The Lord of the Advice: The Two Towering Relationships thread

[hopefuldreamer]

I knew you were gonna say that

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I didn't think to take any

I do have this three way kiss pic to make up for it though

You're in that picture?

My friends, my contribution to this thread is now complete.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

You're in that picture?

My friends, my contribution to this thread is now complete.

Yeah, i'm the one facing away. I'm no longer a blonde now though.

 

[terry78]

Who's the damn Yankees fan?

 

[Godzilla2000]

#1, #3, #5, #6, #7, #8, & #9 - Yes to all.
http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=11865&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1338500

This is just a bit of grey matter junk inside my head, but I was just thinking of past love triangles I have been involved in and just why I am quite reticent about plunging int yet another love triangle again. You see, a lot of guys tell me I'm not aggressive enough, but it's different when you're a woman. We are not preternaturally, or we should not be, disposed towards territorial aggression unless it pertains to a threat to our safety and the safety of our brood. But I have experienced very aggressive, very unpleasant women who have hurt me physically because they hated me for catching the eye of a guy they were dating but were breaking up with. Some people see me as being scared of everything but they fail to realize that I have been the recipient of violence and verbal assault from jealous people in my past that I have more or less faced all alone with nobody to help me. This treatment has left too many unhealed scars that I just don't care going through all over again. I'm not that masochistic.

 

[Dreadstar]

#1, #3, #5, #6, #7, #8, & #9 - Yes to all.
http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=11865&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1338500

This is just a bit of grey matter junk inside my head, but I was just thinking of past love triangles I have been involved in and just why I am quite reticent about plunging int yet another love triangle again. You see, a lot of guys tell me I'm not aggressive enough, but it's different when you're a woman. We are not preternaturally, or we should not be, disposed towards territorial aggression unless it pertains to a threat to our safety and the safety of our brood. But I have experienced very aggressive, very unpleasant women who have hurt me physically because they hated me for catching the eye of a guy they were dating but were breaking up with. Some people see me as being scared of everything but they fail to realize that I have been the recipient of violence and verbal assault from jealous people in my past that I have more or less faced all alone with nobody to help me. This treatment has left too many unhealed scars that I just don't care going through all over again. I'm not that masochistic.

W@W! Thats a very good article for EVERY guy to read. Thank you for that.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Oh god, break out the popcorn.

 

[Anita18]

W@W! Thats a very good article for EVERY guy to read. Thank you for that.

#4 only pertains to women who want to have sugar daddies. I actually wish my bf would be MORE cheap, because he wants to freelance and I'm afraid I'll have to the one to get the job that pays the bills and provide health benefits. We can't friggin' afford to go to Whole Foods for all our grocery shopping!

Also Godzilla2000, how about eschewing immature love triangles to begin with and asking a guy out on your own, who's unattached of any crazy stalker ex-gfs?

 

[terry78]

#4 only pertains to women who want to have sugar daddies. I actually wish my bf would be MORE cheap, because he wants to freelance and I'm afraid I'll have to the one to get the job that pays the bills and provide health benefits. We can't friggin' afford to go to Whole Foods for all our grocery shopping!

Also Godzilla2000, how about eschewing immature love triangles to begin with and asking a guy out on your own, who's unattached of any crazy stalker ex-gfs?

Better start buying that Malt-O-Meal cereal from Safeway, fool.

 

[Lord Valumart]

Any idea what the best way to get rid of someone is? I mean we're not in a relationship, but all she does is text me random **** about how her life is hard and how I don;t understand how much she struggles and **** about her day. I ****ing hate it. I've told her she texts way too much but she keeps doing it. She sent me 12 messages during the time I showered. It's ****ing insane!!

If I kill her would you all judge me?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Ignore her, completely.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Any idea what the best way to get rid of someone is? I mean we're not in a relationship, but all she does is text me random **** about how her life is hard and how I don;t understand how much she struggles and **** about her day. I ****ing hate it. I've told her she texts way too much but she keeps doing it. She sent me 12 messages during the time I showered. It's ****ing insane!!

If I kill her would you all judge me?

Ignore her, completely.

Agreed. I don't think there is any other way to get rid of someone that needy.

Do you have to see her at all? Or can you just cut her out?

 

[Lord Valumart]

Yeh, I've tried to ignore her but she just doesn't take the hint.

 

[Anubis]

Change your number.

 

[Anita18]

Or put her number on a spam texting filter. Depends on your account though...My mom's in charge of the family plan so I had to give her the number to block.

 

[Anubis]

Or reply to every text she sends with "f**k off".

