Return of the *Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[Erzengel]

So do Long Distance Relationships work? Girlfriend is going to Venezuela in a few months for a year, so I'm wondering what I'm going to do

If she's going to come back in a year, there's a small hope that you guys can still be together.

However, a year especially at your age is a LONG time. Asking anyone at 17-18 to commit to a relationship where it's only going to be skype, telephone, etc. is a lot to ask.

It's not like you will be visiting each other right?

You might want to see how it goes? Or separate until she gets back and see if things can go back to the way they were.

 

[Anita18]

The girl i like has a boyfriend...but she still kinda flirts with me..She says she really likes her boyfriend, yet at the same time is completly apathetic about this relationship. I don't know if it's 100% flirting, persay...but we talk on the phone alot, text like every day, she laughs at literally ALL my jokes, calls me cute alot and stuff like that, and she's always telling people about me.

So...what's even going on? I'm so lost

Enjoy the flirting if you want, but it's doubtful she'll leave him for you if she hasn't already left him. Take that as you will.

If she's going to come back in a year, there's a small hope that you guys can still be together.

However, a year especially at your age is a LONG time. Asking anyone at 17-18 to commit to a relationship where it's only going to be skype, telephone, etc. is a lot to ask.

It's not like you will be visiting each other right?

You might want to see how it goes? Or separate until she gets back and see if things can go back to the way they were.

You COULD always visit her, but airfare is probably $$$. I know some couples who stayed together long-distance in college, and others who broke up. It's really up to you and how you want to feel things out.

 

[Erzengel]

I think Alex is in Canada and his gf is moving to Venezuela. Not exactly something he could save up in a week's time to go and see her.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

So do Long Distance Relationships work? Girlfriend is going to Venezuela in a few months for a year, so I'm wondering what I'm going to do

It -CAN- work. I just went to my best friend's wedding this past summer - he married a girl whom he started off in a long distance relationship with. They are perfect for each other, and I truly believe they will be together forever.

But it's hard.

 

[WillardNation]

So do Long Distance Relationships work? Girlfriend is going to Venezuela in a few months for a year, so I'm wondering what I'm going to do

If you really love her, I would suggest that while she's gone you bang every girl you can. That way, when she gets back you will be this amazing sex god and pleasure her in ways she never thought possible. This will, of course, lead to her pledging her everlasting love for you.

 

[Lord Valumart]

Find an empty room, bang the **** out of her, never talk to her again.

Godd advice, I'll keep this one in mind...

That would have been your opportunity to ask her if she would like to go for a coffee or something. That way if she was interested she would have given her number to you and you could have proceeded at your leisure without waiting for your friends to do something you very well could. I know its hard but you never really know unless you try.

I say at this next wedding forget involving the other people and just go for it. The worst you get out of it is that she is not interested and you go on with your life knowing she wasn't interested and not wondering if your friends are going to hook you up with her. The only thing getting in your way right now is yourself.

Buggar... I'm always terrifed to things like this. It's not really the failing I'm owrried about it's the possible akwardness for the rest of the night that would eat away at me. But if trying is what I have to do then damnit I'll have to try...

well for one thing, ask her to dance at least once at the wedding.

Goddamn dancing...

 

[Hurm...]

Goddamn dancing...

I agree lol

 

[steintym]

So do Long Distance Relationships work? Girlfriend is going to Venezuela in a few months for a year, so I'm wondering what I'm going to do

It can work, but it will be very tough. When I went away to college, I kept dating my highschool girlfried. It was pretty difficult and we even got to see each other on occassion.

A lot depends on your age, how you really feel about her, how long you've been together, etc.

To be honest, you both might benefit from agreeing to see others and seeing what happens when she returns.

 

[Lord Valumart]

I agree lol

It's like the one thing everyone expects you to be able to do and hardly anyone can. I hate dancing...

 

[ComicChick]

slow dance?

 

[Lord Valumart]

Isn't a slow dance more for when you know each other better and the female is more comfortable with semi erect penis against her hip?

 

[WillardNation]

I lol'd

 

[Anubis]

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Godd advice, I'll keep this one in mind...

Buggar... I'm always terrifed to things like this. It's not really the failing I'm owrried about it's the possible akwardness for the rest of the night that would eat away at me. But if trying is what I have to do then damnit I'll have to try...

If that's you're attitude you've already failed. It's one night, if she turns you down, grab another few beers and hit on one of the bride's maids. You know what'll eat away at you more is not asking, hell, it's already been eating away at you, that's why you're asking people about this because you've already let a few chances slip by.

Goddamn dancing...

