There was a time where I did that, but it isn't like that anymore. I agree with you though that it's easy to fall into that trap.
I dunno, it still sounds like it, especially if you're waiting for someone to take her place in your heart.
Yea i think JJJ prob has a point. Iv done that with my ex. We split what, 4 months ago? And its still no better. Iv been out with a few girls for coffee/lunch and at the end of it, im just like, nope you aint her and I move on. My question is, if iv put her on a pedestal, how the hell do i remove her?
4 months isn't that long. I was still fragile 6 months after. But I didn't try dating other guys and I knew that we weren't good together so I had no wish of getting back with my ex. I just needed to put myself together first.
So my soon-to-be ex-wife told me today that while she messed up when she cheated on me, I "gave up" on our relationship because I filed for divorce after I found out. She says I didn't "fight for our relationship." Is it just me, or is that a really ****ed up thing to say? I was with this woman for ten years, and I stuck with her through some really hard times. It seems like something an abusive spouse would say; how much is too much to put up with? At what point does that become a psychologically abusive thing to say?
That really pissed me off today. But maybe I'm wrong.
She gave up on the relationship by not telling you things. That's all.
Shes faultless, other than the fact she ended things too abruptly imo. Physically shes the definition of perfection. Like if i had a checklist for what i look for in a girl, she hit every box, twice.
Yeah, and when you're both 70 and old and wrinkly, what would she bring to the table?
You always talked about how hot she was, but what did she give to the relationship otherwise? How did she support your dreams or comfort you when you were down?
If she did nothing of the sort, she would have made a pretty crap partner in the long run. You're still thinking with little ProjectPat.
Just time but you would think 2 kids from 2 different men would take the shine of her.
Seriously.
That's what sucks about relationships. That person becomes a huge part of your life and they become stitched into everything else, so if you break up, the slightest thing can remind you of her. "Oh The Dark Knight was a great movie, but I went to see it with her and I just can't watch it anymore."
Time takes away the pain. My ex-bf in college gave me a blanket with a caffeine molecule printed on it. We made out under it all the time.
My husband is using that blanket right now, to sleep with. I haven't told him my ex gave me that blanket and we used to make out under it.
I'd actually forgotten about that until this very minute.
Its why i cant really blame my ex for getting back with her whack ass ex bf. Im better than him in every way, im taller, stronger, better looking, have more money, have a better car, sweeter, nicer, more romantic, treated her better etc etc etc, but for whatever reason she had stars in her eyes for the chump. Hope those stars are able to last her for the rest of her life, cuz shes connected to the dude for the remainder of it.
Can we stop with this kind of talk? There's no "better" in a universal sense. People are just better for each other. No matter what you think, she's made her choice and she's decided her ex is better for her, for whatever reason. Even if you think it's stupid.
If that was the rule, I majorly downgraded from my ex-bf to my husband (Stanford MBA grad at a venture capital firm vs self-taught freelance programmer), and he majorly downgraded from me to his wife (tall-ish supermodel-thin scientist vs short overweight event planner). But we are vastly better for our respective spouses than we ever were for each other.
But partly, I think you're talking like that because you're still bitter.
