The Relationship Thread: Single Posters on Patrol - Part 18

[the last son]

If a someone is drunk (and I mean so drunk thatthey can not remember anything) and they kiss someone else, does it mean they are subconsciously attracted to that person?

No. I'm a drunk. I would know.

 

[teh Puffy]

If a someone is drunk (and I mean so drunk thatthey can not remember anything) and they kiss someone else, does it mean they are subconsciously attracted to that person?

I have been thinking of this all day. My situation could be different from yours but here is mine.

I go to the clubs often. I am not mister social. I was going to be the most social I have ever been. I saw a young lady trip a little I caught her asked if she was fine. You could tell she had drank prior. She grabbed my hand and proceeded to get real low for about 25 minutes.
A few times I would have her hand and she would look back up at me, smile and I would kiss her cheek softly. She then turned around and we made out a few minutes on the dance floor.
I sent a get home safe text and we talked after a while she asked what happened she was too drunk to remember anything. I explained everything to her, and that when her dress would ride up, I took my hands off her and lowered the dress, to show respect. I kissed her back to be respectful as well. I kept her near me cause I know I am a good guy and there would've been guys taking advantage of her.
She found that very admirable of me, wanting to be respectful.

It could have been a moment thing on the floor, but subconsciously I believe people do this cause there is something there.
Like me if I didn't kiss her cheek I would've regretted the night she is beautiful.

NOTE I WROTE THIS A COUPLE TIMES CAUSE I FEEL LIKE I WAS DISRESPCTFUL SORT OF AND DO NOT WANT TO BE SCORNED!

 

[Ms. Marvel]

I have been thinking of this all day. My situation could be different from yours but here is mine.

I go to the clubs often. I am not mister social. I was going to be the most social I have ever been. I saw a young lady trip a little I caught her asked if she was fine. You could tell she had drank prior. She grabbed my hand and proceeded to get real low for about 25 minutes.
A few times I would have her hand and she would look back up at me, smile and I would kiss her cheek softly. She then turned around and we made out a few minutes on the dance floor.
I sent a get home safe text and we talked after a while she asked what happened she was too drunk to remember anything. I explained everything to her, and that when her dress would ride up, I took my hands off her and lowered the dress, to show respect. I kissed her back to be respectful as well. I kept her near me cause I know I am a good guy and there would've been guys taking advantage of her.
She found that very admirable of me, wanting to be respectful.

It could have been a moment thing on the floor, but subconsciously I believe people do this cause there is something there.
Like me if I didn't kiss her cheek I would've regretted the night she is beautiful.

NOTE I WROTE THIS A COUPLE TIMES CAUSE I FEEL LIKE I WAS DISRESPCTFUL SORT OF AND DO NOT WANT TO BE SCORNED!

But in your situation you remember what happened.

 

[Anita18]

But of course, declaring that they've had a lifetime's worth of fantasies about you is charming.

Yeah that message would be way too try-hard for me.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Yeah that message would be way too try-hard for me.

I almost want to try that on the out of town girl I'm talking to now.

"So in my head, we've already been married about 4 times over. What you wanna do about it?"

lol.

No, on second thought, I think a "hey, how's your weekend?" text is a lot better.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

If a someone is drunk (and I mean so drunk thatthey can not remember anything) and they kiss someone else, does it mean they are subconsciously attracted to that person?

No.

I frequently kiss people I am not attracted to, even when I am drunk enough to remember it.

They call em drunk goggles for a reason. Everyone looks more attractive to you when you've had a few.

But of course, declaring that they've had a lifetime's worth of fantasies about you is charming.

It's charming in it's ridiculousness

Yeah that message would be way too try-hard for me.

I think it's a nice change when a guy makes an effort!

I almost want to try that on the out of town girl I'm talking to now.

"So in my head, we've already been married about 4 times over. What you wanna do about it?"

lol.

No, on second thought, I think a "hey, how's your weekend?" text is a lot better.

God no!

Don't ever send something like that to a girl you already know/are friends with/have a history with. It would be incredibly weird, and she could easily take it the wrong way.

It's only funny because we've never met

 

[Anita18]

I think it's a nice change when a guy makes an effort!

Make an effort? He could have copy-pasted that message to hundreds of girls.

Now a guy who actually mentioned something in my profile, that'd be making an effort!

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

God no!

Don't ever send something like that to a girl you already know/are friends with/have a history with. It would be incredibly weird, and she could easily take it the wrong way.

It's only funny because we've never met

I think that's what makes it creepier.

A girl I know? She has a MUCH better grasp of my sense of humor and what is or isn't a joke.

A girl I don't know at all or all that well? Well, considering that she doesn't know me I'd say THAT makes it easier for her to take it the wrong way.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Ugh, I am the worst flirter in the history of the world.

 

[Anubis]

Did you try sniffing her butt?

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Did you try sniffing her butt?

I told her I wanted to sniff her butt.

And then I licked her nose.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Make an effort? He could have copy-pasted that message to hundreds of girls.

Now a guy who actually mentioned something in my profile, that'd be making an effort!

He still made an effort to pick something more interesting to say that 'Hi, how are you?' to every girl he likes the look of.

I mean, how dull is that?

It made me smile. That's one step better than 70% of people that message me.

I think that's what makes it creepier.

A girl I know? She has a MUCH better grasp of my sense of humor and what is or isn't a joke.

A girl I don't know at all or all that well? Well, considering that she doesn't know me I'd say THAT makes it easier for her to take it the wrong way.

Nope.

