Nell2ThaIzzay
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So I'll say I finally stood up for myself tonight.
I don't know how detailed I've gotten, but I know I've mentioned the girl who I knew from back in California that I had something of a history with, who has since moved to Arizona. We got back in touch a couple years ago, with her telling me she had feelings for me, and over that time, saying things to me like she wanted to take my virginity, wanted to visit me in Tennessee and we'd have sex, or when that didn't work out, that when I moved back in California I could stop in Arizona on the way out there and we'd hook up, along with other things that she's said, and of course, never followed through with.
Well, with me moving back to California a real possibility now (of course I'm still exploring my options in New York before I decide for sure), she began to flake on it and make excuses for why her and I couldn't hook up.
But tonight, while her and I were texting, she started telling me about all these dudes she's trying to hook up with and have sex with. So I made a comment about now she's ready to hook with some dudes when she was making excuses with me after she said she would.
So basically, the jist of the conversation, she says I'm just mad at all the other girls who rejected me and turned me down and I'm just taking it out on her or whatever, and so finally I told her "no, I'm mad because for the past 3 years we've been talking, you've been using the fact that I constantly get rejected to get attention for yourself, telling me you have feelings for me, telling me you wish you could be more for me, even going as far as saying you would marry me, telling me you're going to take my virginity, and making all these false promises to me that you never intended to keep, but then want to turn around and make me the bad guy for believing the things you told me. You need to take responsibility and accountability for your words, you can't just say whatever you want and then pretend it never happened when it's time to own up to it. You're right, you're not responsible for all the girls that rejected me, and you sure don't owe me **** for it, but don't say that you're going to do all these things when you have no intention of following through on them"
So basically, now she's saying that we shouldn't speak to each other anymore, and I really have no desire to chase after her and keep her around. In fact, I told her that I have too much going on in my life right now, and I don't have time to deal with her or her games anymore, and that I don't have feelings for her, I don't want a relationship with her, and I don't want to have sex with her. Also told her that if she cared for me as much as she claims she does, she wouldn't exploit the one part of my life that I feel weak in just so she could get attention.
I don't know how detailed I've gotten, but I know I've mentioned the girl who I knew from back in California that I had something of a history with, who has since moved to Arizona. We got back in touch a couple years ago, with her telling me she had feelings for me, and over that time, saying things to me like she wanted to take my virginity, wanted to visit me in Tennessee and we'd have sex, or when that didn't work out, that when I moved back in California I could stop in Arizona on the way out there and we'd hook up, along with other things that she's said, and of course, never followed through with.
Well, with me moving back to California a real possibility now (of course I'm still exploring my options in New York before I decide for sure), she began to flake on it and make excuses for why her and I couldn't hook up.
But tonight, while her and I were texting, she started telling me about all these dudes she's trying to hook up with and have sex with. So I made a comment about now she's ready to hook with some dudes when she was making excuses with me after she said she would.
So basically, the jist of the conversation, she says I'm just mad at all the other girls who rejected me and turned me down and I'm just taking it out on her or whatever, and so finally I told her "no, I'm mad because for the past 3 years we've been talking, you've been using the fact that I constantly get rejected to get attention for yourself, telling me you have feelings for me, telling me you wish you could be more for me, even going as far as saying you would marry me, telling me you're going to take my virginity, and making all these false promises to me that you never intended to keep, but then want to turn around and make me the bad guy for believing the things you told me. You need to take responsibility and accountability for your words, you can't just say whatever you want and then pretend it never happened when it's time to own up to it. You're right, you're not responsible for all the girls that rejected me, and you sure don't owe me **** for it, but don't say that you're going to do all these things when you have no intention of following through on them"
So basically, now she's saying that we shouldn't speak to each other anymore, and I really have no desire to chase after her and keep her around. In fact, I told her that I have too much going on in my life right now, and I don't have time to deal with her or her games anymore, and that I don't have feelings for her, I don't want a relationship with her, and I don't want to have sex with her. Also told her that if she cared for me as much as she claims she does, she wouldn't exploit the one part of my life that I feel weak in just so she could get attention.
