Unfortunately. She is really damn awesome too...Idk I for some reason sabotage myself. It's like I help them throw me in the friend zone. "Here let me just throw myself no no it's fine you might pull something I'll throw myself there. Weeee!!!"
I can't figure it out
First of all, you should pay attention to her signals. Which I guarantee you that you don't. She'll let you know if she is interested, and it'll be fairly unsubtle in my experience. Although she won't always make the first move...
...which is probably what you're getting at when you say "sabotaging yourself".
First of all there is nothing wrong with being a friend to a girl. There's certainly the option for any friends to engage in sexual activity, and sometimes you start relationships but you have to genuinely be their friend for this to work. Like, you can't be, in your mind trying to figure out or conive your way into f***ing her. Doesn't work like that. You have to be their friend, keep a healthy distance as far as any overt romantic displays go. In other words these women would have to be your friend like a guy is your friend, and you have to be reluctant about f***ing them [when you're both sober...honestly that's how most friends bump uglies in my experience, but any way, it's random not designed].
Second of all if you don't want a friendship or don't want to continue a friendship without sex or intimacy you have to say so.
See, there is a hierarchy of how relationships begin.
Dating (or sex) leads to sex, leads to more regular sex, more regular time together not dating or having sex, and then finally some sort of relationship. That's more or less a gross generalization, but the point is you can't start with the spending tons of regular time together, or just talking all the time and expect the other things, i.e. the dating and or the sex, to just happen because of it.
One of the problems you have is you probably see people who are dating and in love and assume that's just a state of affairs. When you feel the "tug" that's the person you're suppose to be with. The "tug" sadly, is just your penis. Most people who you find attractive and maybe share a few things in common with are going to turn you on to the point where you get emotionally attached to them, but it's a very primal, sexual attraction. It means nothing. If you completely give into it and let yourself be a little direct you'll probably actually get laid just doing that. If you wish to take it slower and wait a few dates, well then you actually have to ask them out on a date. QUICKLY.
Basically what the friend zone is, well, it's exactly what it sounds like. It's you telling them things like "Golly the weather's nice chum" when you really mean "would you like to go out for dinner sometimes" or "I want to **** your tight *****".
So there is a subtle, perhaps unintentional, dishonesty. Imagine some Meg Griffin looking girl was following you around, texting you constantly and just droning on about her fanfiction hentai anime. After a while you'd be like "why is this person still talking to me. She never asks me for anything, and I'm really not into hentai, or anime, and her fanfiction is awful, but she's nice so I never have the heart to tell her". That's what you're doing essentially. You substituting being real and true with your intentions with a personality that won't rock the boat. Have to rock the boat. You have to try for something, even if it's a little something, each time you talk to this person. That way you'll establish an actual relationship rather than simply talking at each other, which is what you're currently doing. That won't result in nothing.
BUt regardless, is that what he is meaning, that Meg is wanting more?
