The Ian McLounge

[KRYPTON INC.]

The "call" for Canadian support:

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What happens when you send out the call for Canadian support:

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Support however will only extend as far South as Frosbite Falls, MN.

 

[Astro13Zombie]

I looked for an appropriate thread for this but I don’t think that one exists.
I just need to get this out and vent to people that aren’t connected to me or the situation at all.

Both of my parents died this year.
My mom died suddenly back in March and my dad died just last week.
Shortly after my Moms death I decided to start planning a move across the country. I just wanted to start over.
I had plenty of time to think about it and I slowly started making the steps that were necessary to make it happen.
I broke the lease on my apartment and moved in with a friend so I could put some money away. I had the money and I had a destination and a place to stay when I got there. I resigned from my job last month and started getting my actual move in order.
Then my dad died.
Things became very chaotic in my family very quickly. I have two older brothers and the oldest(45) is a complete mess over the death of my father. He’s shuts out anyone that tries to talk to him. I tried.
I stuck around long enough to make arrangements for my father. I was the only one of us that would step up and take care of it.
Then I decided that it was time for me to get back to what I was doing.
I quietly left my home state to continue with my plan. I drove across the country and made a huge step in what I genuinely feel is right. Right for me and my life and my future.
My oldest brother found out that I left last night and he’s been doing his best to make me feel horrible. He’s telling me that I needed to stay and help him reach some sort of stability now that he doesn’t have my parents. That he needs me.
He’s 45 and he lived with my parents.
He’s been unemployed for years and seemingly had no plans to change it.
He lived as if my parents would be around forever.
Like they could support him forever.

Now they’re gone and he’s looking to his youngest brother to save him.
I can’t do that.
I have my own life and my own plans.
I take responsibility for myself and I work for what I want.
I did what was best for me but I have him basically threatening to commit suicide now.

I do feel a little guilty but I don’t exactly think I was wrong to do what I did.

He has to figure his life out.

Am I a monster?

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

I looked for an appropriate thread for this but I don’t think that one exists.
I just need to get this out and vent to people that aren’t connected to me or the situation at all.

Both of my parents died this year.
My mom died suddenly back in March and my dad died just last week.
Shortly after my Moms death I decided to start planning a move across the country. I just wanted to start over.
I had plenty of time to think about it and I slowly started making the steps that were necessary to make it happen.
I broke the lease on my apartment and moved in with a friend so I could put some money away. I had the money and I had a destination and a place to stay when I got there. I resigned from my job last month and started getting my actual move in order.
Then my dad died.
Things became very chaotic in my family very quickly. I have two older brothers and the oldest(45) is a complete mess over the death of my father. He’s shuts out anyone that tries to talk to him. I tried.
I stuck around long enough to make arrangements for my father. I was the only one of us that would step up and take care of it.
Then I decided that it was time for me to get back to what I was doing.
I quietly left my home state to continue with my plan. I drove across the country and made a huge step in what I genuinely feel is right. Right for me and my life and my future.
My oldest brother found out that I left last night and he’s been doing his best to make me feel horrible. He’s telling me that I needed to stay and help him reach some sort of stability now that he doesn’t have my parents. That he needs me.
He’s 45 and he lived with my parents.
He’s been unemployed for years and seemingly had no plans to change it.
He lived as if my parents would be around forever.
Like they could support him forever.

Now they’re gone and he’s looking to his youngest brother to save him.
I can’t do that.
I have my own life and my own plans.
I take responsibility for myself and I work for what I want.
I did what was best for me but I have him basically threatening to commit suicide now.

I do feel a little guilty but I don’t exactly think I was wrong to do what I did.

He has to figure his life out.

Am I a monster?

No.

Period.

If you are being as honest as you can with this story I don't fault you for your choices in this situation. That's not to say that I can't kinda empathize with your brother. But a big part of him feeling how he does and his life being thrown into confusion and chaos is on him.

With these sort of things I think... Let's not forget that just because there's a tragedy (Your parents dying so closely, a sibling who never took control of their life now thrust into the role and seemingly not equipped to handle it...) doesn't mean there has to be a villain. And a lot of people because they can't find one in their story feel the need to take on that role for themselves in some way, whether it's fair to themselves or not.

