I just saw a mother tell her 1 year old to "shut the **** up"

[Hotwire]

How is using profanity hurting them emotionally?

When I was growing up, I got spankings, I even got the belt a time or two. However, the one thing that stands out more than any other is the one and only time I heard my father use the f-word. I was messing with something on a flea market table and broke it. I think I was around 15 at the time. BUt, my father took it from me, looked me in the eye, and said, "I guess you ****ed that up, huh?" That hurt me more than and whooping I'd ever received. See, in our everyday language, we use expletives to add emphasis to our statements. "Shut the "f" up," carries more weight than a simple, "Shut up."

 

[JayCaz]

I once saw a Mother pushing a pram in Kirkby, quite a rough part of Liverpool (the Mum herself must have been no older than 20 I'd say) with a little newborn in the pram and a toddler holding onto the side of the pram. The toddler drops something onto the floor and the Mother screeches "Pick that up you f**kin' RAT!" - to a 3 year old kid.

I turned to my mate and said "and THAT is what's wrong with society today" - and it takes alot for me to say something like that.

 

[The Shadow]

We have a family of loud-mouthed neighboors next door who always curse really loud to the point where we can here it very clearly in our house. Anyways, the thing is, the kids will curse and the mom will tell them to watch their @#!$%!! mouths. I'm just sittin' their laughing and thinkin' that'll teach em'. People are stupid.

 

[jaguarr]

jag

 

[the_ultimate_evil]

So most people in this thread are appalled when parents get violent or curse at their kids, but just stand there and do nothing? How about approaching the parent and saying something like, "Hey, I can see you're stressed but that isn't really the appropriate way to handle thing." Scare the beegeezuz out of them. It's parents like that who should be afraid social services is coming for their ass.

yeah and 10/10 you'll get a not so polite **** off

 

[knowsbleed]

I beat my kids with chainsaws. They love it.

 

[C.F. Kane]

Ummm i doubt it can remember what it was doing yesterday let alone his mother swearing at him when he was one.....

Complete departure from the thread but...

What the hell is your avatar from?

 

[hammy]

yeah and 10/10 you'll get a not so polite **** off

Meh. I'd rather have them take it out on me than a little kid. And who knows, maybe the fact that someone questioned them will make them think.

 

[BlackLantern]

Words can cause serious damage....my stepfather both verbally and physically abused me....and I don't even have any malice towards him...I direct it all at my mother because she allowed it to happen...

 

[rizzo51]

I saw my brother at Walmart a while back with his two kids (2yr and 4yrs), the little girl, the 4 yr old was trying to run off and not staying by the cart and my brother was yelling trying to get her to back to the cart without leaving the 2 yr old unatteded, it was a nightmare lol. So i snuck up behind the 4yr old and GRABBED her and pulled her behind a rack of clothes. She freaked out and i turned her around and told her that thats why you need to stay with your daddy in the store cuz someone might try to take her. Talk about scared straight. She hasnt run off since. And no cussing or hitting needed.

 

[jaguarr]

I saw my brother at Walmart a while back with his two kids (2yr and 4yrs), the little girl, the 4 yr old was trying to run off and not staying by the cart and my brother was yelling trying to get her to back to the cart without leaving the 2 yr old unatteded, it was a nightmare lol. So i snuck up behind the 4yr old and GRABBED her and pulled her behind a rack of clothes. She freaked out and i turned her around and told her that thats why you need to stay with your daddy in the store cuz someone might try to take her. Talk about scared straight. She hasnt run off since. And no cussing or hitting needed.

I'm TOTALLY going to have my brother or one of my friends do that to my son when he's about that age.

jag

 

[Badger]

knowsbleed's avvy is genius!! That is all.

 

[knowsbleed]

Thanks. If you were my kid Badger... I'd gladly beat you physically and emotionally.

 

[Badger]

Awesome, we could pretend.

I like the broomstick idea.

 

[knowsbleed]

I like the selling my kids on eBay idea...

... oh, that's not in this thread.

 

[the_ultimate_evil]

Meh. I'd rather have them take it out on me than a little kid. And who knows, maybe the fact that someone questioned them will make them think.

i doubt it would, i don't condone child abuse of any kind, and was rarely smacked growing but knew my boundary's and yes in my 25 years horrors of horrors i was shouted at and sometimes that involved using curse words.


and i am not some emotional wreck with mental problems, it is getting to the stage no that people can't say or do anything, without some called expert stepping in and spouting a load of crap about how your going to hurt peoples feeling or repress they're emotions. hell there was a story here in northern ireland that parents were quizzed and had there children taken off them by social servies cause the dad beat the 8 year old at a playstation game. WTF

 

[jaguarr]

i doubt it would, i don't condone child abuse of any kind, and was rarely smacked growing but knew my boundary's and yes in my 25 years horrors of horrors i was shouted at and sometimes that involved using curse words.


