*Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[BillyZaned]

Thanks I really appreciate all the feedback and I will follow all the advice. BZ I guess its my past relationships have been horrible, mom is going through chemo, uncles condition is getting worse he had ten surgeries in his stomach, a fathe whose too hard on me. But I wont be an emo about it, it's hard yes but im happy for the most part I mean how could I not life improves.

then you know what I would do... tell her that... tell her "I really like you, your a great girl, but I have ..... (your situation).... going on right now... so, in short, I agree with you... I'm not ready for a relationship but, I really want to be your friend. Your cool to hang out with and everything, so, no pressure"

 

[BillyZaned]

SHH server lag BS!!!!!

 

[TheBlueRogue]

I'll just be me and be a friend and if it might not happen...well the worlds full of women aint it?

 

[TheBlueRogue]

then you know what I would do... tell her that... tell her "I really like you, your a great girl, but I have ..... (your situation).... going on right now... so, in short, I agree with you... I'm not ready for a relationship but, I really want to be your friend. Your cool to hang out with and everything, so, no pressure"

Lmao just told her that.

 

[BillyZaned]

cool man. best of luck... it will all work out...

 

[Erzengel]

I'll just be me and be a friend and if it might not happen...well the worlds full of women aint it?

Just curious.

You were so upset at the prospect that she wasn't looking for a relationship.

You now know the reason but it hasn't changed her feelings on the matter, but your disposition seems more cheery now.

Just making sure you don't have a feeling of false hope now.

 

[BillyZaned]

Just curious.

You were so upset at the prospect that she wasn't looking for a relationship.

You now know the reason but it hasn't changed her feelings on the matter, but your disposition seems more cheery now.

Just making sure you don't have a feeling of false hope now.

yeah... I know he read my story, and how it turned from friends to marriage...

I also have a really big penis, so that helped out alot toot:

 

[TheBlueRogue]

Just curious.

You were so upset at the prospect that she wasn't looking for a relationship.

You now know the reason but it hasn't changed her feelings on the matter, but your disposition seems more cheery now.

Just making sure you don't have a feeling of false hope now.

Im cheery because I dont feel hurt anyone I guess im ok with the situation, I accept that theres a strong chance I wont be with her and im ok with it.

 

[BillyZaned]

you will find love when you least expect it....

 

[Shuley]

you will find love when you least expect it....

That's not true..sitting around waiting for someone to come along and it never happens...sitting in god's waiting room does nothing, you have to work at it.

 

[Erzengel]

While I don't think Billy was inferring that one sits on their hands waiting for opportunity, you do have to put yourself out there and date if you want to meet someone.

 

[Shuley]

And yeah, I actually had to ask him about our official status as well

Don't ask guys questions like "do you like me? Where do you think this relationship is going? It shows insecurities which is not attractive.

 

[Anita18]

And yeah, I actually had to ask him about our official status as well

Don't ask guys questions like "do you like me? Where do you think this relationship is going? It shows insecurities which is not attractive.

It wasn't anything like that. It was more like, "Well, do we call each other boyfriend and girlfriend now?" Like, when do you jump from "just dating" to "official" sort of thing.

And I assumed he liked me, if he was spending entire weekends with me and driving down to see me and stuff. If he didn't, he's free to leave, that's how I see it.

 

[Shuley]

It wasn't anything like that. It was more like, "Well, do we call each other boyfriend and girlfriend now?" Like, when do you jump from "just dating" to "official" sort of thing.

And I assumed he liked me, if he was spending entire weekends with me and driving down to see me and stuff. If he didn't, he's free to leave, that's how I see it.

He wouldn't be wasting his time if he didn't like you,besides what else would he be? when you start refering to you and him as "we" often then you know your a couple.

 

[Hobgoblin]

Correct me if I'm wrong but I remember a thread, tried looking for it but I can't remember what it was called, but in there several posters stated how they were single by choice which I'm not judging but I thought I remember you being in that thread, have things changed for you?

Its something that I go back and forth on. Since its so darn hard to find a woman that I have things in common with, I could be very happy being alone. Beth was one that I had things to say to and was actually interested in what she said, so I liked her.

Now that I'm back to square one, its like putting on a comfy old shirt.

 

[Erzengel]

If it was only as simple as smelling another's ass that we know we found the right one.