 

[Schlosser85]

I looked for an appropriate thread for this but I don’t think that one exists.
I just need to get this out and vent to people that aren’t connected to me or the situation at all.

Both of my parents died this year.
My mom died suddenly back in March and my dad died just last week.
Shortly after my Moms death I decided to start planning a move across the country. I just wanted to start over.
I had plenty of time to think about it and I slowly started making the steps that were necessary to make it happen.
I broke the lease on my apartment and moved in with a friend so I could put some money away. I had the money and I had a destination and a place to stay when I got there. I resigned from my job last month and started getting my actual move in order.
Then my dad died.
Things became very chaotic in my family very quickly. I have two older brothers and the oldest(45) is a complete mess over the death of my father. He’s shuts out anyone that tries to talk to him. I tried.
I stuck around long enough to make arrangements for my father. I was the only one of us that would step up and take care of it.
Then I decided that it was time for me to get back to what I was doing.
I quietly left my home state to continue with my plan. I drove across the country and made a huge step in what I genuinely feel is right. Right for me and my life and my future.
My oldest brother found out that I left last night and he’s been doing his best to make me feel horrible. He’s telling me that I needed to stay and help him reach some sort of stability now that he doesn’t have my parents. That he needs me.
He’s 45 and he lived with my parents.
He’s been unemployed for years and seemingly had no plans to change it.
He lived as if my parents would be around forever.
Like they could support him forever.

Now they’re gone and he’s looking to his youngest brother to save him.
I can’t do that.
I have my own life and my own plans.
I take responsibility for myself and I work for what I want.
I did what was best for me but I have him basically threatening to commit suicide now.

I do feel a little guilty but I don’t exactly think I was wrong to do what I did.

He has to figure his life out.

Am I a monster?

No.

You have the right to do what is best for yourself and your life and not shoulder everyone else’s burden for them.

 

[Teelie]

No. You had been planning this for a long time and even after their deaths you set up arrangements for your father and you were the only one to actually take the necessary steps. If your older brother can't function as an adult at 45, you are not going to be the one to change that.

 

[Schlosser85]

Apropos of nothing, but I’d like to attend dinner parties like this

 

[ComicChick]

I looked for an appropriate thread for this but I don’t think that one exists.
I just need to get this out and vent to people that aren’t connected to me or the situation at all.

Both of my parents died this year.
My mom died suddenly back in March and my dad died just last week.
Shortly after my Moms death I decided to start planning a move across the country. I just wanted to start over.
I had plenty of time to think about it and I slowly started making the steps that were necessary to make it happen.
I broke the lease on my apartment and moved in with a friend so I could put some money away. I had the money and I had a destination and a place to stay when I got there. I resigned from my job last month and started getting my actual move in order.
Then my dad died.
Things became very chaotic in my family very quickly. I have two older brothers and the oldest(45) is a complete mess over the death of my father. He’s shuts out anyone that tries to talk to him. I tried.
I stuck around long enough to make arrangements for my father. I was the only one of us that would step up and take care of it.
Then I decided that it was time for me to get back to what I was doing.
I quietly left my home state to continue with my plan. I drove across the country and made a huge step in what I genuinely feel is right. Right for me and my life and my future.
My oldest brother found out that I left last night and he’s been doing his best to make me feel horrible. He’s telling me that I needed to stay and help him reach some sort of stability now that he doesn’t have my parents. That he needs me.
He’s 45 and he lived with my parents.
He’s been unemployed for years and seemingly had no plans to change it.
He lived as if my parents would be around forever.
Like they could support him forever.

Now they’re gone and he’s looking to his youngest brother to save him.
I can’t do that.
I have my own life and my own plans.
I take responsibility for myself and I work for what I want.
I did what was best for me but I have him basically threatening to commit suicide now.

I do feel a little guilty but I don’t exactly think I was wrong to do what I did.

He has to figure his life out.

