How do you react when something like this happens?

[EdRyder]

Whats to know? She spills the beans as soon as she says "Im just confused".That and her actions sum it all up.She wanted you to wait while she figured out who she wanted to be with.End of story.I see no reason why you would actually need her to come out and say it directly when you already know.

 

[DV8]

goddammit!!! my response to Mask didn't post . . . what a ripoff

in short: good shyt, man!!! I guess I can't add much more than what jag and erz and darth pretty much said already anyway . . .

 

[kane9321]

kill that biotch.

I swear, sometimes girls make me sick

 

[Darthphere]

Whats to know? She spills the beans as soon as she says "Im just confused".That and her actions sum it all up.She wanted you to wait while she figured out who she wanted to be with.End of story.I see no reason why you would actually need her to come out and say it directly when you already know.

For closure reasons. I mean, he knows, he knows he knows, but her not actually admitting anything is going to leave that little nugget of doubt on him.

 

[Speedin Bullet]

And if you have slept together since the ex has been back in the picture, you should go ahead and get tested just in case. You never know what that slimball has.

 

[Erzengel]

He only needs closure if he wants it.

I mean just because he's only 99.99% sure he shouldn't try and get more resolution.

"I miss you and I hate it here." speaks volumes for her.

 

[Darthphere]

And if you have slept together since the ex has been back in the picture, you should go ahead and get tested just in case. You never know what that slimball has.

That was the surprise.

 

[Figs]

I'm proud of you The Mask!

You did the right thing, it sucks hearing stories about guys/girls who get taken advantage of and don't break up with their significant other because they either think they can't do better or just don't have the backbone.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Agreed. Closure is very significant. Satisfaction in kicking her out like that, but no diect confrontation, no resolving the conflict. I think those two things ought to happen. I don't know, I'm not a relationship expert, or an expert on life. But hopefully a second meeting between the two of you can be more composed, as hard as that will be. And, also, hopefully long-lasting grudges or anger won't be a part of this, and there can be big chance for forgiveness in the end of it all.

But one way or another I hope you'll be taking good care of yourself, without too much stress on the side. The emotional distress immediately after a break-up is devastating, but, feelings pass and fade, and most of the time we under-estimate our coping abilities. But I think you already know that.

Best of things to you.

What confrontation of conflict resolution is needed though? She's been cheating on him, maybe she didn't say it in those exact words, but the writings been on the wall for awhile. Her flipping out so much about the PI speaks volumes. Their doesn't need to be a second meeting and he shouldn't forgive her, she cheating on him and lied constantly about it. Relationship is over, she picks up her stuff and the two don't need to see each other again. He doesn't need to hear this guy write and sing a song like in Eurotrip "The Mask Doesn't Know"

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Damn, sucks you had to read her text messages to find the truth.

 

[Erzengel]

When did it turn from a "close friend" to a PI?

 

[Remy LeBeau X3]

very glad to hear you ended that Mask! you'll find better of course. plenty of ladies out here looking. just look at it as a learning experience. you've gained a lot of insight on the types of women out there, and now you're just another step closer to finding the girl to settle down with.

 

[The Mask]

When did it turn from a "close friend" to a PI?

Sometimes a little creative BS-ing can work wonders to uncover the truth. I guess, there's a lawyer in me somewhere.

 

[The Mask]

Thank you all for your kind support in this trying hour. Appreciate all your help, and I hope I'll find you all in the days to come.

 

[Erzengel]

I agree with packing up her stuff for her and leaving it outside.

 

[SuBe]

I'm guessing he didn't take all of my advice. You know, the BJ part.

Bummer...

But, good for you anyways.

 

[M.E.H.Z.E.B]

I'm guessing he didn't take all of my advice. You know, the BJ part.

Bummer...

But, good for you anyways.

Yeah, I was kinda disappointed about that too.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

I've done what was needed. It's all over. Last night, I asked her to come over to my place. She was being really nice to me (out of the blue!) and kept referring to me as, "sweety", and "honey", words which she had never used before. I sat her down, and asked her what she was doing in Florida, and why she couldn't give a straight answer. The best she came up with was, "I didn't want you to worry." I didn't buy it for a second. I needed to know what was going on, so, when she was in the bathroom, I took a hold of her cell and viewed her text messages. It was filled with her Ex's messages, and their various conversations. From what I could gather, he was going to fly back during the weekend, and they'd meet.

