I'm asking out a girl tomorrow. Advice??

[The Apatow Crew]

Have you ever heard the phrase "beggers can't be chosers".

LOL!

 

[Harlekin]

Let's see... girls in clubs?? Let me tell you about a girl I met once in a club. [...] She comes over and says something like "why where you doing the loser sign??" I laugh and say "because you're a loser!". She punches me. Full force. ****ing ***** punched me!!

Really, it's not the woman in this case. It's you. Sure, the punch is a little too much, but that was the exact moment for a great quip/flirt etc.

Another girl I met in a club. [...]
Clubs are horrible places to meet women.

You met with exactly two women and then dismiss the clubs.

Where do I have to meet women?? Nowhere!! I have a fear of women and relationships and nearly every woman I try it on with just justifies my fear even more.

There's a lot of places you can meet women. You're just too afraid. Get over that fear already. And really, how many women have you met!? You've cited like three examples. Getting shot down is part of the game. You don't throw in the towel after three times.

 

[the_ultimate_evil]

Let's see... girls in clubs?? Let me tell you about a girl I met once in a club. So I'm sitting with my friends drinking the music is pretty loud. I notice this girl staring at me, so I stare back. Then I start making funny faces, she makes funny faces back. I do the loser thing, where you make an L shape with your finger and thumb and put it on your forehead. She laughs, does it back. She comes over with a couple of friends and makes idle conversation. When the club comes to closing time and everyone leaves, I'm standing outside. She comes over and says something like "why where you doing the loser sign??" I laugh and say "because you're a loser!". She punches me. Full force. ****ing ***** punched me!!

you give her an answer like that and your surprised you got punched, jesus christ man, wise up. at that point in time it would have been better to say you were just messing around and if she took it the wrong way you were sorry at least that way you may have actully got somewhere with her

 

[lordofthenerds]

The guy who made this thread really needs to change his title, its been over 6 months since he said he'd ask the girl out. Maybe he should retitle it "I might ask an old lady out before I die. Advice?"

 

[kainedamo]

Really, it's not the woman in this case. It's you. Sure, the punch is a little too much, but that was the exact moment for a great quip/flirt etc.

**** her, she was an overly sensitive nutcase. I said it in a jokey way. The idea that men have to behave like clowns just to entertain women they're after is stupid. Why should I? It's hard to explain what I mean... but it's just... I don't like women that expect you to entertain them in order to give you the time of day. Just... ****ing talk to me like a normal person, you know? So much hard work just so a girl thinks your interesting enough to talk to?? That's why it's better to develop a relationship from friendship. With strangers, you have to sell yourself. With strangers, you almost have to pretend to be another person. It's not just that either. Girls are so much harder to initiate conversation with. It's not just my fear... it's true. Even women you have no intention of picking up, they're harder to talk to. On some level, all girls are naturally up themselves. It's because girls ultimately pick guys, and they know that.

You met with exactly two women and then dismiss the clubs.

No. Those are just two stories of a fair amount of bad experiences with girls in clubs. At best, you're embarrisingly turned down. At worst, you end up with a girl that's totally wrong for you.

There's a lot of places you can meet women. You're just too afraid. Get over that fear already. And really, how many women have you met!? You've cited like three examples. Getting shot down is part of the game. You don't throw in the towel after three times.

It's been more than three times. Enough that I just don't think clubs are worth my time at all.

 

[kainedamo]

you give her an answer like that and your surprised you got punched, jesus christ man, wise up. at that point in time it would have been better to say you were just messing around and if she took it the wrong way you were sorry at least that way you may have actully got somewhere with her

She over-reacted to a situation where it was completely obvious I was joking around. She was one of two things. Nuts, or drunk. It was her fault that she punched me, and I didn't do a thing to bring it on to myself. Anyone with common sense can see that. The only thing I could have done differently was realise she was serious when she was asking me why I did the loser sign to her. Seriously, the girl needed a sense of humor. The situation wasn't my fault.

 

[Harlekin]

You know, I'm mostly interested in what you did after she punched you? Where did she punch you, and did she seem genuinely angry when she did so?

 

[ShadowBoxing]

I am going to be blunt with you. You aren't in the position to be turning down any advances right now from any woman. You are not a "hot comody" kd. In fact you are quiet the opposite. Your problem is not just that you put women you like on a pedestal, but you also are extremely rude and dismissive to women you "don't like". The fact is you don't know what you like because you have never had any, at least not enough of any.

Just talk to them, seriously that is all they want you to do.

 

[kainedamo]

You know, I'm mostly interested in what you did after she punched you? Where did she punch you, and did she seem genuinely angry when she did so?

