Advice and Relationships Again: A Hypester's Tale

[Dreadstar]

You seriously sound like you are fifteen.

Whatever, trying to make things right here, regardless of how I sound.

 

[Erzengel]

You claim you're like 50 and you have very limited relationship experience.

Shouldn't you have had this breakthrough I dunno, in your 40s or your 30s or even your 20s?

 

[Dreadstar]

You claim you're like 50 and you have very limited relationship experience.

Shouldn't you have had this breakthrough I dunno, in your 40s or your 30s or even your 20s?

yes, I SHOULD have but I did not. Life does not go ACCORDING to a plan. I was told that I was trying to over compensating for the fact that I did not have relationships in my 20s and 30s.

 

[Coca Cola Duracell Franklin.]

That really sucks. Are you in better shape now than when you were younger? What was the breakthrough?

 

[Anita18]

I like how you blame others and not yourself.

I've known people who came from non affectionate families and grew up to be quite loving people.

One of the most generous people I know is my fiance, and he's an only child. His mom has been remarried for almost 20 years and they had no kids, so he's had two dads to dote over him. And IIRC he's also the only grandchild living close to one set of grandparents, so they certainly had an excuse to spoil him too, and evidently failed.

He's also a skateboarder and an engineer so it's not like he had a bunch of female friends growing up either. He just knows to treat people with respect, and that includes women.

That really sucks. Are you in better shape now than when you were younger? What was the breakthrough?

Someone finally dumped him and he realized that since he's 50, he can't keep pulling the same crap anymore if he actually wants to have someone around when he's old?

 

[Anubis]

That really sucks. Are you in better shape now than when you were younger? What was the breakthrough?

I'm guessing coma.

 

[terry78]

I think you need to talk to C.Lee, he seems to be a pretty well adjusted curmudgeon.

 

[knowsbleed]

You claim you're like 50

I guess I missed this detail. I thought he was in his teens. There is no way he can be in his 50s.

and you have very limited relationship experience.

Shouldn't you have had this breakthrough I dunno, in your 40s or your 30s or even your 20s?

... no...

... way...

 

[Dreadstar]

Way!

How can you be so naive to think that "breakthroughs" should happen at certain ages? Thats not how life works at all missy!

 

[Coca Cola Duracell Franklin.]

So why were you not in relationships? Did you pop out at parties? Were you unpoopular? What kept you single, and how did that end, allowing you into a relationship?

 

[knowsbleed]

I'm going to start calling people "missy". Maybe someone will want to hump me.

 

[Lasirius]

Wow, I've been completely absent from this thread and what a mistake. Carry on.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

yesterday, my girl texts me and told me that she feels very connected to me in a way she never did before. She said that I said I was ALL IN, so she wants to do her best to do the same. This is a big step for her, talking about how she feels the relationship is progressing.

SO through all of this, I am learning that I am a very self absorbed, Narcissistic individual.

I believe I became like this because:

1. I had no sisters or female friends to learn from
2. My mom did everything for me, as I was first born.
3. Limited relationship experience (my last gf spoiled me and did everything for me!)

This is it! I am really trying to do right by this woman. I am trying to change. I cant go through life being this selfish, self absorbed individual, because that a sure path towards being all alone or going from bad relationship to bad relationship. I feel like Scourge from A Christmas Carol, I see what my life has become, but I can still change it. I HAVE TO CHANGE! My close friends and family has also echoed what she said, I was too stubborn to listen. I do not want to go to my deathbed being the person I am now.

Well, she's now got a slave that will wait on her every beck and call, why wouldn't she want to continue this. She says jump, you say how high. It sounds like you've done a 180, but sooner or later the real you is going to come out. The two of you need to meet in the middle somewhere.

 

[Dreadstar]

Well, she's now got a slave that will wait on her every beck and call, why wouldn't she want to continue this. She says jump, you say how high. It sounds like you've done a 180, but sooner or later the real you is going to come out. The two of you need to meet in the middle somewhere.

I was thinking the same thing. I have set the bar pretty high. But then again, is this not the way it should be? We do things for each other? She rewarded me Friday night by screwing my brains out in many different positions!

 

[Anita18]

So you're willing to do everything and anything for her as long as she puts out? Doesn't sound like a terrible arrangement to me...

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Way!

How can you be so naive to think that "breakthroughs" should happen at certain ages? Thats not how life works at all missy!

I mean sh** dude, I'm a late bloomer and I figured a lot of out in my twenties just by like observing other people and sh**. You can't like?!? What?!? Where were you a cave?!? With like no women within one hundred miles?!? Were and invalid? I don't get it.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I was thinking the same thing. I have set the bar pretty high. But then again, is this not the way it should be? We do things for each other? She rewarded me Friday night by screwing my brains out in many different positions!

God damnit I'm trying to f***ing eat dinner.

 

[Darthphere]

Guys, I'm putting all of Dreadstars posts together and making it a novel, try to sue me, just try.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

So you're willing to do everything and anything for her as long as she puts out? Doesn't sound like a terrible arrangement to me...

There's a word for women who get compensated in return for sex. I feel like I should know this. Like maybe it's been around for a while.

 

[Anita18]

There's a word for women who get compensated in return for sex. I feel like I should know this. Like maybe it's been around for a while.

I think men who frequent such women are supposed to only compensate them financially and then drop them like a hot potato. I don't think they'd extend it to regular life. I think that extra bit makes you whipped.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I think men who frequent such women are supposed to only compensate them financially and then drop them like a hot potato. I don't think they'd extend it to regular life. I think that extra bit makes you whipped.

It definitely happens in real life. I work in manufacturing and some people out on the floor have less than ideal backgrounds. I've known and few of them constructed relationships with actual prostitutes then would delude themselves into saying it is something it isn't.

 

[Anubis]

Everybody wants to be loved......even if you gotta pay for it.

 

[steintym]

You claim you're like 50 and you have very limited relationship experience.

Shouldn't you have had this breakthrough I dunno, in your 40s or your 30s or even your 20s?

Thank you - I was going to post the same.

This guy can't be 50, though.

 

[Anubis]

Unless he was in prison since he was a teen.

 

[Anita18]

It definitely happens in real life. I work in manufacturing and some people out on the floor have less than ideal backgrounds. I've known and few of them constructed relationships with actual prostitutes then would delude themselves into saying it is something it isn't.

Right, but that's not a requirement in the exchange, is what I'm saying. Money for sex, that's all you're technically paying for. And if you make her breakfast and buy her clothes to walk home in, that makes you extra whipped.