The Last Crusade of Relationships

[WillardNation]

Yeah, that's my initial thought, that its just an excuse. But then again, this girl is pretty weird in the sense that she doesn't really seem too bright and is gullible enough to believe the stupidest things, so I can't really tell what she's thinking based on how she speaks to me or others. Like I'll joke around and she'll laugh one minute and get offended the next. I've dealt with a lot of girls but this one by far is the most puzzling.

And I'm pretty sure that Sunday afternoon will be the last time I have a reason to see her since that's the last day of our show. I'll see her again tomorrow and Saturday evening, but I kinda want to do something beforehand since our call time for the show on those nights don't really give me much time to spend with her.

Tell her you have penis cancer and the only cure is to have sex right now!

Might I suggest you buy the playbook, by Barney Stinson?

She sounds she's the kinda girl you could totally pull the D.E.N.N.I.S. System on.

 

[terry78]

Why is every encounter in this thread like a sitcom?

 

[Anubis]

Life is a Sitcom.

 

[Anita18]

Haha - Hey, cut him some slack. It was probably a really sweet dumper.

I saw the pic, it wasn't all that.

Basically, it's about options. I don't have many so I'm working with what I have around me at the moment. Plus, she's cute, nice and approachable which makes me feel a little better about my chances since she's not as intimidating as most other girls I've known. It's just so hard to talk to her sometimes. And honestly, all I really want at the moment is just a chance to spend some time alone with her to talk, not even a full date or anything.

Wait...what?

"Steve, this *****e bag is Carol. This *****e bag is Annie. And this colossal *****e bag is Doug. *****e Bags? This is my man Steve."

You make it sound so easy. How would you do it when your friends can be the meanest, snarkiest people who may or may not find a flaw because they secretly don't want an intruder to ruin our dynamic?

Then it shall be a test.

At my ex-bf's wedding, his new father-in-law made a speech and joked that he knew this bf was the one for his daughter when he could keep up the verbal jabs with his wife.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I have a couple questions, how would you introduce a date to friends and how do you know whether or not you may have emasculated your boyfriend.

Don't.

Keep him a secret until it gets serious. That way you avoid their interference AND you get the thrill of having a secret love affair

As for your second question, I think you might have to give a bit more context. What happened?

 

[Lily Adler]

Some guy spilled his glass of vodka all over my dress. Noah (not his real name) got pissed and tried to make him apologize. I told him to back off and he calmed down. Guy makes a quip about him being whipped, so I sock one right into his jaw. My friends tell me I'm freakishly strong for a girl and they were right because he went down like a ton of bricks.

 

[Anita18]

Some guy spilled his glass of vodka all over my dress. Noah (not his real name) got pissed and tried to make him apologize. I told him to back off and he calmed down. Guy makes a quip about him being whipped, so I sock one right into his jaw. My friends tell me I'm freakishly strong for a girl and they were right because he went down like a ton of bricks.

Sorry, that is AWESOME!

 

[Lily Adler]

Thank you, I'm not proud of it. I'm usually calmer since my college days.

 

[Anita18]

Thank you, I'm not proud of it. I'm usually calmer since my college days.

Guys don't usually make comments like that to my face (I guess my "don't try anything with me" face does the job enough) but I wish I had the guts to do that to someone if needed.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Now, if someone had spilled vodka on HIM and you'd stepped in to try and make the guy apologise i'd say you were emasculating him...

But he fullfilled his man quota in defending you

Besides, if HE'D hit the guy, the guy might have hit him back... as unfair as it sometimes is IMO, if a girl hits a guy there isn't usually any physical comeback

 

[Anubis]

Heh, I'm reminded of the Sarah Silverman scene in The Way of the Gun.

 

[Lily Adler]

I was afraid that I did because I don't think he expected me to be able to do something like that. When I do show guys how strong I am they're freaked out.

 

[SpideyVille]

I've been there

I got over it the opposite way to what your saying.

You said you can't tolerate it because you expect to be treated better? I tolerate it because I expect it... I expect people to make absolutely no effort at all... and when people do start making an effort, it's a nice surprise, and shows they actually really like you.

I guess part of it comes from the fact that I'm a guy and it almost feels like its our role to be the one to make the initial effort. Not saying that a girl can't be assertive, but usually the pressure is on the guy to impress and to be the one to ask out.