I found a message from her which said, "I miss you so much. I wish I could fly back right now. I hate where I am."

I put down the cell, and waited for her to come back. When she did, I calmly told her that I'd hired a P.I in Florida, and he had reported to me about her whereabouts. Her expression changed, and she yelled at me for being a jackass, and for not trusting her or respecting her privacy. She said I was slime, and my filthy mind needed scrubbing, and whatnot.

I told her that if she felt that strongly about it, she could just get the hell out. She spilt a strand of guilt tears, and then said, "I can't make it without you."

I laughed. Told her to call the movers, and to get her stuff out of my apartment. She wouldn't leave. Just stood there with tear-filled eyes, and said, "I'm just confused. Don't punish me for not knowing what to do. Please. I need you to survive."

"But you need Z to have fun, and enjoy your mundane life, is that it? Get out. I've had enough of you. "

She left, rather abruptly at that point. On her way out she called me a lot of things I can't say here without the censors going off.

I sat down at the couch, opened a chilled soda, and gulped it down as fast as I could. Then, ran across the room, and puked dramatically into the toilet. Couldn't sleep a minute last night.

But I guess better days are ahead.

good job, she's a selfish wench... looking out for herself rather then caring for you

 

[Superman4ever]

Well Mask I'm happy you finished it. Good for you.

 

[DV8]

Sometimes a little creative BS-ing can work wonders to uncover the truth. I guess, there's a lawyer in me somewhere.

yeah . . . I guess you didn't wanna 'out' the friend . . . you should have told her you hired Ace Ventura: Pet Detective to hunt her down cuz she's a no-good b1tch!

 

[Arkady Rossovich]

Thoughts?

That's really sad. If I was you,I would actually go down there myself and sit her down..and tell her how I felt. But in your situation..I doubt you could. Wait until she comes back,sit her down..and tell her everything on your mind.

 

[The Mask]

I thought that doing the right thing would actually make me feel better. But sadly enough, I just find myself so lonely. I have the misguided urge to just pick up the phone, and just call her. But I know better. Yet, some part of me misses her. Then, the thoughts of what she did to me come rushing back, and I'm overwhelmed to such an extent that I can't help but lie on back and stare at the ceiling sighing over and over again. How stupid could I be? The way to recovery is in the cards, but I never contemplated that it could be so difficult. It just tears me apart. I'm being rude to anyone who says even the slightest aberrant thing. I'm getting buried in depression. Shaking, coz I'm cold. Constantly flinching because of a splitting headache.

I've got my world back, but in the process I've lost my sanity.

 

[spike spiegel]

I thought that doing the right thing would actually make me feel better. But sadly enough, I just find myself so lonely. I have the misguided urge to just pick up the phone, and just call her. But I know better. Yet, some part of me misses her. Then, the thoughts of what she did to me come rushing back, and I'm overwhelmed to such an extent that I can't help but lie on back and stare at the ceiling sighing over and over again. How stupid could I be? The way to recovery is in the cards, but I never contemplated that it could be so difficult. It just tears me apart. I'm being rude to anyone who says even the slightest aberrant thing. I'm getting buried in depression. Shaking, coz I'm cold. Constantly flinching because of a splitting headache.

I've got my world back, but in the process I've lost my sanity.

Would you ever take her back if she came clean and cleared out her head? And if she comes out of her phase? Or do you not see her seperating herself from her ex...

 

[The Mask]

Would you ever take her back if she came clean and cleared out her head? And if she comes out of her phase? Or do you not see her seperating herself from her ex...

I don't think she's separating herself from her ex. She's always said that he was a part of her life, and always will be, coz he stayed with her in the worst of times, and that now she can't help but keep in touch with him, as he is her only link to her past.

 

[Erzengel]

That's the biggest bunch of bullsh't.

An ex is an ex for a reason, yes some couples are able to go back but if you want to move on you cut those strings.

Ugh.