From SHH with Love: The Relationship Thread

[the last son]

Like I said I just have to only search for women who are poor like myself and didn't attend college.

 

[Anubis]

Good luck with all the baby daddy drama.

 

[the last son]

I'm a truck driver and there's not much money in it.

 

[Anubis]

The hell it ain't.

I know truck drivers making a 100,000 bucks a year. You own your own truck?

 

[the last son]

No. Company driver.

 

[Erzengel]

People put way too much stock in social status these days. I hear nowadays all women want is a man with an education. So, what those who didn't attend college are poor idiots? I don't know maybe I should just date women who also didn't attend college. Just didn't realize women valued a degree so, much.

What's wrong with women who want security? Not talking about gold diggers.

But a degree usually means some what of a stable career. There are exceptions like Anubis pointed out. Also construction and move up in the company, etc.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

What's wrong with women who want security? Not talking about gold diggers.

But a degree usually means some what of a stable career. There are exceptions like Anubis pointed out. Also construction and move up in the company, etc.

There's nothing wrong with wanting security, but there does seem to be a trend of women wanting "what the man can do" for them, instead of who the man is as a person.

 

[Anubis]

It makes sense to me. That's why you find chicks with low self esteem who are just happy to have a guy with a damn car.

No. Company driver.

Oh, that's your problem.

You could potentially get PAID. All without having to go to school.

 

[Anita18]

There's nothing wrong with wanting security, but there does seem to be a trend of women wanting "what the man can do" for them, instead of who the man is as a person.

And I've seen a "trend" of men looking for "what the woman looks like with no clothes on" instead of who she is as a person.

You just filter out the superficial folks, no matter what you're looking for.

I've probably lost out on a hundred guys because I don't have boobs. (Well, I'm shy and introverted too, but I rarely get guys' attention in the first place because of my body type.)

The answer is not to get a boob job. The answer is to ignore those superficial jerks, and keep searching for the guy who'd like me for me. And who is a butt guy instead of a breast guy.

It makes sense to me. That's why you find chicks with low self esteem who are just happy to have a guy with a damn car.

Funny, my husband doesn't have a car. He has to use mine. At least he still insists on paying for his own health insurance...

Oh, that's your problem.

You could potentially get PAID. All without having to go to school.

Exactly. If you don't have the education, you HAVE to have initiative and perseverance. Well, those two qualities are required now even for college and post-college grads, but it's especially necessary if you have neither.

What's even more unattractive than lack of education or lack of money, is lack of ambition. Not to say that every woman is lining for a bigshot lawyer who works 100-hr weeks and never comes home before midnight, but sitting on your duff complaining about how life is unfair and playing video games is worse than that.

 

[Anubis]

Yup.

Get yo hustle on, and the panties will follow.

Also, because I never got the chance to say so, Congrats on the wedding....also your hubby looks like noted pornographer Jules Jordan.

 

[Anita18]

Yup.

Get yo hustle on, and the panties will follow.

Also, because I never got the chance to say so, Congrats on the wedding....also your hubby looks like noted pornographer Jules Jordan.

Well, panties and stability and contentment.

Thanks! And...I disagree with your assessment. At least from Jules Jordan's Wikipedia picture. I'm at work and I'm not even going to try any of his official pages. The hubs resembles Matthew Gray Gubler (from Criminal Minds and 500 Days of Summer) and my mom pointed out he looked like Eddie Redmayne (Marius) when we saw Les Miz. Not a bad group of guys, IMO.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

And I've seen a "trend" of men looking for "what the woman looks like with no clothes on" instead of who she is as a person.

Well with my recently developed jaded attitude towards females... that's about all I care about from anyone anymore anyways. I've pretty much lost faith in finding a woman that's worth a **** and will care about me for me. Bout the best I can hope for at this point is one who gets just drunk enough to make a bad decision with me.

 

[Anubis]

You ever stop and think that maybe, and I'm just putting this out there not trying to start some s**t or anything, but, maybe you aren't worth it?

Well, panties and stability and contentment.

Thanks! And...I disagree with your assessment. At least from Jules Jordan's Wikipedia picture. I'm at work and I'm not even going to try any of his official pages. The hubs resembles Matthew Gray Gubler (from Criminal Minds and 500 Days of Summer) and my mom pointed out he looked like Eddie Redmayne (Marius) when we saw Les Miz. Not a bad group of guys, IMO.

