Return of the *Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[Thread Manager]

This is a continuation thread, the old thread is [split]330851[/split]

 

[Erzengel]

This is a continuation of the previous thread to discuss and seek advice about relationships.

This should be a place to post questions, suggestions, etc...

*even though most of you pretty much ignore all help and continue on your disruptive paths*

 

[Angel_Faerie]

Here's a hypothetical situation:

Let's say you're in a relationship. A long-distance one (which isn't exactly what you'd like, but it's all you seem to get), but a relationship nonetheless. Things are going alright for the most part. Sometimes your significant other suddenly goes silent for long periods, which can be a little frustrating, but your S.O has health issues so it's not unforgivable. besides, to ask for every single second of a person's time would be selfish. But then your S.O. doesn't say a word to you for days. Almost a week. Worry starts to creep in, but you're not panicking thinking something awful has occurred. And then it turns out that your S.O. was out of state that entire time. Without telling you. Now, you don't expect to know where your S.O is all the time, but going out of town seems like something obvious to tell someone that you're in a relationship with.

 

[Angel_Faerie]

Damn Thread Manager...

 

[Anubis]

Here's a hypothetical situation:

Let's say you're in a relationship. A long-distance one (which isn't exactly what you'd like, but it's all you seem to get), but a relationship nonetheless. Things are going alright for the most part. Sometimes your significant other suddenly goes silent for long periods, which can be a little frustrating, but your S.O has health issues so it's not unforgivable. besides, to ask for every single second of a person's time would be selfish. But then your S.O. doesn't say a word to you for days. Almost a week. Worry starts to creep in, but you're not panicking thinking something awful has occurred. And then it turns out that your S.O. was out of state that entire time. Without telling you. Now, you don't expect to know where your S.O is all the time, but going out of town seems like something obvious to tell someone that you're in a relationship with.

Well, hypothetically, i'd have to say this person isn't really in a relationship, they're just banging some sick person whenever they're in town.

 

[Angel_Faerie]

Well hypothetically there hasn't been any banging going on. Let's just say that the couple hasn't visited one another yet but the guy is saving up to fly to where the girl lives.

 

[Anubis]

Ah, well then:

Well, hypothetically, i'd have to say this person isn't really in a relationship, they're just having long boring ass conversations with some sick person over the internet or what-have-you.

 

[Dark Phantom]

Well, hypothetically, i'd have to say this person isn't really in a relationship, they're just banging some sick person whenever they're in town.

sounds like the george clooney film "Up in the Air"

Edit: nevermind. was trying to be witty ><

 

[Anubis]

Minus the banging ofcourse.

 

[Violet Lantern]

What is your opinion on the topic of shy men and the dating world?

 

[Angel_Faerie]

Ah, well then:

Well, hypothetically, i'd have to say this person isn't really in a relationship, they're just having long boring ass conversations with some sick person over the internet or what-have-you.

How do you know the conversations are boring?

 

[Anubis]

I can see into hypothetical souls.

 

[WildcatNC]

Something tells me this thread on SSH can be high comedy.

 

[Anita18]

What is your opinion on the topic of shy men and the dating world?

It's hard for shy people to find each other in real life. The only reason why me and my bf met was because of Plenty of Fish.

 

[The Apocalypse]

I can't get over this girl right now. I'm definitely not going to go into detail with it but she said I hurt her...I don't think I did..I didn't mean to at least. Fact is, I can't get over her and she wants nothing to do with me and she's the only girl I ever told I loved so..um yeah. I seek advice on a forum for the first time. And please, don't tell me to go out and have fun cause at the end of the day, it doesn't work. It's been almost two months and I can't get over it. Wow, I feel like a *****, but it's how I feel and I don't know what else to do.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

I can't get over this girl right now. I'm definitely not going to go into detail with it but she said I hurt her...I don't think I did..I didn't mean to at least. Fact is, I can't get over her and she wants nothing to do with me and she's the only girl I ever told I loved so..um yeah. I seek advice on a forum for the first time. And please, don't tell me to go out and have fun cause at the end of the day, it doesn't work. It's been almost two months and I can't get over it. Wow, I feel like a *****, but it's how I feel and I don't know what else to do.