Girl you know that you have a romantic history with - don't make jokes about marriage... you can keep saying 'it's just a joke', but she very much might think you're actually thinking about her as a marriage prospect in the future.

Person you've never met, if worded in a way that makes it clear it is a joke or a semi cheesy line, not creepy... just funny.

 

[Anubis]

Idiot. Sniff the butt, THEN lick the nose.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I think like most things, it depends on the individual.

I can think of a LOT of girls I know that I could make a marriage joke with, and it would be funny.

I can also think of a LOT of girls I know that a marriage joke would get the reaction you speak of.

But I'd have to be getting a real specific vibe from a girl I don't know to feel comfortable with a marriage fantasy joke.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Idiot. Sniff the butt, THEN lick the nose.

I couldn't help it, she had a big ol' booger and I was like "I want it so bad... giggity"

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[hopefuldreamer]

I think like most things, it depends on the individual.

I can think of a LOT of girls I know that I could make a marriage joke with, and it would be funny.

I can also think of a LOT of girls I know that a marriage joke would get the reaction you speak of.

But I'd have to be getting a real specific vibe from a girl I don't know to feel comfortable with a marriage fantasy joke.

I think that's more about confidence and character though.

If your a kind of 'cheeky chappy' character, and you say it with utter bravado and a wicked smile... you've won me.

And that's personally how I read a line like that in the context of POF. It's a cheesy pick up line, but one I found funny.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

And then I licked her nose.

I used to make a game at uni out of getting people to let me lick their nose. I told them it was a test of whether they were cool or not, and if they said no it meant they weren't cool.

You'd be surprised how few no's I got

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Yeeeaaaa.... "Cheeky chappy with utter bravado and a wicked smile" doesn't describe me.

 

[Anita18]

He still made an effort to pick something more interesting to say that 'Hi, how are you?' to every girl he likes the look of.

I mean, how dull is that?

It made me smile. That's one step better than 70% of people that message me.

My husband has the writing (and flirting) ability of a rock. But he listens to my concerns and is immensely receptive to my needs.

Which one is more important in the context of a relationship?

Yeeeaaaa.... "Cheeky chappy with utter bravado and a wicked smile" doesn't describe me.

As mentioned above, neither is my husband. But he's never attempted to make jokes like that. It's just come off as the creepiest thing, so he knows it's not gonna be his thing.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Yeeeaaaa.... "Cheeky chappy with utter bravado and a wicked smile" doesn't describe me.

Plenty of women aren't interested in that. It's just something I find attractive.

My husband has the writing (and flirting) ability of a rock. But he listens to my concerns and is immensely receptive to my needs.

Which one is more important in the context of a relationship?

I can't have both?

As mentioned above, neither is my husband. But he's never attempted to make jokes like that. It's just come off as the creepiest thing, so he knows it's not gonna be his thing.

Yeah it can definitely go either way.

 

[Anita18]

I can't have both?

My sister claimed she wanted a guy who could do the "Trekkie monster" (or Cookie Monster from Sesame Street, if you don't know what Avenue Q is) voice.

Her bf of 5 years cannot.

Sometimes you just take what you can get!

 

[hopefuldreamer]

My sister claimed she wanted a guy who could do the "Trekkie monster" (or Cookie Monster from Sesame Street, if you don't know what Avenue Q is) voice.

Her bf of 5 years cannot.

Sometimes you just take what you can get!

You speak as tho I said I was giving no one else a chance and only this guy with the cheesy one liner is good enough.

The bad one liner was just entertained me is all

And since I like being entertained rather than bored, he gets a a plus in my book.

Doesn't mean I rate 'one liners' as a quality over other more obviously important things

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Plenty of women aren't interested in that. It's just something I find attractive.

I've yet to find them

Ugh... I hate myself for getting myself into my current situations.

 

[Doctor Evo]

I kissed her back to be respectful as well.

Wut

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Okay, so I found a guy I actually like... But he's totally not looking for anything more than FB's.

Went to a pub my best friend goes to a lot but I'd never been in before last night, and the manager knows a couple of my mates so came and sat with us and had a drink.

Was pretty immediate connection, we were talking and laughing and he was sitting so close to me he was practically sat on my hand, and my hand ended up on his knee.

Played a few games of pool, he kept pinching my bum to put me off and generally being cheeky (which as you know, I love).

Anyway, by the end of the evening he kicked everyone else out and we went back into the pool room, and one thing lead to another... Had sex on the pool table. Chatted some more about life. Had more sex. It was kind of awesome.

Part of that conversation tho was that he'd broke up with his last g/f cause he just wasn't looking for the kind of commitment she was and wanted to be honest about it.

I told him I've stayed away from commitment for ages too, so we were cool to just have fun.

Kinda does suck tho

Also, I don't think the stuff going on in my head is very healthy.

Cause the whole time and even this morning, I couldn't shake this feeling of being completely baffled.

I was wearing my black work polo shirt and black trousers, both baggy and unflattering. My hair was just bunged up in a pony tail and not the cleanest. I came straight from work, so my make up was all in dissary.

Why on earth was he so attracted to me? Why did I even get him horny?

Cause personally, I looked in the mirror and what I saw was so far from sexy or even attractive

He said he was gonna call, but half my brain just says 'he's not gonna call. He'll probably be thinking 'what the hell did I do that for' by morning'.

I think this is why I have a hard time slowing things down and actually dating tho.

Because I have zero faith that a guys interest extends beyond the moment, and I'd rather at least have some experiances and some fun, than go through life constantly hoping for the phone to ring and being dissapointed.