guard]

Actually, she did have a choice. She could have easily sat on the floor where my feet were and I could have lifted up my feet.

Umm...how big a smart car is this?

Is 20 something (23) girl Comic Chick?

I'm confused.

 

[Anita18]

Umm...how big a smart car is this?

Is 20 something (23) girl Comic Chick?

I'm confused.

I had trouble putting my tiny feet down in a VW Bug, I don't think a smart car is any bigger.

And yes, 23-y-o is comic girl. (Note, this means Dreadstar is 48.) NOT our dear CC.



Actually, if this girl had sat on the floor of the car and he put his feet up, she would have been in the perfect position to um, orally service him. So the choices for her were pretty crappy, if she wanted to avoid ******io jokes.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I haven't really checked up on this thread in a few days. What is a "smartcar", and why is there rape occurring in the back seat of them?

Oh relationship advice thread, you bring sunshine where there is only darkness.

 

[Anita18]

I haven't really checked up on this thread in a few days. What is a "smartcar", and why is there rape occurring in the back seat of them?

Oh relationship advice thread, you bring sunshine where there is only darkness.

You only arrived 24 hours too late, bub.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I think this about sums up how I feel having read the last couple of pages:

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[SuperSoldier985]

Ok, so...I've been on Match.com, POF, and OkCupid for months now and still, nothing.



Oh, what's that sound?


Sounds like my serotonin levels just dropped again. OH WELL.

 

[Erzengel]

Maybe it's time to leave this town?

 

[-Arya-]

I'd like to get some opinions about my current relationship situation. There is a really large age gap between my gf and myself; she is 42 and I'm turning 23. Now, we both don't particularly care about this since we have so much in common, but I'd just like to get some reactions from you guys. Do you think this age difference is a big deal, or does it really not matter at all?

 

[Erzengel]

It really depends. I mean do you want kids?

While women are capable of having kids into their 40s, it is a little more difficult.

Also, you are 23, I'm guessing you may have not done things you've wanted to do while she has done a lot from traveling, working, etc.

You technically are at 2 different stages in your life. But if you're mature, established in your career, it's not as much of an issue.