The Temple of Doomed Relationships

[DV8]

Right well maybe you can tell me how to take that in a non offensive way.

Since I have already stated that I have more male friends than female...

You can think what you like tho. Good luck finding a good girl who will put up with that kind of ******* behaviour.

FYI, I am telling you now that I have a **** tonne of male friends who have no interest in sleeping with me. They are like my family. We all grew up together. Some of them have girlfriends, some of them don't. Some of them I've even slept with, as I've already stated when I admitted my magic number.

That does NOT make me a ****.

Nor does it make any girl who has male friends they see in person a bad girlfriend.

You need to get over your issues, or your options will be very few. And tbh, any girl who would allow a guy to tell her she CAN'T hang out with ANY men whatsoever in her social life, is doing herself an injustice.

ok, like I said there you went ahead and took what I was saying and put it in stark black and white; there are grey areas in every situation; I have absolutely NO problem finding females (yes with an "S", plural); right now I'm not in a relationship, but if I were it would be a big deal if my girlfriend, or wife had a male friend at work that she went on lunch with everyday, hung out with outside of work, or what-have-you; that's called EMOTIONAL CHEATING . . .

maybe you are a tomboy; you are on superherohype, afterall so maybe you are an exception; but the kind of women that I'm attracted to have no business having "male friends"; like I said, there is a difference between acquaintances and associates, but you are not gonna be hanging out, going to the movies, and/or going out drinking with other dudes . . .

Also, feel free to refer back to my original post that if you have a childhood friend you've grown up with, or something like that there are exceptions; I'm not saying you can't invite old friend to family functions and **** like that, but there are clear lines that will be drawn by me; maybe I'm one of the last dudes that has self-respect these days or something

 

[DBryan]

Good grief DV8, what age are you?

 

[hopefuldreamer]

ok, like I said there you went ahead and took what I was saying and put it in stark black and white

Seriously... you tell me what I should have taken from what you said.

I have stated that the majority of my friends are male.

You have stated that 'a female with more guy friends than chicks is most likely a **** or reformed **** (there are some exceptions to tomboys)'

Since I am in now way a tomboy, by your logic, what am I?

And please, i'm i'm taking this wrong, explain to me how... :S

 

[DV8]

Seriously... you tell me what I should have taken from what you said.

I have stated that the majority of my friends are male.

You have stated that 'a female with more guy friends than chicks is most likely a **** or reformed **** (there are some exceptions to tomboys)'

Since I am in now way a tomboy, by your logic, what am I?

And please, i'm i'm taking this wrong, explain to me how... :S

ok, so youre not a tomboy...there r sometimes other (but very few) exceptions...ps, u r in a superhero forum w a Superman avvy...u r kind of a tomboy for that alone....Ive known a few chicks that were girly, but still into sports and superheroes with guy friends and also had boyfriends but I hung out with them AND THEIR BOYFRIENDS; I didnt really just hang out w them alone thats disrespectful to the dude...now some girls had bfs and I DID hang out w them alone, and didnt care cuz their bfs were *****ebags...most of them I ended up sleeping with; a couple were even married; am I proud of that? No, but thats why there have to b BOUNDARIES

 

[BrollySupersj]

Being a close friend of two female friends I have, one married, one with just a boyfriend, I can't agree with what you say DV8.

But that's me.

 

[WillardNation]

Yeah, I'm gonna have to completely disagree with DV8.

 

[DV8]

Being a close friend to two female friends I have, one married, one with just a boyfriend, I can't agree with what you say DV8.

But that's me.

Ok...so these friends of yours...how often do u see/hang out/spend time with them and what kinds of things do u do together?

 

[Anubis]

It doesn't matter, you're overreacting.

 

[DV8]

It doesn't matter, you're overreacting.

u takin to me?

 

[BrollySupersj]

Ok...so these friends of yours...how often do u see/hang out/spend time with them and what kinds of things do u do together?

The one that is married, I've known since high school, just an FYI. I don't see her often, she has a two year old boy so her time is for hanging out with friends is limited. But when I do see her, we just chit chat and remember old times. Most of our interaction together is via texting since she never has free time. It saddens me as well, she is like my best friend, and I never get to see her, but her life is just busier than mine, it happens.

The other girl, is the sister of MY sister's boyfriend, I got introduced to her online via facebook back in 2010. We talk daily, and discuss like...everything. We joke around a lot and have a lot of laughs. Haven't met her in person, but we're pretty close. She lives in Vegas, but my sister and her boyfriend are planning to move her and her family down where we live in a few months.

 

[SpideyVille]

I have this one close female friend who finally has a bf now and instead of walking with her to the train station after class like I used to, I walk with her up until a certain point when I know her BF is picking her up, just because I wouldn't want him getting any ideas. Regardless of whether I like the guy or not, I wouldn't do anything that would jeopardize their relationship or even make him suspicious.