Am I a monster?

i'm so sorry for your loss.

my parents are in their mid 70's and my brother lives with them. he will be 49 next month. he works, has a decent job, but they still very much take care of him in ways.
like you, i am the oldest. i am probably the most responsible, and i sacrificed a lot the last few years to save up and move and get my own place. i've often wondered if something were to happen to my parents what my brother would do. i am not going to take care of him. i say that with love, as i am closest to my brother than any of my siblings, but i sometimes feel i want more for him than he wants for himself, and until everyone stops hand feeding him, he will stay content exactly where he is.

i think it's admirable that you've planned this out for a long time and did what you needed for yourself. it sounds like you tried to be there for your brother and he wasn't ready at the time. i would keep in contact with him now that it appears he is trying to reach out, maybe get your other siblings involed (if any, or close family members), possibly schedule zoom video chats together or something? our family reunion was cancelled this year and over a dozen of us from 7 different states took this route and it was very nice.

would it be possible to have him come visit you for a bit? maybe a change of scenery could do him some good?

 

[squeekness]

I looked for an appropriate thread for this but I don’t think that one exists.
I just need to get this out and vent to people that aren’t connected to me or the situation at all.

Both of my parents died this year.
My mom died suddenly back in March and my dad died just last week.
Shortly after my Moms death I decided to start planning a move across the country. I just wanted to start over.
I had plenty of time to think about it and I slowly started making the steps that were necessary to make it happen.
I broke the lease on my apartment and moved in with a friend so I could put some money away. I had the money and I had a destination and a place to stay when I got there. I resigned from my job last month and started getting my actual move in order.
Then my dad died.
Things became very chaotic in my family very quickly. I have two older brothers and the oldest(45) is a complete mess over the death of my father. He’s shuts out anyone that tries to talk to him. I tried.
I stuck around long enough to make arrangements for my father. I was the only one of us that would step up and take care of it.
Then I decided that it was time for me to get back to what I was doing.
I quietly left my home state to continue with my plan. I drove across the country and made a huge step in what I genuinely feel is right. Right for me and my life and my future.
My oldest brother found out that I left last night and he’s been doing his best to make me feel horrible. He’s telling me that I needed to stay and help him reach some sort of stability now that he doesn’t have my parents. That he needs me.
He’s 45 and he lived with my parents.
He’s been unemployed for years and seemingly had no plans to change it.
He lived as if my parents would be around forever.
Like they could support him forever.

Now they’re gone and he’s looking to his youngest brother to save him.
I can’t do that.
I have my own life and my own plans.
I take responsibility for myself and I work for what I want.
I did what was best for me but I have him basically threatening to commit suicide now.

I do feel a little guilty but I don’t exactly think I was wrong to do what I did.

He has to figure his life out.

Am I a monster?

Absolutely not. Sometimes the chick needs to be booted from the nest. Support him, encourage him, but leave him to stand on his own two feet. He'll be the better for it.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

Look at what happens when @Reek isn't around:

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Acting like they own the place.

 

[Reek]

hmm

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

 

[Perfect Cell]

 

[Reek]

i am in a deep state of sports depression

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

i am in a deep state of sports depression

Major League/Bull Durham double feature will hit the spot.

 

[Perfect Cell]

The plot of The Love Guru revolves around the Maple Leafs competing for and winning the Stanley Cup. But it happens while two elephants **** at centre ice. Film is a hollow medium, full of false hope.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

The plot of The Love Guru revolves around the Maple Leafs competing for and winning the Stanley Cup. But it happens while two elephants **** at centre ice. Film is a hollow medium, full of false hope.

Yet it still has Daniel Tosh punching a black Canadian Hockey player in a bar fight, which... Someone had to write that.

 

[Reek]

honest to god i never could finish that movie

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

honest to god i never could finish that movie

The term "phoning it in" was what I mostly thought of when I saw it.

That and... Why the **** is anyone giving Jessica Alba work? She can barely act and on top of that you want her to pull off comedy?

 

[Perfect Cell]

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

Timberlake was the second best thing in that.

First? :

Spoiler

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

"The sea was angry that day, my friends - like an old man trying to send back soup in a deli."

 

[Perfect Cell]

I saw this movie. Julie Andrews voiced an eldritch horror.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

I saw this movie. Julie Andrews voiced an eldritch horror.

Top THAT Kevin Feige.

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

Star Trek's William Shatner threatens to stop selling merchandise to UK

Please. Don’t. Stop...

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

Is he trying to offload all those copies of Tek War he's been storing in his attic?