and i am not some emotional wreck with mental problems, it is getting to the stage no that people can't say or do anything, without some so called expert stepping in and spouting a load of crap about how your going to hurt peoples feeling or repress they're emotions. hell there was a story here in northern ireland that parents were quizzed and had there children taken off them by social servies cause the dad beat the 8 year old at a playstation game. WTF

I've noticed that most of these "so called experts" don't have children themselves, which is interesting to me.

jag

 

[the_ultimate_evil]

I've noticed that most of these "so called experts" don't have children themselves, which is interesting to me.

jag

an excellent point jag

 

[jaguarr]

an excellent point jag

I'm not defending the mother Terry saw swearing at her kid in any way, shape or form. She was clearly engaged in some bad parenting at that very moment (whether she's consistently like that with her kids or just sort of lost it in a moment of frustration, which anyone with kids knows is difficult to avoid though some folks obviously handle it better than others, is anyone's guess). However, there seems to be a whole lot of people who seem to think they know exactly how other people's children should be raised, even though they don't have any kids of their own. This wasn't something I really understood completely until I became a father, personally, and I'm not very far into that myself and far from an expert. What I CAN tell you is that parenting is hard work. Half the time you have no idea what you are doing, and kids can and will "push your buttons" over time, whether intentionally or not. You're sleep deprived, overrun with friends and family and have no alone time, and you have every damn person in the world chiming in with all of their sage advice on how to raise kids, and it comes from friends, family AND complete strangers (many of which...guess what....don't have kids). Every kid is different and needs attention, teaching and boundaries set for them on a custom level. Parenting inherently comes with making mistakes. A lot of them. No parent is infallible and I can only roll my eyes at people who get on their high horse and preach about what parents should or shouldn't do with their kids, and if they don't have kids of their own then their opinion is immediately null and void as far as I'm concerned. Until you've worn the shoes and walked that path, you are not qualified as a guide. It's the parents that strive to rise above their own tiredness and frustration, learn from their mistakes and ultimately do whatever they can to give their kids every advantage and instill strong morals, a good education and give them a lot of love that garner my respect.

jag

 

[knowsbleed]

My kids know when I'm not joking in public places. One look from me... and its over. You've GOT to get the look down. Once you have the look... you're golden.

I've got the look down so good... I can do it via Skype and they are powerless.

 

[BlackLantern]

I remember watching some talk show about couples that chose to have children and those that don't....the couple with kids had 4 of them and were definitely a bit overwhelmed while the couple with no children had 2 new cars, a boat, and had just purchased a summer home....and both couples were the same age...

The tone of the show seemed to go against the couple who chose not to have children though, as if they were doing something bad...it was interesting

 

[the_ultimate_evil]

My kids know when I'm not joking in public places. One look from me... and its over. You've GOT to get the look down. Once you have the look... you're golden.

I've got the look down so good... I can do it via Skype and they are powerless.

yep i'm 25 and the look from my dad still makes me think ahhh bollacks i'm screwed

that and being called by your full namet:

 

[jaguarr]

My kids know when I'm not joking in public places. One look from me... and its over. You've GOT to get the look down. Once you have the look... you're golden.

I've got the look down so good... I can do it via Skype and they are powerless.

Haha! "The Look"...long distance.

jag

 

[jaguarr]

I remember watching some talk show about couples that chose to have children and those that don't....the couple with kids had 4 of them and were definitely a bit overwhelmed while the couple with no children had 2 new cars, a boat, and had just purchased a summer home....and both couples were the same age...

The tone of the show seemed to go against the couple who chose not to have children though, as if they were doing something bad...it was interesting

I honestly don't know why people would want more than one or two kids in this day and age. It's not like it was during the Great Depression where everyone had a bunch of kids to work the family farm. Religion is one of the main factors in driving people to have a lot of kids, I know. My brother-in-law has four of them and my brother has three and they're just constantly wiped out, driving all the kids to various activities all the time, trying to keep track of them, and spending an incredible amount of money on food, clothes and other things kids need. They're both great father's, but they honestly aren't really able to give any one kid any sort of real attention because there are so many others wanting attention as well. My wife and I were told we'd NEVER be able to even have kids, and all we ever wanted was one, which we were very lucky to be able to have despite the "experts" telling us we'd never be able to do it (I sent the b1tch doctor at the fertility clinic who wanted to do in vitro, egg donors and all kinds of other things with us, with a 15% chance they'd even work, a photo of our son and a nice note about how she was so incredibly wrong it's mind-boggling).

jag

 

[Superman4ever]

I saw my brother at Walmart a while back with his two kids (2yr and 4yrs), the little girl, the 4 yr old was trying to run off and not staying by the cart and my brother was yelling trying to get her to back to the cart without leaving the 2 yr old unatteded, it was a nightmare lol. So i snuck up behind the 4yr old and GRABBED her and pulled her behind a rack of clothes. She freaked out and i turned her around and told her that thats why you need to stay with your daddy in the store cuz someone might try to take her. Talk about scared straight. She hasnt run off since. And no cussing or hitting needed.

LMFAO!