Plus, I've played the "nice guy" for too long, so I'm purposely not trying to make too much of an effort because I don't want to seem like a pushover hanging on every command. A friend of mine said she's probably testing me to see how far I'm willing to go before either calling it quits or making a serious move.

Similar to what I said above, the thing is that if a girl likes you, it won't be any effort.

If a girl likes you, when you smile at her across the room, she will smile right back. She'll come over and start conversations with you. When you ask her what she's doing, she'll respond with something that makes it clear she wants to go out with you and is available.

For example, a guy I like who is a regular in my bar found out I liked him, asked for my number and said he was going to take me out on a date when he was drunk. I texted him the next day just saying 'hows your head' but he never replied. And then never called, and acted like it had never happened.

So I made no more effort. I backed off completely. I didn't act annoyed or anything, I just didn't make as much effort as I used to to stand near him at the bar so we could talk, and didn't stay after work to have a drink with him.

Sure enough, I go in the other day and he comes over to ME, starts a conversation with ME and buys me a drink for the first time.

That tells me that I might have a chance. That tells me that I should probably buck up and ask him why he never called.

But if he'd never bothered, i'd know that he really just didn't like me at all.

Well that's what I mean. I've gotten mixed messages too. Like she smacked me in the arm the other day because we still hadn't done it. Then the next time I asked her, she picked a time, but ended up showing up late. So its not entirely like she's flaked out on me. She just hasn't been as eager as I have, which makes me feel like what my friend said is true and she's just waiting to see how much effort I'll put in.

She sounds she's the kinda girl you could totally pull the D.E.N.N.I.S. System on.

Possibly, though I don't think I'd be capable of pulling it off.

Wait...what?

I mean it in that I know if I approach her, she won't be stuck up. But at the same time, its hard for me to start up a conversation with her because she's always running around back and forth, since she's our stage manager.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Well that's what I mean. I've gotten mixed messages too. Like she smacked me in the arm the other day because we still hadn't done it. Then the next time I asked her, she picked a time, but ended up showing up late. So its not entirely like she's flaked out on me. She just hasn't been as eager as I have, which makes me feel like what my friend said is true and she's just waiting to see how much effort I'll put in.

I doubt very much that she is consciously putting in less effort to see if you'll really try...

It's much more likely she just doesn't like you as much as you like her.

I mean, if you getting mixed messages then yeah, your in the same boat as me. It's obvious they do like you a bit, but for whatever reason they are refraining from actually going anywhere with it.

There really is only one option for us...

...Just ask.

Good luck.

The next time I see my bar guy, I promise i'm gonna try and pluck up the courage to ask him why he never called and then try and ask him out.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Some guy spilled his glass of vodka all over my dress. Noah (not his real name) got pissed and tried to make him apologize. I told him to back off and he calmed down. Guy makes a quip about him being whipped, so I sock one right into his jaw. My friends tell me I'm freakishly strong for a girl and they were right because he went down like a ton of bricks.

Well if he thought your BF was whipped, at least now he knows why! t:

Reminds me of when I broke a guys Jaw and 3 of his ribs right in front of his daughter once. I don’t feel bad for it what so ever, but having to pay 15,000$ of his medical expenses sucked.

 

[Dark Raven]

Some guy spilled his glass of vodka all over my dress. Noah (not his real name) got pissed and tried to make him apologize. I told him to back off and he calmed down. Guy makes a quip about him being whipped, so I sock one right into his jaw. My friends tell me I'm freakishly strong for a girl and they were right because he went down like a ton of bricks.

Are you like Catwoman at all? Somehow I keep imagining you like your avatar.

Well if he thought your BF was whipped, at least now he knows why! t:


Reminds me of when I broke a guys Jaw and 3 of his ribs right in front of his daughter once. I don’t feel bad for it what so ever, but having to pay 15,000$ of his medical expenses sucked.

Somehow you boasting about that and being proud of it just doesn't come across well compared to Libidoloca doing something to a guy (and also admitting she wasn't proud of it).

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Are you really surprised, though?

 

[Dark Raven]

Are you really surprised, though?

By SuperMike335!!'s brutish behaviour? Not really. It was just my way of saying that it's not something to boast about and doesn't come off well. It's not like everyone here's going to be impressed and praising him saying "wow, look how tough, strong and a true masculine role model you were for using excessive force and not even feeling remorse, but only complaining about the medical bill."