Yeah, I can see that.

 

[Anita18]

Well with my recently developed jaded attitude towards females... that's about all I care about from anyone anymore anyways. I've pretty much lost faith in finding a woman that's worth a **** and will care about me for me. Bout the best I can hope for at this point is one who gets just drunk enough to make a bad decision with me.

Dude you're how soon from graduating and getting out of there? Just hold on until then, move away and start over where none of your crazy theater friends can spread rumors about you.

 

[Anita18]

You ever stop and think that maybe, and I'm just putting this out there not trying to start some s**t or anything, but, maybe you aren't worth it?

Dude....dude. You really aren't trying to start some s**t with that?

If even guys on death row can get female admirers, Nell can too. He just hasn't found a girl on his level of crazy, and/or is solely hanging with people who are a decidedly un-Nell brand of crazy.

 

[Anubis]

I just don't get this sense of entitlement everybody seems to have. Surely you could get somebody. I mean it's never as hard some of you make it out to be....so maybe it's not them. Maybe it's you. Maybe it's time to change you. I mean, it's not like being you has been working out now has it?

 

[Anita18]

I just don't get this sense of entitlement everybody seems to have. Surely you could get somebody. I mean it's never as hard some of you make it out to be....so maybe it's not them. Maybe it's you. Maybe it's time to change you. I mean, it's not like being you has been working out now has it?

Depends on what you're looking for. There's always a balance. I understood that my brand of crazy was pretty rare, so I just kept looking and didn't base my confidence on being in a relationship. Having a sense of entitlement about "deserving" an SO is objectifying people, and I don't like thinking of it in that way. But the world is pretty damn big, and personalities run all over the gamut, so the chances of you being so weird that you can't find ANYONE in the entire world on your wavelength is IMO impossible.

But some of us need help meeting enough people or filtering out the likely, which is why I turned online to find that person.

If I had a list of "must-haves" (height, hair color, education, salary) in addition to being a particular brand of crazy, then that's entitlement.

And there are things that everyone could change to better themselves in life generally AND make themselves more attractive. But I certainly don't believe in pretending you're someone you're not, JUST to get a stereotypical woman/man.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Dude you're how soon from graduating and getting out of there? Just hold on until then, move away and start over where none of your crazy theater friends can spread rumors about you.

I'm not even talking about rumors and crazy theatre friends.

I'm not gonna move somewhere else and suddenly women are going to magically love me.

 

[Anita18]

I'm not even talking about rumors and crazy theatre friends.

I'm not gonna move somewhere else and suddenly women are going to magically love me.

You don't need masses of women throwing themselves at you, you only need one that will accept who you are. (Okay, if you want to date around, that's fine too, but in the end you really only need one.) And from your posts here, it seems like you have a ton of baggage where you are right now that's preventing you from doing that.

You're a different person than when you started school. Things won't always be the same because of that.

 

[Lighthouse]

My relationship problem: I'm a dummy dumb dumdum.

 

[Erzengel]

You don't need masses of women throwing themselves at you, you only need one that will accept who you are. (Okay, if you want to date around, that's fine too, but in the end you really only need one.) And from your posts here, it seems like you have a ton of baggage where you are right now that's preventing you from doing that.

You're a different person than when you started school. Things won't always be the same because of that.

I didn't think the selection pool that Nell was trying to swim in was going to yield any significant catches at least long term. While I'm sure he could hook up or have some sort of short live relationship, I just think there was too much of an age gap.

I know Nell has stated previously how immature women his age was around him, but I think there's always going to be immature or crazy or unstable people at any age or gender.

While these girls that Nell went for are going to the same school, I felt that they were still in 2 different places.

 

[OctaviusINC]

My relationship problem: I'm a dummy dumb dumdum.

Well...stop it.

 

[NickNitro]

Well then,I guess i'm glad I'll live my life, poor if I ever do find someone it won't be because of money.

People put way too much stock in social status these days. I hear nowadays all women want is a man with an education. So, what those who didn't attend college are poor idiots? I don't know maybe I should just date women who also didn't attend college. Just didn't realize women valued a degree so, much.

First things first, you need to know how you use a comma and proper grammar lol

 

[Erzengel]

First things first, you need to know how you use a coma and proper grammar lol

Well you use a coma to protect brains during neurosurgery or seizure treatments.

 

[NickNitro]

comma! I'll leave now.........