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Text her a photo of your poop. If that doesn't turn her off immediately, there's something unhinged.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Text her a photo of your poop. If that doesn't turn her off immediately, there's something unhinged.

There is a Family Guy clip of Quagmire wanting a picture of Lois' poop that would just fit so perfectly here if I could find it on YouTube

 

[hopefuldreamer]

There is a Family Guy clip of Quagmire wanting a picture of Lois' poop that would just fit so perfectly here if I could find it on YouTube

Closest I could get, but it's a really bad video that goes super fast...

[YT]Dfv_jxQFBrU[/YT]

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Exactly the one I was talking about

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Yeh, I've tried to ignore her but she just doesn't take the hint.

Just continue ignoring her. If she shows up unannounced repeatedly at your residence (and it's out of her way) you can actually press charges.

 

[Nave 'Torment']

i say go for all three simultaneously. In order of preference. Yours.

 

[Godzilla2000]

I have to say I don't agree with everything in this article:
http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/surprising-secret-happy-marriage-201400956.html

I want to be accepted for who I am and I don't want to change one thing about me at all. If I have to change who I am into something that I don't resemble just to make people happy that's wrong. You either accept me as is or you don't. It's just that simple. If you cannot just love me in my "fat" body wearing my sweats and t-shirts then just leave, go and don't come back until you've kicked your ego down a few notches and learned how to act like a normal, working class human being like me. You won't change a practical Spartan into a hedonistic, frivolous Athenian as the old saying goes. You know, personality wise I'd love a guy who is as open minded as Johnny Depp, who's okay with individuality and not wanting people to become cookie cutter L.A. Robots. I'm not going to get involved in a relationship where the survival of said relationship hinges on me being somebody that I'm not. The more people press me to do things I don't want to do, the angrier I become. I mean really, just how vain is it and how childish is it to expect more from your partner than who they are? This is advice from self absorbed, annoyingly extroverted people who have no right to tell people how to live because everybody is different and everybody doesn't live by the same standards as the person next to them.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

It entirely depends on the thing the person wants you to change. I think a certain amount of compromise is fine.

I mean, if I started going out with a clean freak, i'd certainly make more effort to keep my room clean and tidy. Or if I started going out with someone who doesn't like smoking, i'd definitely make an effort to quit.

It's not always about whether or not they will dump you if you don't do it. It's just a case of making an effort to make each other happy. They might love you despite all your faults, but that doesn't mean things wouldn't go a little smoother if you ironed a few out, especially if you don't actually LIKE those aspects of yourself anyway.

But i'd certainly be annoyed if anyone ever actually ASKED me to change and gave me an ultimatum.

 

[Godzilla2000]

It entirely depends on the thing the person wants you to change. I think a certain amount of compromise is fine.

I mean, if I started going out with a clean freak, i'd certainly make more effort to keep my room clean and tidy. Or if I started going out with someone who doesn't like smoking, i'd definitely make an effort to quit.

It's not always about whether or not they will dump you if you don't do it. It's just a case of making an effort to make each other happy. They might love you despite all your faults, but that doesn't mean things wouldn't go a little smoother if you ironed a few out, especially if you don't actually LIKE those aspects of yourself anyway.

But i'd certainly be annoyed if anyone ever actually ASKED me to change and gave me an ultimatum.

I have a temper, I'm the first one to admit that. But things go a lot smoother of people just let me make my own decisions about activities and whatnot. I hate people trying to force me to do things and go places I don't like to go to or do. I hate clubs, I hate crowds of people and I hate dancing so I'm not inclined to do stuff like that as a leisurely activity. What I do love to do is grab a book, bring my essentials, pack my backpack with food and take a bicycle ride out towards the lake shore and just have a leisurely day of reading and picnicking all by myself or with whomever is worthy of being my companion. I think my problem is with militantly extroverted people, people of the Kardashian/Jersey Shore level of illusory narcissistic pride who think the world revolves around their lifestyle trying to bully me, the intellectual slacker, into acting like one of their pot addled plastic clones.

I don't want a boyfriend and husband with no pride who collapses like a cheap deck chair in a light breeze when people put pressure on him to tell me to change into the ghastly creature they want me to be. I have had some rather pretty little packages with no substance sent my way in the past as bait from the reckless crew to trap me in their depraved, lonely lives. I say the keepers are the ones that tell everyone else to...and pardon my French...just go to hell when they try to be influenced by them. I don't want a monkey who let's people think for him. I want a man who is self possessed and confident enough to tell people to just back off and live their own meaningless lives the way they want to so that I can just keep on living a contented life they seem not to be able to conjure up with all their money and all their false friends.