 

[SuperMike335!!]

By SuperMike335!!'s brutish behaviour? Not really. It was just my way of saying that it's not something to boast about and doesn't come off well. It's not like everyone here's going to be impressed and praising him saying "wow, look how tough, strong and a true masculine role model you were for using excessive force and not even feeling remorse, but only complaining about the medical bill."

Oh, this guy more than deserved it.

If there is a continuum of deserved beatings on a 1-10 scale this guy was a solid 10.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I don't think it's so much whether or not the guy deserved it, but rather your nonchalant, carefree attitude of "Oh yea I busted him up and broke 3 of his ribs. Sucks that I had to pay his medical bills" that comes off the wrong way.

Without any context of the situation, it comes off as a "bro-ish", wanna be badass statement.

 

[Anita18]

Well there's that...and there's doing it in front of his kid. That's just not cool.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well and then there's that too.

I know someone who always tells the story of beating up a dude in front of his wife and kids. Dude deserved the beatdown. But at least the person telling the story has a sense of regret for handling the situation in a poor fashion, and didn't use the incident to try to pump himself up as a "badass"

 

[Lily Adler]

Are you like Catwoman at all? Somehow I keep imagining you like your avatar.

I'm not sure what exactly you're asking, but I have a cat named, 'Miss Kitty' (originally P*ssy), naturally sharp nails that can break people skin without much effort, my friends tell me I'm very flirtatious when I want to be, I was in gymnastics for most of my childhood, I have a strange love for leather, I learned how to use a whip in my childhood and I used to be in a fight club at a local bar in my college days. Judging by all that I don't think I'm anything like Selina. t:

Edit: I also have a love for heels, my girlfriends think I'm crazy for wearing them all the time. But I don't feel comfortable without them.

 

[Dark Raven]

SuperMike335 comes across like that guy in the diner who beats up a powerless Clark Kent in front of Lois Lane in Superman 2. He probably thought that Clark thoroughly deserved it.

Did anyone cheer for that guy?

 

[SuperMike335!!]

I don't think it's so much whether or not the guy deserved it, but rather your nonchalant, carefree attitude of "Oh yea I busted him up and broke 3 of his ribs. Sucks that I had to pay his medical bills" that comes off the wrong way.

Without any context of the situation, it comes off as a "bro-ish", wanna be badass statement.

Alrighty then. Fair enough.

Well, I’m in the middle of having sex with a girl, NSA type with a girl not looking for any relationship, and I get a knock at my door. It does not stop and turns into loud pounding. This was ruining it for me, and so we stopped, and I put on my jeans and answered the door.

Outside is a portly looking fellow, middle aged, and I never saw him before. He has his fists clenched and that I want to hit you look on his face.
He asks me "what are you doing with my daughter?!"

Now at this point I’m terrified. Being a sex offender in my state means knocking on neighbors doors, and telling them such, and not being able to own a firearm etc… I’m beat red in the face, and all I can think of is calling my dad's attorney. I’m pissed too, because she told me she was 22 years old.

So, I yell for her in the angry man voice, and she comes out of my room with her clothes a mess.

I turn to her and I tell her to get me her ID I want to see how you she is.
Her dad (the angry guy in my doorway) interrupts me with "Don’t bother, she’s 22 years old".

So I’m like "WTF?!?!? Is the matter with you she’s a legal adult, not your property, this is not your business".

I turn to her and as I’m asking her if she needs to leave I feel a horrible pain in my crotch and cannot breath. The old bastard had punched me in the balls.

As I’m doubled over he screams in my ear "**** you, you piece of **** she still lives under my roof".

I might not a heavyweight MMA guy or anything, but I’m still a 240 pound combat veteran, who both used to competitively powerlift and boxed while in the Army. I do make the short list of the kind of guy not to get into a fight with, and he crossed the line in more than one way.

So I tackled him off my deck, and pounded him into hamburger, right in front of his 22 year old daughter and I was already on the phone with my dad’s attorney before the police and ambulance got there. I’m ****ing happy the little turd had to eat with a straw for a long time. Yeah, the only part about that which pisses me off is having to pay a chunk of his medical bills, which given the context was out of line.