But, dating is hard.

 

[Tsunulia]

That's not true..sitting around waiting for someone to come along and it never happens...sitting in god's waiting room does nothing, you have to work at it.

While I don't think Billy was inferring that one sits on their hands waiting for opportunity, you do have to put yourself out there and date if you want to meet someone.

*quiet interjection*


That's exactly what I did for my life until my Love came along. We truly love each other. We couldn't be happier. I had never been on a date or anything before then. I'm proof that waiting can have a positive result.

 

[Shuley]

*quiet interjection*


That's exactly what I did for my life until my Love came along. We truly love each other. We couldn't be happier. I had never been on a date or anything before then. I'm proof that waiting can have a positive result.

Doesn't work for guys like it can for women, besides there is no reason why women can't approach men...Guys don't get the signals 99% of the time..nothing in a man's brain clicks "walk over here and talk to me" when a woman smiles at them. Women need to say "hey, you gonna come over here or just stand there"! yes call them out on it.

 

[Erzengel]

Agreed. Especially, take a routine guy in his mid 20s with a job. If he just goes to work and then goes home, how is he ever going to meet someone? What going to the store? Guys need to put themselves in a position to meet people.

 

[Shuley]

Agreed. Especially, take a routine guy in his mid 20s with a job. If he just goes to work and then goes home, how is he ever going to meet someone? What going to the store? Guys need to put themselves in a position to meet people.

Yes going to the store and talk to the customers... I see a girl I want to talk too, I walk over and ask about what she is doing...best way to open her up...If she has a box of cereal in her hands, say something like "Wow, How good are those Lucky Charms,I've never had them" If your in a video store say "OMG...your getting that?? it was awful, let's go find something you'll like alot better, then text me when your done watching it and let me know what you think" Say what you say with some passion behind it. Then shut up and listen to her!

 

[BillyZaned]

That's not true..sitting around waiting for someone to come along and it never happens...sitting in god's waiting room does nothing, you have to work at it.

where did I say that you should sit around, playing WOW, drinking code red while dreaming of the girl in apartment 406? (Refference???!!!)

If your going out, looking for a girlfriend, and that's all your obssessed with, it probably won't happen. Go out, be social, enjoy ones life... and eventually, that special someone will come in... you just need to keep yourself open...

 

[Shuley]

where did I say that you should sit around, playing WOW, drinking code red while dreaming of the girl in apartment 406? (Refference???!!!)

If your going out, looking for a girlfriend, and that's all your obssessed with, it probably won't happen. Go out, be social, enjoy ones life... and eventually, that special someone will come in... you just need to keep yourself open...

I didn't say people sitting in apt 406, playing WoW while dreaming of girls now did I? You filled in that blank yourself. I just said you have to work at it.

 

[Ahura Mazda]

I can tell you that when I was single I organised 'events' at my place. Things like wine tastings, movie viewings, poker games, etc. I met many new people and among those was the woman I asked to marry me.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I can tell you that when I was single I organised 'events' at my place. Things like wine tastings, movie viewings, poker games, etc. I met many new people and among those was the woman I asked to marry me.

Yeah, this summer I played on a kickball team and did marathon training, just getting myself out there. Doing those things also makes you more attractive to the opposite sex, shows there's more in your life than just working then going home and sitting on your ass watching TV or playing video games. Shows you have other passions in life and really your own life, so if you do start dating your happiness isn't basically dependent on being with your significant other.

 

[Anita18]

Agreed. Especially, take a routine guy in his mid 20s with a job. If he just goes to work and then goes home, how is he ever going to meet someone? What going to the store? Guys need to put themselves in a position to meet people.

That's the life of an introverted girl too, ya know.

That's why I think online dating worked for me. I'm rather unusual, so to say, and I can be pretty dense when it comes to male attention. So chatting with someone online was an easy way to break the ice without having to worry whether they were gonna follow me to my car or whatever.

Yeah, this summer I played on a kickball team and did marathon training, just getting myself out there. Doing those things also makes you more attractive to the opposite sex, shows there's more in your life than just working then going home and sitting on your ass watching TV or playing video games. Shows you have other passions in life and really your own life, so if you do start dating your happiness isn't basically dependent on being with your significant other.

Yup.