There's several reports in Dump Masters Today and of course, there was that 8 year study at Brown.
R: I need a damn ****ing car.
Where do you live? I mean, do you live with parents and never have the place to yourself? Usually I just invite girls to come chill at my place, and if they are interested in me (as you say she is) they usually show up. Again, I live downtown in the city (and have a car) and I have what I think is a pretty sweet place but if you want to spend time with her that's easy and doesn't require you to drive. Also, you can make it casual to minimize the forward-ness of it such as: "some of my friends are coming over to [activity], and I feel like this would be a good chance to hang out. I would like it if you came". That way it's not "hey, come over, it's just me hereThis is driving me INSANE
I am crazy over this girl, and I can pretty well guess that she is very interested in me, so normal thing would be to make a move. But I haven't. Because I don't have a car.
I mean, I'm so close to just saying "**** it" and asking her out anyway but there's just been so many conversations where she's said "You neeeddd aa caarrrrr"
I know she wouldn't care either way but its the whole thing about it being that she's younger and I'm 21 and have no car. I know I should just go ahead and ask anyway but, I don't want to ask her out and then follow that up with "Soooo can you pick me up at 8?"
But at the same time, it's been since October that I've shown interest and I kinda feel like if I wait too much longer she's gonna say "Ok screw it I'm done waiting".
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Where do you live? I mean, do you live with parents and never have the place to yourself? Usually I just invite girls to come chill at my place, and if they are interested in me (as you say she is) they usually show up. Again, I live downtown in the city (and have a car) and I have what I think is a pretty sweet place but if you want to spend time with her that's easy and doesn't require you to drive. Also, you can make it casual to minimize the forward-ness of it such as: "some of my friends are coming over to [activity], and I feel like this would be a good chance to hang out. I would like it if you came". That way it's not "hey, come over, it's just me here
No doubt about it, girls like it for guys to have a car, but don't feel as though you have to have a car. If you can't pick her up tell her she needs to pick you up if she wants to hang. If she wants to hang.
I'm going to take on good faith that she is interested, and if that's true, THAT is your angle. It shouldn't be on you to get a car because of her, especially if she wants to hang out with you. When you meet a girl always make the case that you're cool with where you're at even though she may not be. In effect you want her to meet you halfway, or at least find out what her dealbreakers are. Some people, as SpiderVille points out, are materialistic, and not having a car may be something she just won't put up with.
The other side of this coin though is that girls traditionally, in my experience, erect roadblocks. From what you've described it sounds to me like she's teasing you a bit about you being automotive-ly challenged. Don't take this seriously because it is not a reasonable excuse not to date you. Girls will instinctively try to walk all over guys they like. So if she gives you a hassel about a car again just be like "well, why don't you drive me then?" (playfully). This will put her on the spot a bit, and you'll know from her response if she's worth pursuing.
What lands people in the 'friend zone' is their attitude, not the environment. My friends hook up a lot within our group. Like I said earlier, 'friendship' is hardly a dead end, but if one person is trying to hook up using friendship as leverage that is when things get murky.
By not having sex with them I guess?
I don't know about that. Some women are more determined than others and others play things very subtle making it socially difficult to actually make the drop off at the Friend zone...
