The Last Crusade of Relationships

[Anubis]

Yup. My first love.

It was "pop that choochie" by 2 Live crew.

 

[Erzengel]

I do.

I can't even hear that song anymore because it's like the song was written for us.

It'll always remind me of the time we had together and how fleeting it was.

Three's not a crowd to her, she says
"Room 714, I'll be waiting"
When I get there she's got incense, wine and candles
It's such a freaky scene

That girl is pretty kinky
The girl's a super freak

Where ever you are, I hope you kept the baby.

 

[Anita18]

okay maybe not that desperate.

That's why just being your own damn self still makes sense to me. But apparently, from what I read, women will only respond accordingly to certain trends of behaviour

And when you bring in heaps of psychology in the mix, then yeah, it really does generalise the whole deal.

Not necessarily. The classically romantic things are a good starting place, if you've just met the girl and you don't know her that well and you want to say to her "yes, I'm interested in you romantically." Like the time my bf got me flowers, when I don't like cut flowers all that much. He didn't know I didn't like them, so I didn't throw them back at his face. The gesture was absolutely sweet, that's what I took out of it. And then I told him maaaaybe let's not do the flower thing anymore

But if the girl is adamant that you HAVE to do those things or else she will have nothing to do with you, well...it's up to you to decide whether you want her that badly or not.

If the reponse is 'It depends' then it's a NO that she's uncomfortable coming right out and saying.

If someone you quite like asks you out, you say yes. End of. Unless your playing stupidly hard to get, though usually if someone does that the 'it depends' will have a teasing tone too it

Right.

Sometimes I won't bother driving far to meet someone unless we're going to be doing something really cool. But absolutely, if she likes YOU, she'd say yes and it wouldn't matter where you went. The former situation usually arises with me and my friends.

 

[steintym]

SpideyVille - Just flat out ask her like the others have said. Leave no wiggle room when you ask and get a definite answer.

I'm guessing no matter the response, you'll feel good you went ahead and showed a little initiative.

 

[steintym]

So has anyone experienced 'the song' that one song that captures the perfect moment in a couple's relationship? Also known as our song.

Home Sweet Home - Mötley Crüe

Ha Ha!

That's our song, even used it for our first dance at our wedding.

Kind of started as a joke, but it's become our song. First night we dated, we got drunk and danced to this song at some towney bar. We've laughed about it ever since.

How ******* romantic, huh?

 

[SpideyVille]

SpideyVille - Just flat out ask her like the others have said. Leave no wiggle room when you ask and get a definite answer.

I'm guessing no matter the response, you'll feel good you went ahead and showed a little initiative.

Yeah, I'm at the point where I don't want this to drag on too much longer, especially since I'm seeing a lot of other guys involved in the show are interested in her, or at least her body.

Like many have said, its time to **** or get off the pot.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Or

You: What are you doing Sat?
Her: I gotta take my mom to dialysis and then....
You: F**k that, I'm taking you out to dinner, and wear something hot.

Hell yeah!

 

[terry78]

****, her mom got one good kidney, she'll be straight.

 

[SpideyVille]

So I asked her what she was doing tomorrow and she said she didn't know and it depended on how she felt and stuff and that its hard for her to make plans and stuff because her life is very crazy. So I didn't get to ask her out like I wanted, but I did manage to finally get her number. I just don't know what I should do with it now, like if I should even text her tonight just to talk or if I should ask her out, though that's something I'd rather do in person.

 

[Erzengel]

"Hard for her to make plans" and "Her life is very crazy", seems like she's making excuses not to go out with you.

I mean cool you got her number, but you can try calling her in a couple of days and try again. But try to and be subtle about, talking about a movie or a place to eat, hey let's go there.

But if she acts non committal again, I'd take the hint.

 

[SpideyVille]

Yeah, that's my initial thought, that its just an excuse. But then again, this girl is pretty weird in the sense that she doesn't really seem too bright and is gullible enough to believe the stupidest things, so I can't really tell what she's thinking based on how she speaks to me or others. Like I'll joke around and she'll laugh one minute and get offended the next. I've dealt with a lot of girls but this one by far is the most puzzling.

