*Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[uchiha_itachi]

Do you always need to be told? You know if someone asked me to go out after work, for drinks. That's all I would think it was drinks, not a date. I think some people don't want to use the word "date" when talking to women because maybe they think if they go out as friends firsts, you are just going to WOW them on the first outing.

If you want to go out with someone, make it clear it's a date.

yeah but i made it clear i was asking her out for a date? and she knew it was a date cos she went off and said " Jonni just asked me out"

i dont need to be told, of course not. but if someone asks somone out and its clear your doing it as a date thing then it would be nice to know. thats all im saying.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

Mistress Gluon blinked twice in my direction. That means she wants my babies. :heart:

lol Here's my number.

 

[enterthemadness]

Did you put that in your profile?

What profile? I'm tired, you amke no sense to me now, b bybyesbybbbyesbyes

 

[uchiha_itachi]

I think you and I might have been beaten with the same bad luck stick at birth. The very reason I never ask girls out is because when I do, **** like what happened to you and I happens like clockwork.

same for me. every girl i like has a bf. its just a typical thing to happen to me.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

yeah but i made it clear i was asking her out for a date? and she knew it was a date cos she went off and said " Jonni just asked me out"

i dont need to be told, of course not. but if someone asks somone out and its clear your doing it as a date thing then it would be nice to know. thats all im saying.

Exactly, word for word, what did you ask her?

 

[Erzengel]

yeah but i made it clear i was asking her out for a date? and she knew it was a date cos she went off and said " Jonni just asked me out"

i dont need to be told, of course not. but if someone asks somone out and its clear your doing it as a date thing then it would be nice to know. thats all im saying.

In terms of your co-worker, was she "dating" the boss or was she just "effing" him?

I mean if she is in a not in an exclusive relationship, who says that accepting a date from you would mean she couldn't see 2 people at the same time?

 

[enterthemadness]

In terms of your co-worker, was she "dating" the boss or was she just "effing" him?

I mean if she is in a not in an exclusive relationship, who says that accepting a date from you would mean she couldn't see 2 people at the same time?

Before I go...I just have to share my thought with this.

f-buddies with the Boss.

Just think about that...just think...you are going out with a girl..who is doing sex acts on the boss...I don't think the STD risk is worth it. Or the pay raise.

 

[Erzengel]

What profile? I'm tired, you amke no sense to me now, b bybyesbybbbyesbyes

You said you did some sort of dating website.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

Well yeah, I think it's because you guys are too subtle. Asking a girl for contact info, unless you're doing it completely out of the blue on the street right when you see a woman, is not by itself a "I want to date you" sign. And unless she makes it totally clear she's interested in you too, and remember, some girls will flirt just for the fun of it as well. The nice flirty but non-interested ones (like my friend) will try and read you to make sure they're not leading you on, but I guess some guys are just clueless in that regard...

I think it's best just to take things slowly and think of that first contact as just that, first contact. And a first date as just getting to know the girl, at least until you have more experience reading women and their intentions. But lowering your expectations can help with the feelings of disappointment later on, is what I mean.

I agree. I mean, I probably misinterpreted how she acted/spoke with me as more flirtatious than it was supposed to be (if at all). As I said before, I don't really date much, so I probably just associate giving someone's number as, "Hey, let's go out sometime," unless it's on a situation like, with people on my sports team, or band, or something similar.

Some guys think any flirting = I'm soooo totally interested in you, and want to date, that giving my number = call me, we're bf/gf nao. And don't take it as some flirting = friendliness and fun, giving my number = hey, you're pretty fun, we can be friends.

And then I get b*****d at for leading him on somehow.

Well, I don't think I went that far with it. My biggest issue was that she ignored me when I asked (despite giving me her number), instead of being straight up with me. It was more of how it played out that annoyed me.

 

[enterthemadness]

You said you did some sort of dating website.

Ah, Zoosk. Yes.

I put something like...I dunno. Currently looking for a job, couldn't go to Film School, want to go to Community spring 2010, etc?

It's pointless cause I need to do surveys or pay them so much so I can have so many coins to unlock the e-mail part of the site. Only good feature is the fact I can control the search factor. Unlike e-harmoney, I can actual find women in my area and contact them.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

I agree. I mean, I probably misinterpreted how she acted/spoke with me as more flirtatious than it was supposed to be (if at all). As I said before, I don't really date much, so I probably just associate giving someone's number as, "Hey, let's go out sometime," unless it's on a situation like, with people on my sports team, or band, or something similar.



Well, I don't think I went that far with it. My biggest issue was that she ignored me when I asked (despite giving me her number), instead of being straight up with me. It was more of how it played out that annoyed me.

Ahhhh, I see. She probably would've liked you as a friend, but saw you were romantically interested. Probably she brushed the question aside, trying to instead instill a friendship over a possible new love interest.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

The "friend zone". The scourge of all mankind. Everyone has been within it's grasp.

I beat the "friend zone" though, so har har hardy ****ing har!!!