She punched me in my right temple. I'm not sure if it was FULL force but it was definately meant to hurt. Didn't hurt that much.

My reaction. I stood there for a second, and walked away. LOL! It was kind of surreal really. When I went back to my friends, as we were standing around talking I saw that she was staring at me again, talking to some guy and pointing at me!!! What the ****?? Was she trying to convince him to hurt me or something?? The girl was nuts!

 

[Harlekin]

Ah, okay, then it least you know it was intended to hurt. If she had hit you anywhere, except the head or the nuts, I would've dismissed it as her being drunk/trying to be funny.

 

[kainedamo]

No, she was just a nut. Don't know what her problem was. I mean, she was making faces back and laughing and stuff. Who takes that kind of thing seriously??

 

[Darthphere]

Drunk people.

 

[Erzengel]

Maybe she was a lil intoxicated? Maybe she was just being goofy. Maybe you need to loosen up more.

 

[kainedamo]

LOL! What?? Exactly how loosened up do you have to be to take a punch in the face from a nutcase girl?

 

[JLBats]

Maybe kainedamo is destined to never reproduce. Maybe he just takes the whole dating thing too seriously. "I MUST PAIR UP WITH SOMEONE! IT IS A SOCIAL REQUIREMENT, LOL?!"

 

[Sabretooth]

....Or you sounded like a little prick. I'll bet a million dollars that you blew her off,not ''kinda joked when I said that''

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Maybe kainedamo is destined to never reproduce. Maybe he just takes the whole dating thing too seriously. "I MUST PAIR UP WITH SOMEONE! IT IS A SOCIAL REQUIREMENT, LOL?!"

Maybe he is an alien that must mate every seven years?

 

[Erzengel]

LOL! What?? Exactly how loosened up do you have to be to take a punch in the face from a nutcase girl?

She punched you because you called her a loser? Because obviously you had no problem kissing her but you did talking to her afterwards?

 

[Sabretooth]

Isn't it just grand when people think they'll get honest advice? Especially from some of the people in the Community forum?

 

[kainedamo]

....Or you sounded like a little prick. I'll bet a million dollars that you blew her off,not ''kinda joked when I said that''

... How else is a NORMAL person going to take it?!? I'm making stupid faces, she makes some back, I do the loser sign, she does it back, good laughs all around. What kind of moron takes that seriously?? You people freak me out sometimes, the things you'll defend. You weren't even there. I totally said to her "you're a loser" in a jokey way, she had no reason to take me seriously. I mean seriously. Can't you just take my word for it?? She was just a nut!! Or drunk!!

She punched you because you called her a loser? Because obviously you had no problem kissing her but you did talking to her afterwards?

I never kissed her.

 

[Erzengel]

Ugh, then maybe I will read about what youy actually wrote later.

 

[Deathlok2001]

No, that sucks balls. That sucks big balls. But she wants a man that's confident and says how he feels, a man that's passionate. That's what she told me.

1st mistake, women never , ever say what they mean. That **** she is telling you is what her ideal is... but once her emotions get involved, all that changes...... and being friends with a female is the kiss of death! YOUR her male girlfriend. The one she gets to tell all her feelings to & how her bf is treating her like crap but sje thinks if she really loves him she can change him --->> LMFAO .....

let me ask you this, how old are you?


When Harry met Sally:

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Sally: We are just going to be friends, OK?
Harry: Great, friends. It's the best thing...You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that men and women can't be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail them, too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there, so the friendship is ultimately doomed, and that is the end of the story. [/FONT]

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[JLBats]

... How else is a NORMAL person going to take it?!? I'm making stupid faces, she makes some back, I do the loser sign, she does it back, good laughs all around. What kind of moron takes that seriously?? You people freak me out sometimes, the things you'll defend. You weren't even there. I totally said to her "you're a loser" in a jokey way, she had no reason to take me seriously. I mean seriously. Can't you just take my word for it?? She was just a nut!! Or drunk!!

You should've said "Because I love you. Now take me. Right here. On the floor."

 

[JLBats]

And Deathlok knows about these things, because he is a woman.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

... How else is a NORMAL person going to take it?!? I'm making stupid faces, she makes some back, I do the loser sign, she does it back, good laughs all around. What kind of moron takes that seriously?? You people freak me out sometimes, the things you'll defend. You weren't even there. I totally said to her "you're a loser" in a jokey way, she had no reason to take me seriously. I mean seriously. Can't you just take my word for it?? She was just a nut!! Or drunk!!



I never kissed her.

I am just gonna throw this one out there for kicks. Maybe you shouldn't call women "losers".