So I've been in this back-in-forth with my ex, ever since I moved back to the area. We've known each other for ten years, and after the break-up just remained friends. No drama; no questions, just stayed in touch.
Full disclosure: I'm still attracted and we get along great. So I notice this, and tell myself "you've had your shot. . don't make it weird." There will be little hints dropped to make me think I should say something, not make a move. . just reply.
I'll break this down - Hints:
1. We were talking about her ex, with whom she had a kid, and a just let her blast away. The part came where I needed to be Switzerland and just re-affirm her. I say "you got an amazing little boy out of it. . be happy." She replies, "there are better people to have kids with." Ambiguous, I know; but I reply "like a millionaire?" She looks at me a says "I can think of a few." Still ambiguous, hence why I didn't take that conversation any further.
2. It was late and she told me I could stay on the couch. No date - just hanging. The next morning I get up and leave. She was tired, and I am a early riser. I thought I should wake her and say bye, but she looked peaceful. Later she made a sarcastic comment about not saying goodbye. It got to the point where sarcasm looks like hidden truth. So I asked her if she was cool, and she said "sure." It's even been brought up very flippantly ever since the last talk.
3. Every time she sees me, she always say "it was really good to see you." She is some account/visual lead/event planner at a catering company. She hooked me up with a part-time gig at said place. So we have a times were we see each other, twice a weekend, once a weekend, and sometimes when there is a really late party she will invite me over to stay (refer back to #2). I always think "she just saw me ten days ago?" In my mind, that statement is hand-and-hand with not seeing someone for more than three to four weeks. Dunno.
4. She invited me to a Thrashers game. Ok - I quickly gathered why I was invited, because a couple invited her. I still played the friend card and did not make it weird, but I understood why she didn't invite a girl friend, she wanted it to look like a double date for the cause - as to not make the guy feel like he's chillin with three girls. Fun times as usual, we even went out after. When it was time to go - I left, not thinking any hidden conspiracy theories or what-have-you. She went to drop the other couple at the rail and then called me "are you tired - ok to drive home?" I knew what that meant - that was an invite to sleep at her place. Keep in mind - I'm roughly an hour out of Atlanta. I reply "too late now, I'm passed the loop." She laughed - and I know her - meaning she understood. . no need to turn around, at that point I'm 45 minutes away from home.
5. During the dinner after the game, we all talked about really cool places to eat in Atlanta. The Vortex came up, and I said I've never been. She said "we went a few years ago." We went back and forth, and convinced her that I would remember the place. Then she made it a point to say that we were going to go, just she and I.
I have a decent idea of what's going on, and I'm not going to push the issue to soon. My brother says I should just flat out tell her "**** or get of the pot." I get where he is coming from, but don't want to make things weird. I know where assuming can land me. Right now I'm playing it cool. Glad to see her, happy to hang, and nothing more.
Sounding board, anyone? Need more details or just want to do the traditional sarcastic post. . . let's have it.
EDIT: I forgot. She 'says' she is the type of person to speak her mind. If she wants something she will just ask. More ambiguity, I know. But it's important to understand that in the back of my head I keep telling myself "if she wants more she will bring it up. Keep your mouth shut, don't make **** weird, and just enjoy the times."
I've know her since middle school, so closer to sixteen years, and we were engaged at 22 - both 30 now. The odd thing about convenience is whenever we had break-ups, other people, we would always go right back to each other. Not sexual, just for talks and to have a female/male perspective. One time, I joked and said "if were are doing this at 30, we just need to get married." She laughed and said "I like the number 31 better." Yeah. . she'll be 31 in November.
