*Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[BillyZaned]

I didn't say people sitting in apt 406, playing WoW while dreaming of girls now did I? You filled in that blank yourself. I just said you have to work at it.

i never said people living in 406... I said people fantasing about the girl in 406

 

[Erzengel]

Ever worked with an uptight person, or had a'hole of a friend and just thought, Wow, that person really needs to get laid to take the edge off of them?

 

[Honey Vibe]

Ever worked with an uptight person, or had a'hole of a friend and just thought, Wow, that person really needs to get laid to take the edge off of them?

The thing is nobody can get close enough without turning to stone... ...they should get a dog or a cat.

 

[Anita18]

Ever worked with an uptight person, or had a'hole of a friend and just thought, Wow, that person really needs to get laid to take the edge off of them?

I had a friend like that in high school. Total religious nut, thought I would get pregnant by just sleeping next to my bf in the same bed. Sperm can totally just up and crawl through layers of clothing, didn't I know that?

I'm afraid the only way she'd allow a boy near her is if he were an equally religious nut. Hilarious thing is that she claims she knows how relationships work because she's watched a lot of romance movies and read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." Nevermind the fact she's never been in one.

 

[Erzengel]

I knew a girl like that, who tried to be all Jedi sage-wise about men and relationships, even though, up until we stopped talking she's never had a real relationship. Her basis of men and relationships, was being in love with her "best friend" whom she'd had sex with but were never ever really official. She would try to wax poetic about relationships but, she had very limited knowledge.

 

[Shuley]

I had a friend like that in high school. Total religious nut, thought I would get pregnant by just sleeping next to my bf in the same bed. Sperm can totally just up and crawl through layers of clothing, didn't I know that?

I'm afraid the only way she'd allow a boy near her is if he were an equally religious nut. Hilarious thing is that she claims she knows how relationships work because she's watched a lot of romance movies and read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." Nevermind the fact she's never been in one.

men don't create the romantic comedy for women and that is what they want...men don't realize the relationship starts the second you meet her...not on the first date. "You had me at hello" - Jerry Maguire this means that the girl was already his the second he said hello.

 

[enterthemadness]

Ever worked with an uptight person, or had a'hole of a friend and just thought, Wow, that person really needs to get laid to take the edge off of them?

Yes, but that person is me....at times...not right now....but at times...thing is, um, yeah, how does getting laid take edge off you? What if it's bad for that person?

 

[Shuley]

Yes, but that person is me....at times...not right now....but at times...thing is, um, yeah, how does getting laid take edge off you? What if it's bad for that person?

Getting laid doesn't take the edge off...only YOU can take the edge off, it's all in your head.

 

[LittleMsMarvel]

Do you think it is better to show someone you like them through your actions (with the potential for them being totally dense and not picking up the signals) or telling them (which is clearer but can make things really really awkward)?

 

[Shuley]

Do you think it is better to show someone you like them through your actions (with the potential for them being totally dense and not picking up the signals) or telling them (which is clearer but can make things really really awkward)?

98% of guys don't understand signals,you basically have to tell us.

 

[Anita18]

Well preferably you would do both.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

I've got a tricky one here. I'd like some opinions, just for ****s and giggles, if nothing else.

Well, this girl and I in high school (my senior year, her junior year) were acquainted. We didn't really know each other much outside of the class we had together, but we'd talked once or twice. After I graduated, never saw each other, no doubt never thought anything of it, just a classmate, really.

Well, a couple of weeks ago, we met while we were both heading to our respective sports' practices. We recognized each other, talked for a bit, and that was it. Since then, we've seen each other a couple more times, and we always stop to chat whenever we do. Well, tonight, we both just so happened to head to the same restaurant, and while waiting in line to get our food, I hung and talked with her for a while. I'd considered asking this girl for her phone number for a short while now, but I've never been one for approaching a girl when she's with a bunch of friends (which is always when I see her). Unfortunately, when I saw her tonight, she was again with one of her friends, so I opted not to say anything.

Well, I have a bunch of tickets to a local theme park, and I gave a pair to one of my teammates, who's going to take a girl he's interested in to the park this coming Saturday. He told me that if I could find a date, we should pull a double date (possibly a triple of another teammate of ours wants to go as well). Here's where the predicament comes in:

While talking to this girl, I found out that her sport is ended until sometime in Spring- meaning I likely won't be seeing her on the way to practice anymore, which is the only place I've seen her (aside from tonight, obviously). The best possible solution I can come up with to get a hold of her- especially before Saturday- is to do it on Facebook (we've been friends on it for quite a while), which is something I've always been particularly against.

Basically, my questions are: Should I not and just bank on hopefully seeing her again before Saturday? If not, is there really a smooth way to go about asking someone for a # (or even out) via Facebook? Or should I just skip Saturday, and just wait until the next time I see her?

 

[Crook]

Out of personal experience, if she's considered you smooth before; then asking her out, or her number, even on Facebook, would do absolutely no harm. I've intentionally said and asked some outright stupid/foolish things to girls over the net, but my relationship with them is good enough that I can't come off as "weird".

Otherwise....no. Don't do it. I can only speak for myself, but I know I'd laugh at any semi-stranger who did that, even if it was towards an old friend.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

Out of personal experience, if she's considered you smooth before; then asking her out, or her number, even on Facebook, would do absolutely no harm. I've intentionally said and asked some outright stupid/foolish things to girls over the net, but my relationship with them is good enough that I can't come off as "weird".