I am not an expert on relationships, but i just wanted to say i am sorry to hear that happened to you, i wish things had been better all round for you in that regard.
edit: I just removed the piece of advice i gave you in case it was too depressing.

edit: i will tell you one thing though, that may give you some comfort, i thought i was in love with a girl for a long time, and had feelings for her for years, but it was not until i experienced true love that i realized it was just an attraction, a kind of love, but not the real thing, i see her now? feel nothing of that sort, she is just an old pal to me now. i never thought I'd feel that way around her.
So just hope and pray it is something like that, and you have yet to meet the person who is the real true deal, because I don't have any advice in that regard.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I wonder what kind of relationship insight the Thread Manager has.

 

[Hound55]

This is a continuation thread, the old thread is [split]330851[/split]

He basically suggests you get with a new one at regular intervals and keep a link to your ex for future reference...

 

[AndThePickles]

Here's a hypothetical situation:

Let's say you're in a relationship. A long-distance one (which isn't exactly what you'd like, but it's all you seem to get), but a relationship nonetheless. Things are going alright for the most part. Sometimes your significant other suddenly goes silent for long periods, which can be a little frustrating, but your S.O has health issues so it's not unforgivable. besides, to ask for every single second of a person's time would be selfish. But then your S.O. doesn't say a word to you for days. Almost a week. Worry starts to creep in, but you're not panicking thinking something awful has occurred. And then it turns out that your S.O. was out of state that entire time. Without telling you. Now, you don't expect to know where your S.O is all the time, but going out of town seems like something obvious to tell someone that you're in a relationship with.

Hun, you've heard my opinion multiple times, through which I advised you not to bother with any more of these "internet relationships" in the first place. I also do not consider talking over the internet and not ever having dated the person in-person to be a true relationship. Stop wasting your time. You've seen the outcome before.

 

[AndThePickles]

I can't get over this girl right now. I'm definitely not going to go into detail with it but she said I hurt her...I don't think I did..I didn't mean to at least. Fact is, I can't get over her and she wants nothing to do with me and she's the only girl I ever told I loved so..um yeah. I seek advice on a forum for the first time. And please, don't tell me to go out and have fun cause at the end of the day, it doesn't work. It's been almost two months and I can't get over it. Wow, I feel like a *****, but it's how I feel and I don't know what else to do.

Without detail, it's difficult to give you any real advice aside from saying that it's only been two months, so it's natural not to be over it yet. It takes time and willpower.

 

[Hound55]

Hun, you've heard my opinion multiple times, through which I advised you not to bother with any more of these "internet relationships" in the first place. I also do not consider talking over the internet and not ever having dated the person in-person to be a true relationship. Stop wasting your time. You've seen the outcome before.

 

[Erzengel]

Hun, you've heard my opinion multiple times, through which I advised you not to bother with any more of these "internet relationships" in the first place. I also do not consider talking over the internet and not ever having dated the person in-person to be a true relationship. Stop wasting your time. You've seen the outcome before.

What ATP said.

And I've said I did my own long distance relationship when they went to school in the 6 hours to 15 hours but you know what? I actually spent time with them. I know what it's like to be next to them, eat with them and yes be intimate with them. Talking on a phone, even doing a video chat is not the same. And using the excuse "it's the best that I can get", it's settling. Bottom line for ALL long distance relationships, someone is going to have to move eventually. And last time I checked with you, you're just starting your college career.

Without detail, it's difficult to give you any real advice aside from saying that it's only been two months, so it's natural not to be over it yet. It takes time and willpower.

I really hate to pull the age thing here Apocalypse BUT, it just seems that the relationship problems sound so.....sophomoric without detail? You hurt her, but you don't think you did or didn't mean to? It sounds like trivial high school excuses. If you don't know what you did, and she won't talk to you? Doesn't sound like a mature relationship.

 

[Erzengel]

And I wanted the next thread to be called. Return of the *Official* Relationship Advice Thread.

 

[Hound55]

Or... Jessica Alba/Michelle Pfeiffer/That Celebrity/Hooters girl/person on the bus isn't really interested in you, try therapy instead Thread.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

Or change it to the 'There's now a very good chance every relationship in the world will have a two year lifespan, so don't bother having kids, or making any plans, just get teh best out of it before we all go to hell.'