The difference is that Walter's intent, however misguided, was and has never been to betray her. It was always to save her, along with Walter Jr, and Holly, from the extreme hardship and financial burden left for them after his death.
Skyler's intent, with her passive aggressive, "I'm going to show you what it's like when your spouse leaves and doesn't tell you where they're going"...
...her coldness as soon as Walt comes home from the hospital from his faked fugue state, including her statement, "Maybe I did it in a fugue state" before she had any reason to doubt him(yes he lied but it stemmed from his desire to be back with his family after being abducted and almost killed)...
...her affair with her boss with her infant daughter lying feet away...
ALL were done with the pure and simple motivation of hurting Walt. There is no other way to spin it.
Yes, it was about hurting Walt. It was about fighting back the only way she knew how. Giving him a taste of his own medicine. Why Walter did what he did is irrelevant when he's constantly breaking the law, hurting people and lying to his family. The road to hell is paved with good intentions and all. If he really cared for his family ABOVE ALL, like he claims to, he would have put aside his damn pride and taken Gretchen and Eliot's money.
I can see by the below part of your post that we at least agree on this much
Point is, yes, Skyler does things to hurt Walt, but I see it as self defense. As the show goes on, she has less and less ways to fight back, so her methods of fighting back HAVE to get more extreme.
You don't tell me where you're going for hours on end? Fine, neither will I.
You're forcing yourself back into the house even after I told you I no longer want you in my life? Fine, but we aren't going to be husband and wife. (Ted)
You've become a murderer and are again forcing yourself back into the house? Fine, but I will do whatever it takes to get the kids out of here.
I think Anna Gunn is a talented actress and she's done a marvelous job of portraying a woman every bit as emotionally damaged and immature as Walter(who won't take charity even if he has to resort to manufacturing and selling drugs) has been shown to be.
I agree with you on almost everything here, except the immature angle. Yes, maybe so in Seasons 1 and 2, but when things got serious, when Skyler realized the full extent of Walt's crimes, she insists on staying as far away from it as she can. Meanwhile, Walt thinks he can just keep on cooking away and everything will be fine and dandy.
I'm also reminded of the scene in ABQ where she first mentions leaving and taking the kids to Hank and Marie's and Walt asks, "If I tell you everything, will you stay?" and despite his offer of honesty she leaves anyway telling him something like, "I'm too scared to know."
How does that work? She's angry at him for lying but won't let him tell her the truth.
Because it's not about Walt suddenly making everything better by coming clean. The damage has been done. She knows that if Walt tells her the truth, there are only two possibilities. Either it's something small that he didn't need to cover up, in which case he's just a lying bastard. Or, it's something huge that he DID need to constantly lie about, in which case she'd rather not know. Either way, this is not the man she married to.
One of my favorite lines in the series is when Skyler tells her lawyer "I didn't marry a criminal" and the lawyer responds "Well, you're married to one now."
Let's not kid ourselves, while she loves her children every bit as much as Walt, her motivation, at least as part of her early responses to Walt's (to her) frustrating and baffling behavior, was to hurt him.
In summation: Walt's motivation - "A Man Provides"
Skyler's motivation - "Hurt Walt, Get Revenge"
I don't think it's about hurting Walt, I think it's about self defense. Yes, those two naturally go together, but she wasn't trying to hurt him just to be a *****, she was doing it to show HIM how he was hurting HER. Maybe that's not the right path to take, but to me it's not only understandable, but also a million times better than anything Walt ever did.
And after she found out about the drug trade, it became all about distancing herself from that life and protecting her kids.
Hence my dislike of the character. Like I said, Anna's a great actress and she's done really well with all this IMHO.
Well, I'll say this. You've presented one of the most resonable anti-Skyler arguments I've read. Though I can't agree with it, I do respect you for having an opinion that isn't just "Skyler SUUUCKS she should just let Walt do what he wants!!1!!". So props, and let's agree to disagree.
Jesus Christ, Marie. I'm sure it'll go down before release, but still. I'm glad I didn't buy any of the individual seasons, now I can at least justify spending $200+ on all of them.