 

[Erzengel]

Plus, do you really want women to be THAT honest with you? I mean at most what you are waisting a night or several text messages or a couple of phone calls before you realize hey she's not interested?

I think for the most part men and women don't want to be that forthcoming because they want to spare someone's feelings.

Long story short, dating isn't easy. I know most people don't think that opportunity just drops in your lap, but dating is a job. And not the good types of jobs but those can come later.

 

[katie_girl09]

I once put a profile on e-Harmony as a joke. I know, that was so mean of me.

Well, I don't think I went that far with it. My biggest issue was that she ignored me when I asked (despite giving me her number), instead of being straight up with me. It was more of how it played out that annoyed me.

No. Your biggest issue is that you couldn't hit it. But that's okay, it happens to the best of you guys anyway.

 

[uchiha_itachi]

In terms of your co-worker, was she "dating" the boss or was she just "effing" him?

I mean if she is in a not in an exclusive relationship, who says that accepting a date from you would mean she couldn't see 2 people at the same time?

she was fully going out with him. she was a ***** though, i dont like her at all anymore. im happy shes left. i quickly realised she knows shes hot and uses it on guys to get things.

 

[uchiha_itachi]

Exactly, word for word, what did you ask her?

I have no idea it was like a year and a half ago? its hounestly the last thing on my mind. im over it lol

i probably said " can i take you out to see a movie or somthing?"

and for future reference cos i must clearly do somthing wrong, if i want to make it clear its a date im askin for what should i say?

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

The "friend zone". The scourge of all mankind. Everyone has been within it's grasp.

I beat the "friend zone" though, so har har hardy ****ing har!!!

I like choosing my next victim potential significant other out of friend zone, actually.

she was fully going out with him. she was a ***** though, i dont like her at all anymore. im happy shes left. i quickly realised she knows shes hot and uses it on guys to get things.

Hahahaha, you totally -were- talking about me after all.

j/k

 

[Erzengel]

she was fully going out with him. she was a ***** though, i dont like her at all anymore. im happy shes left. i quickly realised she knows shes hot and uses it on guys to get things.

There are always exceptions and there are both men and women who use their looks to get what they want.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

I have no idea it was like a year and a half ago? its hounestly the last thing on my mind. im over it lol

i probably said " can i take you out to see a movie or somthing?"

and for future reference cos i must clearly do somthing wrong, if i want to make it clear its a date im askin for what should i say?

Ask her, "If you're not seeing anybody else, may I take you out to see a movie or something?"

 

[Cunning Stunts]

Ahhhh, I see. She probably would've liked you as a friend, but saw you were romantically interested. Probably she brushed the question aside, trying to instead instill a friendship over a possible new love interest.

Yeah, that's what I thought at first. Now she doesn't even look at me when I'm giving speeches. Don't get me wrong, I'm not pursuing anything anymore, just felt like *****ing about it.

Plus, do you really want women to be THAT honest with you? I mean at most what you are waiting a night or several text messages or a couple of phone calls before you realize hey she's not interested?

I think for the most post men and women don't want to be that forthcoming because they want to spare someone's feelings.

Long story short, dating isn't easy. I know most people don't think that opportunity just drops in your lap, but dating is a job. And not the good types of jobs but those can come later.

Yes, I'd rather her be that honest with me. And for the record, I sent two texts asking about it. Over the span of like, three days.

I once put a profile on e-Harmony as a joke. I know, that was so mean of me.

No. Your biggest issue is that you couldn't hit it. But that's okay, it happens to the best of you guys anyway.

Contrary to popular belief (and my username), I'm not the type to "hook up", nor bang after dating a girl for a week.

 

[Nightmare]

Some guys think any flirting = I'm soooo totally interested in you, and want to date, that giving my number = call me, we're bf/gf nao. And don't take it as some flirting = friendliness and fun, giving my number = hey, you're pretty fun, we can be friends.

And then I get b*****d at for leading him on somehow.

hahahaha

 

[katie_girl09]

I like choosing my next victim potential significant other out of friend zone, actually.

I thought most women did that anyway.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

I like choosing my next victim potential significant other out of friend zone, actually.

See, there's the Friend Zone, and then there's the "Friend Zone", the latter being a convenient and ******** excuse to not date someone. The latter excuse was pulled on me when I'd asked out a girl I'd known two weeks. I got, "You're like a brother to me!" (which I don't think happens after eating lunch at the same table a couple of times).

We got to know each other better over that following summer, became best friends... And, ironically enough, dated. BEAT THAT, FRIEND ZONE!

Hahahaha, you totally -were- talking about me after all.

j/k

Uh, wasn't I the guy originally "talking about you"?

 

[Erzengel]

Yes, I'd rather her be that honest with me. And for the record, I sent two texts asking about it. Over the span of like, three days.

Regardless of what you rather her do. In the end, people for the most part don't want to go around hurting other people's feelings and if they can get by, by something non-confrontational, they are going to choose the easier route.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

I thought most women did that anyway.

No, the population would be a lot smaller.

Wait, wait. Ummm.. yeah.