And I'm pretty sure that Sunday afternoon will be the last time I have a reason to see her since that's the last day of our show. I'll see her again tomorrow and Saturday evening, but I kinda want to do something beforehand since our call time for the show on those nights don't really give me much time to spend with her.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah, that's my initial thought, that its just an excuse. But then again, this girl is pretty weird in the sense that she doesn't really seem too bright and is gullible enough to believe the stupidest things, so I can't really tell what she's thinking based on how she speaks to me or others. Like I'll joke around and she'll laugh one minute and get offended the next. I've dealt with a lot of girls but this one by far is the most puzzling.

And I'm pretty sure that Sunday afternoon will be the last time I have a reason to see her since that's the last day of our show. I'll see her again tomorrow and Saturday evening, but I kinda want to do something beforehand since our call time for the show on those nights don't really give me much time to spend with her.

Maybe that's why so many other guys are interested in her body.

 

[Anubis]

Tell her you have penis cancer and the only cure is to have sex right now!

 

[Lighthouse]

Tell her you have penis cancer and the only cure is to have sex right now!

To which she would reply "I thought cancer had to be cut out."

 

[Anubis]

That's too smart an answer for an idiot to come up with.

 

[SpideyVille]

Maybe that's why so many other guys are interested in her body.

I don't doubt it. Plus, she's very approachable, so it's not like she has the typical "hot girl" repellent that intimidates every guy from talking to her.

Tell her you have penis cancer and the only cure is to have sex right now!

Part of me feels like she'd believe it for a second.

 

[Anita18]

I don't doubt it. Plus, she's very approachable, so it's not like she has the typical "hot girl" repellent that intimidates every guy from talking to her.

Yeah, I've been told by many people that I look smart, which I think scares off a lot of guys.

Part of me feels like she'd believe it for a second.

Then why are you so hesitant? She'd buy anything you'd throw at her!

 

[Anubis]

Might I suggest you buy the playbook, by Barney Stinson?

 

[Nave 'Torment']

Spidey, if she's acting/really is stupid then it gives you more of a reason to flat-out ask her up on that date. Clear as day as the rest have said it. I wouldn't suggest doing it over the phone since you will be seeing her shortly.

But do NOT fear that you'll never see her again - you have her number so you can call her up even after the shows are over. More importantly, do not fear a rejection.

Yeah, I've been told by many people that I look smart, which I think scares off a lot of guys.

Y'know with me it's the opposite most of the time? I get attracted at to the smart, bookish ones with glasses.

And it's not even a debate. Every single gal I've ever had feelings for wore glasses and had some semblance of intelligence.

Or pretensions of being artistically original, but hey! Whatever helps with the conversations right?

 

[steintym]

So I asked her what she was doing tomorrow and she said she didn't know and it depended on how she felt and stuff and that its hard for her to make plans and stuff because her life is very crazy. So I didn't get to ask her out like I wanted, but I did manage to finally get her number. I just don't know what I should do with it now, like if I should even text her tonight just to talk or if I should ask her out, though that's something I'd rather do in person.

I think you might have missed the mark when you asked her what she was doing tomorrow.

Just flat out ask her if she wants to do something. Let her tell you "no" or she's busy or whatever then.

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

Yeah, that's my initial thought, that its just an excuse. But then again, this girl is pretty weird in the sense that she doesn't really seem too bright and is gullible enough to believe the stupidest things, so I can't really tell what she's thinking based on how she speaks to me or others. Like I'll joke around and she'll laugh one minute and get offended the next. I've dealt with a lot of girls but this one by far is the most puzzling.

And I'm pretty sure that Sunday afternoon will be the last time I have a reason to see her since that's the last day of our show. I'll see her again tomorrow and Saturday evening, but I kinda want to do something beforehand since our call time for the show on those nights don't really give me much time to spend with her.

If someone is going to be that unpredictable, then any kind of relationship with them will not be fun. Trust me, I've been there. Nothing worse than not knowing whether the next thing you say will have them curled up laughing or hitting you around the head with a frying pan...

My advice? "Run for them thar hills pardner!" and find someone a bit more, stable?

