Since we're talking about SM1 and ASM, I'll put my two cents in. While I thought certain aspects of ASM improved on the Raimi film, I can't goes as far as to say ASM is drastically better or I enjoyed it more .
I really don't see some drastic difference between the two films. It's not like comparing TDK to B&R.
On a side note though, I do suspect that alot of the "this is so much better than the raimi films" arguement is really aimed at Spiderman 3 more then the first two. Spiderman 3 amplified all of the minor problems from the other two films and left a bad taste in people's mouths. After that, the narrative of that "All Raimi films sucked "began to take hold. However, what people forget is that the reason why Spiderman 3 was rejected was because the first two films were embraced for the most part among the GA.
This. A thousand times, this.
I really dislike the revisionist evaluation of Raimi as someone who never got Spider-Man, or Tobey as completely miscast. From 2002-2007, people LOVED Raimi's movies and thought that Tobey was a great choice. It was after
Spider-Man 3 when everyone who had a gripe with Raimi started becoming way more vocal about it, while all the people who still liked his work didn't speak up as much. That's the way it is with any movie. The ones still talking about something years after tend to be the ones with the biggest axe to grind.
Was Raimi perfect? No. Did his Spider-Man refrain from wisecracks in a lot of action scenes? Yes. But what good reason is there for him to wisecrack if a loved one's life is hanging in the balance, or if he's in a fight to the death with a former friend? That's the majority of fight scenes in Raimi's movies. Wisecracking didn't always fit the circumstances. But it wasn't
completely absent either. Spidey talked smack to the pro wrestler during their match, and there were fun moments like his "Friendly Neighborhood Spider-Man" stuff.
With
Amazing out now, people are seizing on this new thing as proof that Raimi never got it right before...when TASM is practically the same movie as the 2002 version. The camp has been dialed down a notch, and Peter actually confides in Gwen while he mostly pined after MJ from a distance.
In my opinion, where the TASM falls short of the 2002 movie is the portrayal of Peter's growing selfishness in the time leading up to Uncle Ben's death. In TASM, it was more like a few bad choices rather than any serious ego problems or surlyness, which Raimi's movie portrayed far better.
Also, while Gwen talked with Peter more than MJ did, winning her over was not the challenge or accomplishment that winning MJ was. The 2002 movie showed Peter struggling with his shyness, unable to even approach MJ in the beginning. It showed MJ's abuse at the hands of her father, and her relationship with the insensitive jock Flash Thompson. Later she was with Harry, but he chose his daddy issues over her. Peter was that nice guy who liked her and provided her with affection, when she was used to nothing but abuse from everyone else. In TASM, Gwen basically just decides that she likes Peter from the beginning, even as he stuttered in front of her or openly refused to tell her things. I think that Andrew Garfield and Emma Stone had better interaction, but the Tobey/Kirsten romance had more to it beneath the surface.
Basically, I would refrain from holding up either the 2012 or 2002 versions as head and shoulders above the other, since there are pros and cons to both, and they are in many ways the same movie anyway.