Isn't a slow dance more for when you know each other better and the female is more comfortable with semi erect penis against her hip?

It's a wedding, that's the perfect icebreaker, asking her to dance when a slow song comes on. As for the penis thing, don't know what to say about that, you need some practice so just touching a girl doesn't arrouse you that much.

 

[AndThePickles]

The girl i like has a boyfriend...but she still kinda flirts with me..She says she really likes her boyfriend, yet at the same time is completly apathetic about this relationship. I don't know if it's 100% flirting, persay...but we talk on the phone alot, text like every day, she laughs at literally ALL my jokes, calls me cute alot and stuff like that, and she's always telling people about me.

So...what's even going on? I'm so lost

What's going on is she's flirting with you. That's it. I'm sure that it is flattering for her to get so much attention from you, but it is essentially meaningless.

 

[Erzengel]

Unless she's a trollip.

 

[Alex The Great]

If she's going to come back in a year, there's a small hope that you guys can still be together.

However, a year especially at your age is a LONG time. Asking anyone at 17-18 to commit to a relationship where it's only going to be skype, telephone, etc. is a lot to ask.

It's not like you will be visiting each other right?

You might want to see how it goes? Or separate until she gets back and see if things can go back to the way they were.

The problem is, next year is our senior year of high school, so we'll all be going our seperate ways to college and university. So a year could end up being even longer. But yeah, There's no way i'd be able to visit her. To expensive

If you really love her, I would suggest that while she's gone you bang every girl you can. That way, when she gets back you will be this amazing sex god and pleasure her in ways she never thought possible. This will, of course, lead to her pledging her everlasting love for you.

This guy

It can work, but it will be very tough. When I went away to college, I kept dating my highschool girlfried. It was pretty difficult and we even got to see each other on occassion.

A lot depends on your age, how you really feel about her, how long you've been together, etc.

To be honest, you both might benefit from agreeing to see others and seeing what happens when she returns.

Yeah, maybe. But even before we were dating we were very close friends. I was basically in the friend zone and I finally got out

But seeing other people would probably be the best choice for both of us. Zeus knows they'll be hot guys down there

 

[Erzengel]

I thought you were already a senior.

You know I'm not going to blow smoke up your skirt about love and meant to be, etc. Because honestly both of you are 17-18? I know others here are trying to cheer you up and saying it can work out but you're talking about a continent away, not a city, not a state not across a country. A continent. Where it's going to take you pretty much $1,000 for a round trip ticket.

My advice to you, is to just enjoy each other now and who knows maybe she might come back sooner or maybe you will go to the same school together, but worry about that another day. Just focus on what you have now.

 

[Alex The Great]

My advice to you, is to just enjoy each other now and who knows maybe she might come back sooner or maybe you will go to the same school together, but worry about that another today. Just focus on what you have now.

That's pretty much what i was thinking of. We still have like five months or so. Plenty of time to have fun

 

[AndThePickles]

Alex, it would be different if you were older and in a long-term relationship. As things stand, I think that you would be doing both of you a disservice by trying to make things work long-distance for that year. She should be free to enjoy her time abroad, and you should be free to date around.

 

[AndThePickles]

So nice, the Hype thought it needed to be said twice

 

[Lord Valumart]

If that's you're attitude you've already failed. It's one night, if she turns you down, grab another few beers and hit on one of the bride's maids. You know what'll eat away at you more is not asking, hell, it's already been eating away at you, that's why you're asking people about this because you've already let a few chances slip by.

Yeh, just going for it sounds like the best idea. Do it then it's over with, don't think ahead to what'll happen just think of there and then.

 

[Erzengel]

Also LV, when' you're slow dancing unless your zipper is opened, I think you usually have one hand around her waist and another on her hand or again waist. And if you want to talk you have to space yourself a little away from her so you can actually talk face to face.

Forgive the reference but this was the first pic that I found.

 

[WillardNation]

Alex, it would be different if you were older and in a long-term relationship. As things stand, I think that you would be doing both of you a disservice by trying to make things work long-distance for that year. She should be free to enjoy her time abroad, and you should be free to date around.

Word. If you try to make it work for a whole year on different continents, you're going to make yourself miserable. You should both just have fun on your own and when she gets back, if you're both still in to it, just pick it back up. 18 years old is not an age you should be denying yourself sex and dating.

 

[Lord Valumart]

Also LV, when' you're slow dancing unless your zipper is opened, I think you usually have one hand around her waist and another on her hand or again waist. And if you want to talk you have to space yourself a little away from her so you can actually talk face to face.

So like in BTTF3 but slower? I got it now