The Relationship Thread: Single Posters on Patrol - Part 18

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Yea, god forbid a guy leave and invest his time elsewhere after he's been rejected.

 

[Boy Scout]

I think it's a purposeful oversimplification of that particular situation that just so happens to favor the female.

 

[Doctor Evo]

Yea, god forbid a guy leave and invest his time elsewhere after he's been rejected, and then proceed to vilify the female.

Fixed.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Fixed.

Not really.

A guy isn't a bad guy because he hangs around a girl hoping for a relationship.

And while she's not inherently a bad guy for not returning the feelings, 1.) it IS in the best interest for the guy to move on and not deal with the female anymore and 2.) it actually IS possible for the female to be the bad guy as well

 

[ProjectPat2280]

So i just hit a breakthrough in my relationship with my ex. I went out with a frew friends tonight and got hammered. Well usually im the WORST drunk dialer on this thing we call a planet and i thought about texting my ex, but i completey didnt. I dont know why, but i looked at my phone and was like 'nah' im not doing it. Another cool thing was that i ran into a chick i used to pal around with in highschool and my first few yrs in college who has like become completely bad ass. She just got a new tatt and everything, wicked sexy. Could of been the drinks talking, but i was deff feeling her. Might have to hit her up when im actually able to do so without sounding a like jack ass.

 

[Anita18]

Not really.

A guy isn't a bad guy because he hangs around a girl hoping for a relationship.

And while she's not inherently a bad guy for not returning the feelings, 1.) it IS in the best interest for the guy to move on and not deal with the female anymore and 2.) it actually IS possible for the female to be the bad guy as well

No, but can you see how the girl would feel like she was tricked in a situation like that? She thought she was friends with a guy and when she says "Sorry, don't feel that way about you" then he bails out of her life completely. Kinda sucks.

I definitely have had already-attached friends not talk about their bfs/husbands around new guy friends who don't know them that well, because they don't want their new guy friends bailing. It sucks, but there's certainly a precedence.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Yes, but a "new guy friend" doesn't fit into the "friend who I trusted and I got used because he just wanted sex" category.

I would agree that it's jacked up if the guy was a long time friend and he bailed like that, but if it's just some girl he encountered, she's not interested? No. He's not wrong at all for that.

If we're posting cartoons, I find this one to be much more accurate:

 

[Anita18]

Yes, but a "new guy friend" doesn't fit into the "friend who I trusted and I got used because he just wanted sex" category.

I would agree that it's jacked up if the guy was a long time friend and he bailed like that, but if it's just some girl he encountered, she's not interested? No. He's not wrong at all for that.

If we're posting cartoons, I find this one to be much more accurate:

Yeah true. But if you had a friendship going, it's still a disappointment.

And yeah, that cartoon is true for really stupid, immature girls. I don't know any myself. Guys must gravitate toward them though. No sympathy from me in that case.

 

[ProjectPat2280]

If we're posting cartoons, I find this one to be much more accurate:

That is truth upon truth. 90% of all women summed up in that one little cartoon.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Yeah true. But if you had a friendship going, it's still a disappointment.

And yeah, that cartoon is true for really stupid, immature girls. I don't know any myself. Guys must gravitate toward them though. No sympathy from me in that case.

And on the same token I don't feel any sympathy for girls and women who gravitate towards *****ebags who only want sex or can't commit and then whine about how bad guys are.

 

[Anita18]

That is truth upon truth. 90% of all women summed up in that one little cartoon.

So I just happen to know the other 10%?

You're just one of the guys who gravitates toward such girls.

And on the same token I don't feel any sympathy for girls and women who gravitate towards *****ebags who only want sex or can't commit and then whine about how bad guys are.

Nope, same here too. No sympathy. I'm not biased!

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Nope, same here too. No sympathy. I'm not biased!

I am.

Not ashamed to admit that I'm completely jaded at this point.

 

[Anita18]

I am.

Not ashamed to admit that I'm completely jaded at this point.

You have the same issue as ProjectPat - you gravitate toward such girls. Or they gravitate towards you. Same result.

 

[Erzengel]

That is truth upon truth. 90% of all women summed up in that one little cartoon.

This is the battle hymn of 90% of men who get turned down by women who get their heart broken and blame everyone and their mother.

Do some women date *****ebags? Absolutely. Do some men date some real b's? Yes.

Pat I know you were in a relationship before she left you to be with a guy that you don't feel is deserving.

But most guys who say women like a holes or nice guys finish last use that excuse as a crutch instead of the "least likely" excuse that she just isn't attracted to you. And news flash being nice to a girl isn't an automatic key to their heart or pants.

