i agree with everything you said, flawlessvictory.
It's not that we are opposed to Superman becoming a father, or that we don't recognize the interesting stories that could arise from that.
It was the WAY they did it that rubbed us the wrong way, and, as flawless said, ruined our enjoyment of the theme. It destroyed the PURITY of the character.....
yes, it adds conflict. But, I think it's unnecesary conflict....conflict that doesn't match the character of superman. It puts Superman in a situation he shouldn't be in....especially as he, above all superheroes, is supposed to be THE MORAL BEACON....y'know......a role model ( BIG BLUE BOYSCOUT ).
Also, because of his upbringing by the loving Kents, I'd think Superman would have a very clear understanding of the IMPORTANCE OF A STABLE, LOVING FAMILY. And, he would also have a very clear understanding of the IMPORTANCE OF PARENTS IN THEIR CHILDREN'S LIVES ( both father and mother ). All of that is undercut by making Superman primarily responsible for this messed up family / father-son affair. Now, Jason' relatively stable family unit will be upheaved by the return of Superman in Lois' life, and the growing realization that Richard is not his real dad.
Yah.....way to go Supes......
it's also misplaced conflict as this is a movie that is being marketed to KIDS.....and, imo, it sends the all the WRONG MESSAGES......and not the RIGHT MESSAGES about Superman......to our children.
There are many ways to bring conflict to Superman. There are many ways to "humanize" him and make him relatable. Making him leave for Krypton for 5+ years, and having him father a bastard child, thus creating a complicated, messed up family affair......ARE NOT the best ( or only ) ways to do that.......