Advice and Relationships Again: A Hypester's Tale

[Boy Scout]

Dude.

 

[Dark Raven]

One of these days someone is going to come along in need of actual relationship advice, and no one's going to notice because we're all too busy allowing a twisted old pervert to be the centre of attention.

Yeah, like I said, this thread should be for actual relationship advice. If people want to talk about fictional ones, there's plenty of soaps, dramas or sitcoms to discuss in the TV section. Heck, even discussing the relationships on "Friends" and trying to give out advice to those fictional characters (even though the series is over) would be better than talking about this.

 

[Dreadstar]

If I sleep with comic chick, then all these issues disappear!

 

[Coca Cola Duracell Franklin.]

There is only one option, Dreadstar. You know what you must do. To solve your issues. Everyone will benefit. Show no mercy.

 

[steintym]

One of these days someone is going to come along in need of actual relationship advice, and no one's going to notice because we're all too busy allowing a twisted old pervert to be the centre of attention.

You don't find this entertaining at all?

 

[Boy Scout]

One of these days someone is going to come along in need of actual relationship advice, and no one's going to notice because we're all too busy allowing a twisted old pervert to be the centre of attention.

Actually, I have a question. t:

When and how do you bring up sex? Not necessarily to ask when we're gonna do it or why we aren't doing it, but just to find out where she stands, what she's comfortable with, etc. I figure the best way would be to just come right out with it and not beat around the bush, but that could make things really awkward.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Actually, I have a question. t:

When and how do you bring up sex? Not necessarily to ask when we're gonna do it or why we aren't doing it, but just to find out where she stands, what she's comfortable with, etc. I figure the best way would be to just come right out with it and not beat around the bush, but that could make things really awkward.

I talk about it all the time. There is no when. Girls generally like talking about sex.

As for making it awkward, it really only matters if it's awkward for you. Most people are mature enough not to get too excited over it.

 

[Dreadstar]

Yes, I know what I have to do. People on here mock me, so their advise is taken with a grain of salt, also people that know me and her say I can have my way with her, but it will NOT be a relationship.They say I have to man up!

ANd I disagree, women (females under the age of 30 are girls NOT women!) do not like talking about sex. Optimus_Prime, how old are you? in your 20s I bet.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Yes, I know what I have to do. People on here mock me, so their advise is taken with a grain of salt, also people that know me and her say I can have my way with her, but it will NOT be a relationship.They say I have to man up!

Your way with her?

Seriously? Do you read your own writing?

 

[Boy Scout]

How could you possibly take "Stop taking advantage of drunk, defenseless women" with a grain of salt? Especially when it's coming from multiple sources?

 

[Dreadstar]

How could you possibly take "Stop taking advantage of drunk, defenseless women" with a grain of salt? Especially when it's coming from multiple sources?

You can stop taking advantage, leaves more for me! Because thats the MO of this woman. SHe uses booze as an excuse to sex up the place! SO if this is true, then why the hell would I not sex her up? WHY are you so uptight? You mean to say you have never banged a drunk chick? W@W!!!!!!!

Yes, I do read what I write and that was word for word. MY way with her is what was said.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Why don't they like talking about sex? That age probably talks about sex the most. I'm in college, around college age girls almost exclusively, and they all talk about sex regularly. Hell, even my ex girlfriend who was 20-21 during our relationship, even though she made it clear that she wanted to wait until marriage to have sex was comfortable and not shy talking about it.

Jeez dude you are clueless.

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

This thread...

 

[Dreadstar]

Why don't they like talking about sex? That age probably talks about sex the most. I'm in college, around college age girls almost exclusively, and they all talk about sex regularly. Hell, even my ex girlfriend who was 20-21 during our relationship, even though she made it clear that she wanted to wait until marriage to have sex was comfortable and not shy talking about it.

Jeez dude you are clueless.

CLueless when it comes to 20-21 year olds, yes, because I have no interactions with such types nor should I! Women over 30 do not act silly like that and talk about sex with random people. They are more mature. 20 something females are clueless.

 

[Boy Scout]

Because thats the MO of this woman. SHe uses booze as an excuse to sex up the place! SO if this is true, then why the hell would I not sex her up?

I don't believe you.

 

[Erzengel]

Actually, I have a question. t:

When and how do you bring up sex? Not necessarily to ask when we're gonna do it or why we aren't doing it, but just to find out where she stands, what she's comfortable with, etc. I figure the best way would be to just come right out with it and not beat around the bush, but that could make things really awkward.

Making innuendos or jokes, or if she says something somewhat flirty, you can come in with something a little more risque....

I usually make inappropriate jokes, and see their responses. If they aren't prudish, you kinda know how much work you may have to put into this.

 

[Dreadstar]

I don't believe you.

Again, believe what you want. You dont know her and when I post stuff, you default to the "I dont believe you" so its no use with you.

 

[Erzengel]

CLueless when it comes to 20-21 year olds, yes, because I have no interactions with such types nor should I! Women over 30 do not act silly like that and talk about sex with random people. They are more mature. 20 something females are clueless.

