In regards to the death of the Waynes.. I think it was well done in Bats '89 but used in a superior manner in Batman Begins. I don't have issue with Joker killing the Waynes because I accept certain things in service of the story (I dont accept ice skates in batmans boots but thats another argument) I like the execution in Batman Begins not because the scene is "better" but because the film actually builds to the moment the tragedy happens. The falling in the well and having Thomas Wayne pull him out is good in service of the story, but what really sells it is the shot of Thomas carrying Bruce in with Alfred at the base of the stairs and his mother coming down to check on him...something about the framing just sells the cohesion and "love" in the household. By the time Bruce is in the theater begging to leave I can feel the dread for the inevitable tragedy that has to happen. It nails the landing too, cause when Bruce breaks down to Alfred with the "Its all my fault Alfred, if I hadn't gotten scared"..it gets me...every time.