Saying over and over (and over and over and over) again that Kylo is a "neo-nazi school shooter" doesn't make it true. And the implication of repeating that when Reylos exist and the Ben/Rey pairing is the most popular in the ST is disturbing to say the least. You really have a knack for making women feel ashamed for the content they consume. How woke
I think you need to take a step back and evaluate what your words really mean. You're over-doing it with these essay posts about how sexist the ST is without realizing that you're judging those that ship two characters by repeatedly comparing one of them to a Nazi and those people are mostly women. It screams misogyny.
This is a long article, but it explains what I'm saying above.
Okay.
I know there are some arguments and points that I can’t make myself in response, and I can’t just use anecdotes about female fans with a different perspective from you, so I‘m going to try to debate back without looking to insult you at all (and if I do, tell me so, please) or to make sweeping abolished statements about the Reylo fanbase (something that I know I’ve done on other boards, and can’t do in this situation)...
...But I am going to try and dispute some of your points.
First, to explain why I do think that it can be accurate to label Reylo as an abusive and toxic relationship, but not t9 rely on myself, a straight white guy as the authority here... I present two articles:
First, an article critical of the TROS’s take on the pairing and assessing it as glorifying abuse from a female fan on a fan site -
Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker Glorifies Abuse and Assault Against Women. Second, the published-in-Star-Wars-Insider-193 article “Resistance Reborn” by Tricia Barr, which likewise identifies TLJ’s story of being one of an abusive manipulation.
Those are two women who share my opinion that the film version of the paring is toxic and abusive - I have no authority to really stand there and argue it in the way they can as women.
Onwards...
Yes, Anti-Reylo fans can be misogynistic, as can regular Reylo fans. And both are almost certainly made up of people who aren’t. Morons who digitally harass and bully people over their fandom are bad in the same way that jack@$$es who taunted Boyega and Tran are. Bigotry is not directly tied to any specific fandom save for the most deprived and obvious material.
I can’t judge the political opinions, personal believes, or moral standards of someone who’s a Reylo fan - not only would that be unethical, but it also wouldn’t make any damn sense: people are fans of Darth Vader, Palpatine, Lex Luthor, and literally almost any other successful villain or “heel-turned” vigilante, and yet almost none of them actually respect or believe any bit of their creeds are actually accurate or moral.
They’re villains, and they’re fun to be fans of as villains. Being a fan does not equal idolizing the villain.
I would be shocked to meet an actual female Reylo fan in real life who was as misogynistic as I and others feel the pairing is. If I did make such a judgement, that would be a failure on me. And as an abstract idea of just “Rey + Kylo = Love!” ‘ship, I can’t very well judge it, because that’s not on screen, is it?
...But that doesn’t mean I can’t have an opinion about the relationship
on film, or how how shallow or deep a taste for the
on film version may be in order to like it, does it?
Like, Kylo as a character was objectively portrayed as a murderer of his fellow students by Rian Johnson in TLJ; Charles Soule coming in years later to try and retcon and soften that moment up in comics has little to do with the film that 95% of the movie audience has seen or will see.
The First Order, like the Empire, are explicitly tied to Nazi’s in design, ethos, and as inspirations, with the FO having a “resurgent fascism” and “radicalized youth” factor as per most LFL sources. Kylo is a part of the FO.
Understand: I
do choose to use the real-world parallels as an argumentative device while knowing how proactive they can be. And I
do mean to be provactive when using them - they’re part of the “pathos” element of my argument, along with “logos” and “ethos.” A
controlled tyoe of Poe a five, mind you; I do now want to be needling people just for the purpose of needling people - a “pathos” argumentative tactic is only ethical when used with logic and when sincerely meant for persuasion.
And I am aware that there are clearly misogynists in the Anti-Reylo camp, and while I believe there are also certainly some misogynists in the Reylo camp too (as I’ve read a few too many ugly postings by male Reylo fans elsewhere, and I’ll confess if a guy who’s a fan of the paring then reveals they support Trump...well, there I’m
not shocked)....
...I don’t think criticizing the Reylo pairing the way I do is
inherently misogynistic, and I do want to try avoiding misogynistic myself in the argument... and thus far, I don’t think I’ve crossed that line.