 

[hopefuldreamer]

So I asked her what she was doing tomorrow and she said she didn't know and it depended on how she felt and stuff and that its hard for her to make plans and stuff because her life is very crazy. So I didn't get to ask her out like I wanted, but I did manage to finally get her number. I just don't know what I should do with it now, like if I should even text her tonight just to talk or if I should ask her out, though that's something I'd rather do in person.

That's EXACTLY what I say to guys who ask me what i'm doing, if i'm worried that they're asking in a date way and not in a friend way.

It means I really don't want to go out with them, but since they haven't come straight out and said 'will you go on a date with me' there's no way of me actually making it clear that I don't want to without jumping the gun and possibly getting the response 'Woah, I wasn't gonna ask you out, I just meant as friends' and me looking pathetic.

Just ask. Then you'll get an actual answer.

Yeah, that's my initial thought, that its just an excuse. But then again, this girl is pretty weird in the sense that she doesn't really seem too bright and is gullible enough to believe the stupidest things, so I can't really tell what she's thinking based on how she speaks to me or others. Like I'll joke around and she'll laugh one minute and get offended the next. I've dealt with a lot of girls but this one by far is the most puzzling.

And I'm pretty sure that Sunday afternoon will be the last time I have a reason to see her since that's the last day of our show. I'll see her again tomorrow and Saturday evening, but I kinda want to do something beforehand since our call time for the show on those nights don't really give me much time to spend with her.

What do you see in this girl?

 

[Anita18]

What do you see in this girl?

She's hot, seeing how a lot of other guys want her body?

My coworker, who's a very smart dude, was led into a very awkward date with a girl from OKCupid (she was too young for him mentally/emotionally and partied a lot) and ignored drunk party photos in her profile. All because of a photograph that showed off her butt very well. I gave him a good

Men.

 

[Anita18]

If someone is going to be that unpredictable, then any kind of relationship with them will not be fun. Trust me, I've been there. Nothing worse than not knowing whether the next thing you say will have them curled up laughing or hitting you around the head with a frying pan...

My advice? "Run for them thar hills pardner!" and find someone a bit more, stable?

It's not even the unpredictability being necessarily a danger - most people who get offended don't escalate to hitting you with a frying pan.

But you might end up beating yourself up if you can't predictably make her happy. Although FWIW I don't think making your partner happy is really your job, but if you want to surprise her with something nice and she gets offended instead...that's a difficult pill to swallow.

Also, if you're a lot smarter than this girl, will you be willing to take charge and explain things to her or take care of her when she does something stupid? Cause frankly I don't think many people who want to be in true equal relationships (NOT "hot trophy wife" relationship) would be up for that. It really does take a lot of patience and energy.

I'm not saying that you're bound to this girl for ever and ever if you end up dating her, cause you're still young and you'll be just dating. But, you've definitely invested a lot into just asking this girl out, so you have to dole out your dating efforts very carefully. I'm definitely not a casual dater so I was always fairly careful in who I put my energy into dating.

 

[SpideyVille]

Honestly, I can't really think of some quality in her that attracts me to her other than the fact that I think she's cute. And even then, I don't think she's the cutest girl I've gone after and I don't doubt for one second that I can do way better on so many levels. I don't feel mesmerized by her body like the other guys do, so that's not even the case for me.

But I think the big factor is that I'm single and she's a girl who is single. I know I'm not getting any younger and I have to stop waiting for the right one to come along, especially since I don't really have any experience. Heck, if this girl is giving me enough trouble in terms of me getting my stuff together, imagine how much harder it would be for me to try with someone who seems more worth the trouble.

I won't lie, I've half-assed this effort because part of me doesn't really care for her as much as I have for other girls, but I guess I just see this as an opportunity and after hearing so many other guys talking about how I should go after it before they do, it makes me feel like I should at least try. I don't really see a long future with her, but at the same time I would at least like to spend some alone time with her and see where things go instead of just giving up completely.

And being rejected is not what bothers me, but rather the way that she does it. I mean she seemed excited about the drawing thing, but every time I try to act on it, she doesn't seem like she's putting in the same effort, which is ironic because she told me I should be more prideful and not take crap from people, yet that's exactly what she's doing with me.