 

[Ms. Marvel]

This is the battle hymn of 90% of men who get turned down by women who get their heart broken and blame everyone and their mother.

Do some women date *****ebags? Absolutely. Do some men date some real b's? Yes.

Pat I know you were in a relationship before she left you to be with a guy that you don't feel is deserving.

But most guys who say women like a holes or nice guys finish last use that excuse as a crutch instead of the "least likely" excuse that she just isn't attracted to you. And news flash being nice to a girl isn't an automatic key to their heart or pants.

Thank you!

 

[Doctor Evo]

Not really.

A guy isn't a bad guy because he hangs around a girl hoping for a relationship.

Nobody's saying that. You're ignoring the single most important aspect of the comic.

And while she's not inherently a bad guy for not returning the feelings, 1.) it IS in the best interest for the guy to move on and not deal with the female anymore and 2.) it actually IS possible for the female to be the bad guy as well

Nobody's saying it's impossible.

 

[Anita18]

This is the battle hymn of 90% of men who get turned down by women who get their heart broken and blame everyone and their mother.

Do some women date *****ebags? Absolutely. Do some men date some real b's? Yes.

Pat I know you were in a relationship before she left you to be with a guy that you don't feel is deserving.

But most guys who say women like a holes or nice guys finish last use that excuse as a crutch instead of the "least likely" excuse that she just isn't attracted to you. And news flash being nice to a girl isn't an automatic key to their heart or pants.

Yup. Women aren't vending machines. You can't put in niceness or flowers or jewelry or expensive dinners, and expect to get relationships or sex out of them.

Women are people of their own. Sometimes they'll do really dumb things or worse, things that you don't want them to do.

Pat, I mean, just think about it. You're blaming her irrationality for going back to her ex that you say treats her like crap. And then you say that you aren't attracted to women who are stupid. But then what exactly is her behavior if it's not stupid, according to you? Just listen to yourself, man.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Nobody's saying that. You're ignoring the single most important aspect of the comic.

Nobody's saying it's impossible.

The most important aspect of that comic is a lot of assumption and generalization.

Never once in my life have I met a guy who was mad about being "friend zoned" just because he couldn't get laid.

I have met guys who have been mad about being "friend zoned" when the girl in question kept stringing the guy along, making him think there was a chance of a relationship, when in reality she never had intentions for anything more.

 

[moviedoors]

Yes, but a "new guy friend" doesn't fit into the "friend who I trusted and I got used because he just wanted sex" category.

I would agree that it's jacked up if the guy was a long time friend and he bailed like that, but if it's just some girl he encountered, she's not interested? No. He's not wrong at all for that.

If we're posting cartoons, I find this one to be much more accurate:

You know what I'm more sick of than women that date *****ebags and make blanket statements about the other gender? Guys who ***** about women that date *****ebags and make blanket statements about the other gender.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

You know what I'm more sick of than women that date *****ebags and make blanket statements about the other gender? Guys who ***** about women that date *****ebags and make blanket statements about the other gender.

Yea, because my cartoon totally came out of nowhere.

It totally wasn't in response to another cartoon making blanket statements about guys or anything.

 

[moviedoors]

I have met guys who have been mad about being "friend zoned" when the girl in question kept stringing the guy along, making him think there was a chance of a relationship, when in reality she never had intentions for anything more.

You're friend's interpretation of those events might not be entirely trustworthy and I wouldn't be surprised if they're more complicated than as presented.

 

[moviedoors]

Yea, because my cartoon totally came out of nowhere.

It totally wasn't in response to another cartoon making blanket statements about guys or anything.

You're missing the point of that cartoon. It isn't to disparage men, it's to illuminate what it can be like from the woman's point of view in a friendzone scenario. And it works! I had never thought about it that way. It must make one feel very small when a friend completely loses interest in you when you don't want to have sex.

 

[Doctor Evo]

I have met guys who have been mad about being "friend zoned" when the girl in question kept stringing the guy along, making him think there was a chance of a relationship, when in reality she never had intentions for anything more.

I would strongly question their perception and interpretation in this case. What many guys consider "stringing along" is really the girl just trying to maintain a friendship.

It's similar to how many guys think that a girl saying, "Hi," to them means she wants to bone.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

You know what's less reliable than my friend's interpretation of the situation?

Some random guy on the internet's assumption about the interpretation of events that myself, and other guys that I know, have of a particular situation.

 

[Doctor Evo]

You know what's less reliable than my friend's interpretation of the situation?

Some random guy on the internet's assumption about the interpretation of events that myself, and other guys that I know, have of a particular situation.

He didn't make an assumption.