Otherwise....no. Don't do it. I can only speak for myself, but I know I'd laugh at any semi-stranger who did that, even if it was towards an old friend.

Yeah, see, that's the thing. I don't know that we're close enough for her to consider me "smooth" (whether or not I actually am is up for grabs). We barely knew each other in high school, and have probably talked more in the past few times we've seen each other than we did the entire year we had together in high school.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Ever worked with an uptight person, or had a'hole of a friend and just thought, Wow, that person really needs to get laid to take the edge off of them?

I AM that uptight person at work.

Doesn't help that I work with a bunch of snob ass preppy kids who all think they're too cool for anyone.

 

[Crook]

Yeah, see, that's the thing. I don't know that we're close enough for her to consider me "smooth" (whether or not I actually am is up for grabs). We barely knew each other in high school, and have probably talked more in the past few times we've seen each other than we did the entire year we had together in high school.

Yeah, that's a bit tough to come forward then. I'd be too afraid in coming off as too hasty or making things awkward.

But if you don't mind the potential rejection, then go right ahead. I'm not the type to put myself in that position.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

Yeah, that's a bit tough to come forward then. I'd be too afraid in coming off as too hasty or making things awkward.

But if you don't mind the potential rejection, then go right ahead. I'm not the type to put myself in that position.

Na, not a fan of rejection here. That said, it's not like this is some girl I've been pining over for months or anything, so I don't know that the rejection would bother me all that much.

 

[E-Man]

This is just for fun. I have a friend of mine that I'm close to, and she told me that her friend needed someone to "hang out with" just for a night. Now I'm not a fan of blind dates, but my friend really wanted me to do this favor so that she could have some time to herself this weekend. Well we plan a date tonight, and I am set to meet this chick at this restaurant. She insists on taking her own transportation, and I understand fully why she'd rather bring herself. No harm no foul at all.

The problem was that she showed up 20 minutes late without a valid excuse why. I called her about 8 minutes after we were supposed to meet to see if she got lost, but she with her attitude just said "I'm on my way." The tone was pretty *****y, but I told her it was cool and that I'd reserve a table since it was a little crowded. Well she finally calls me when she gets in the parking lot, and I tell her that I'm inside waiting at the front to be called for our table. 5 minutes pass, and she calls me upset saying, "Are you just going to let me just sit out here?" I ask her if there's something wrong with her door, and she calls me an ******* since I didn't do the gentlemanly thing to come outside and open her car door for her. Being the guy I am, I start laughing my ass off at her on the phone. She starts talking about how it's traditional for a man to open the door for the woman. I tell her that I'll order her a kids meal, and laugh at her while she hangs up and I assume that she's left the restaurant parking lot. I call my friend who set us up, and she laughs and tell me that's why she wanted me to get her away from hanging out with them.

 

[katie_girl09]

Gosh! No wonder she can't get a date herself.

 

[E-Man]

That's why I'm not too into blind dates. If my friend didn't really call in the favor I wouldn't have done it. On the plus side it was a little funny how I dodged that bullet.

 

[katie_girl09]

Besides, only a real princess such as myself has the right to demand such things from her would-be suitors.

 

[Anubis]

This is just for fun. I have a friend of mine that I'm close to, and she told me that her friend needed someone to "hang out with" just for a night. Now I'm not a fan of blind dates, but my friend really wanted me to do this favor so that she could have some time to herself this weekend. Well we plan a date tonight, and I am set to meet this chick at this restaurant. She insists on taking her own transportation, and I understand fully why she'd rather bring herself. No harm no foul at all.

The problem was that she showed up 20 minutes late without a valid excuse why. I called her about 8 minutes after we were supposed to meet to see if she got lost, but she with her attitude just said "I'm on my way." The tone was pretty *****y, but I told her it was cool and that I'd reserve a table since it was a little crowded. Well she finally calls me when she gets in the parking lot, and I tell her that I'm inside waiting at the front to be called for our table. 5 minutes pass, and she calls me upset saying, "Are you just going to let me just sit out here?" I ask her if there's something wrong with her door, and she calls me an ******* since I didn't do the gentlemanly thing to come outside and open her car door for her. Being the guy I am, I start laughing my ass off at her on the phone. She starts talking about how it's traditional for a man to open the door for the woman. I tell her that I'll order her a kids meal, and laugh at her while she hangs up and I assume that she's left the restaurant parking lot. I call my friend who set us up, and she laughs and tell me that's why she wanted me to get her away from hanging out with them.

......soooo, did you bang her?

 

[E-Man]

All hail princess Kaite!

Edit: No banging happened tonight. She left after I laughed at her on the phone. She probably that that HIV thing anyway. Isn't that supposed to be like an itching disease or something?

 

[katie_girl09]

I AM that uptight person at work.

Then go out and take the ladies by storm, Nell! I see you complain about being single and I don't quite understand why. You seem like a nice, responsible guy. Based on the picture I've seen of you on the Wolverine forum, you aren't a bad-looking guy either. There's no reason why you should be single if you don't want to be. I really suspect that you're your own worst enemy when it comes to relationships. I see no other reason for you being unlucky in love.

 

[Cunning Stunts]

Oh well, just said eff it and sent her a message. I feel like a jackass doing it that way, but why the hell not? Probably won't see her before Saturday anyway. Hopefully my luck turns around a little.