I know 20, 30, 40 year olds who talk about sex all the time.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

And the bars and night clubs are full of these "predators" as you claim, yet women flock to these places to get picked up. SO why get all uppity?
Its not predator, its being a real man and getting some! That is all! And I have been getting some all summer long!

Getting laid and being a real man are two completely different things. You are not a real man. A real man would put his energy into the relationship with fling girl, not being a doormat for her just to get some sex, but be a real supportive boyfriend.

One of these days someone is going to come along in need of actual relationship advice, and no one's going to notice because we're all too busy allowing a twisted old pervert to be the centre of attention.

They do, but they usually just ignore the advice anyway.

If I sleep with comic chick, then all these issues disappear!

Yeah, but you won't because it's all about the chase, you don't like the girls once the chase ends.

Yes, I know what I have to do. People on here mock me, so their advise is taken with a grain of salt, also people that know me and her say I can have my way with her, but it will NOT be a relationship.They say I have to man up!

ANd I disagree, women (females under the age of 30 are girls NOT women!) do not like talking about sex. Optimus_Prime, how old are you? in your 20s I bet.

Girls/woman in their 20s do talk about sex, you obviously haven't been around many. Do you think boobs feel like sand?

 

[Dreadstar]

My group makes inappropriate jokes with comic chick all the time and she loves the attention! Very graphic sexual jokes.

I already said I have not been around girls under 30. Whether they talk about sex or not IDK. ANd I dont care about girls under 30 (except comic chick) as they are: unsure of themselves and are really bad in bed.

I am a supportive boyfriend. I do all kinds of things for her.

Actually, you might be correct, I do like to chase, once I bed a woman, I lose interest. Fling is a good example of that. But I am trying to change that with her. I might go see her today as she is at home.

 

[Anita18]

Eh...its probably a good idea to be up front about the whole "Not exclusive" thing.

Depends on what you've been doing together. My fiance and I were only really casually dating for the first few months. Like, seeing each other once every few weeks for dinner and hanging out kind of thing. Nothing really physical. The possibility of me being a group of women he was scoping out at that point in time was definitely there, and I actually didn't mind it. We hadn't gotten serious at that point. It was only after he started staying over weekends, that it was clear he had no time for anyone else. And then he started referring to me as "his girlfriend" and that was that.

And I don't date around because it's exhausting.

Whereas with my sister...she got really upset when her bf that she had started to date was dating around. Why? Because he TOLD HER that he saw them going long-term, and basically put the sweet talk on her. She assumed that they were exclusive when it had not actually been spoken. He started dating someone else when she was on vacation and she went "WTF" and there was crying on both sides and boundaries were made and everything's good now.

But...yeah. If you want to date around, don't be clueless and/or a jerk and imply that you're exclusive when you're not.

Actually, I have a question. t:

When and how do you bring up sex? Not necessarily to ask when we're gonna do it or why we aren't doing it, but just to find out where she stands, what she's comfortable with, etc. I figure the best way would be to just come right out with it and not beat around the bush, but that could make things really awkward.

LOL you think the sex talk is awkward? Wait until you get to the "Can you drive me home? My menstrual cramps are starting to get really bad" or the one-of-you-is-disgusting-ill part. Both of which my bf handled like a champ.

You don't have to get all scientific or wordy about it. If you want to make it casual, refer to it as "the sex thing" or something.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Yes, I know what I have to do. People on here mock me, so their advise is taken with a grain of salt, also people that know me and her say I can have my way with her, but it will NOT be a relationship.They say I have to man up!

ANd I disagree, women (females under the age of 30 are girls NOT women!) do not like talking about sex. Optimus_Prime, how old are you? in your 20s I bet.

Lol, you realize my last two ladies were 31 and 37? The 37 year old was kinky as f***. That's all she talked about.

 

[Erzengel]

My group makes inappropriate jokes with comic chick all the time and she loves the attention! Very graphic sexual jokes.

I already said I have not been around girls under 30. Whether they talk about sex or not IDK. ANd I dont care about girls under 30 (except comic chick) as they are: unsure of themselves and are really bad in bed.

I am a supportive boyfriend. I do all kinds of things for her.

Actually, you might be correct, I do like to chase, once I bed a woman, I lose interest. Fling is a good example of that. But I am trying to change that with her. I might go see her today as she is at home.

You really don't know too much about women.

 

[Dreadstar]

Lol, you realize my last two ladies were 31 and 37? The 37 year old was kinky as f***. That's all she talked about.

Yes, she talked about sex with YOU because you were dating them at the time. Of course!

I know about woman over 35. Girls under 35 are not my concern EXCEPT comic chick!

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

CLueless when it comes to 20-21 year olds, yes, because I have no interactions with such types nor should I! Women over 30 do not act silly like that and talk about sex with random people. They are more mature. 20 something females are clueless.

No, you're just clueless period.

You make -me- look like I know what im talking about.