 

[DV8]

The one that is married, I've known since high school, just an FYI. I don't see her often, she has a two year old boy so her time is for hanging out with friends is limited. But when I do see her, we just chit chat and remember old times. Most of our interaction together is via texting since she never has free time. It saddens me as well, she is like my best friend, and I never get to see her, but her life is just busier than mine, it happens.

The other girl, is the sister of MY sister's boyfriend, I got introduced to her online via facebook back in 2010. We talk daily, and discuss like...everything. We joke around a lot and have a lot of laughs. Haven't met her in person, but we're pretty close. She lives in Vegas, but my sister and her boyfriend are planning to move her and her family down where we live in a few months.

Thank u...those r the same kinds.of interactions I have with old female friends as well...u r still friends, but u aren't as close as u were, youre more like an.acquaintance...u r at arms length because there r unwritten boundaries that need to be set between women in committed relationships and male friends

The chick in vegas is not even in the.same city as u right?

 

[DV8]

I have this one close female friend who finally has a bf now and instead of walking with her to the train station after class like I used to, I walk with her up until a certain point when I know her BF is picking her up, just because I wouldn't want him getting any ideas. Regardless of whether I like the guy or not, I wouldn't do anything that would jeopardize their relationship or even make him suspicious.

How did u originally meet her?

 

[BrollySupersj]

Thank u...those r the same kinds.of interactions I have with old female friends as well...u r still friends, but u aren't as close as u were, youre more like an.acquaintance...u r at arms length because there r unwritten boundaries that need to be set between women in committed relationships and male friends

The chick in vegas is not even in the.same city as u right?

No, but she will be in a few months.

 

[SpideyVille]

How did u originally meet her?

At school. We had a couple of classes together and then one day we started talking when she needed help with some assignment and we've been friends ever since.

 

[DV8]

No, but she will be in a few months.

And she has a bf? Do u think u will continue talking to her with the same frequency u r now? Do u think it will escalate into hanging out or even more than that?

 

[DV8]

At school. We had a couple of classes together and then one day we started talking when she needed help with some assignment and we've been friends ever since.

how.does she look? Is she average, attractive, unattractive?

 

[BrollySupersj]

And she has a bf? Do u think u will continue talking to her with the same frequency u r now? Do u think it will escalate into hanging out or even more than that?

If the plan goes through and she moves to where I live, it will be our first in-person interaction ever. Something we've both been looking forward to. She does have a BF, and she doesn't care that they'll be far apart. She said that they aim to "make it work". I'm just looking forward to meeting her in person.

 

[DV8]

If the plan goes through and she moves to where I live, it will our first in-person interaction ever. Something we've both been looking forward to. She does have a BF, and she doesn't care that they'll be far apart. She said that they aim to "make it work". I'm just more focused on meeting her for the first time.

Ooooh....so hes not coming with her? Lol so basically...kinda sounds like things r lining up for u to step into that role...u think shes hot?

 

[SpideyVille]

how.does she look? Is she average, attractive, unattractive?

I'd say she's attractive, definitely knows how to dress and has a good sense of fashion.

 

[BrollySupersj]

Ooooh....so hes not coming with her? Lol so basically...kinda sounds like things r lining up for u to step into that role...u think shes hot?

Nope, when she moves it'll be classic long distance relationship. I find her very attractive, definitely a good looking girl. But what has that go to with anything?

 

[DV8]

I'd say she's attractive, definitely knows how to dress and has a good sense of fashion.

Ok...so shes attractive and has a good personality...why didnt u ever make a move? Or did u at some point?

 

[DV8]

Nope, when she moves it'll be classic long distance relationship. I find her very attractive, definitely a good looking girl. But what has that go to with anything?

My point is...u kinda dig this girl...she is attractive and u guys talk all the time...in a way shes emotionally cheating on her bf already, with u...once he moves there, itll only b a matter of time b4 she moves on unless he moves there too...I give her a month and a half...

This is why females can't just have "male.friends".. Its human nature to connect, grow and eventuallymorrmore

 

[BrollySupersj]

My point is...u kinda dig this girl...she is attractive and u guys talk all the time...in a way shes emotionally cheating on her bf already, with u...once he moves there, itll only b a matter of time b4 she moves on unless he moves there too...I give her a month and a half...

This is why females can't just have "male.friends".. Its human nature to connect, grow and eventuallymorrmore

So, girls and guys cannot have close male and female friends, I get that.

But what about LONG BEFORE the girlfriend or boyfriend arrives on the scene? You expect a guy or girl to just ditch a close friend of several years just because it's "emotional cheating"?

 

[SpideyVille]

Ok...so shes attractive and has a good personality...why didnt u ever make a move? Or did u at some point?

At the time I was still hung up on some other girl and after all that blew up, I wasn't really interested in moving on to another girl at the time. Plus I wouldn't really say she's my type because she's my height (even though sometimes she seems taller) and that's sort of a turn-off for me. Plus we because such good friends that it would've been weird if I ever looked at her in that way.