The Temple of Doomed Relationships

[Anubis]

I'm Bi.

Living proof right here on your monitor.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Well, woman are at far less biological risk by "sharing" a male companion.

I just simply cannot do 2 guys one girl. Too territorial for that.

I’ve done the other way, with two girls. All you need is for the woman in your life to be Bi. Oh, and to have decent stamina, 2 girls can be 2x as much work.

I honestly believe bisexuality is far more common for women than it is for men.
I can only assume it is due to the effects testosterone has on the parts of the brain that control territoriality. The more testosterone, the less likely to be bi, and the more likely to be one way or the other.

That is my theory to explain the general trend I have observed, in that all the guys I’ve known to be bisexual, were rather effeminate men, who obviously didn’t have a lot of testosterone.

I’ve known some gay bodybuilders, who have extremely high levels of testosterone from injecting the stuff, and they are still gay as ever.

 

[Boy Scout]

Does anyone know any upbeat, happy love songs? The kind that you can dance to but still understand the message of? The girl I like is really into music, and I plan on surprising her on Valentine's Day. I've been searching for two days for a suitable song, but I haven't found one yet.

 

[Anubis]

 

[DV8]

Does anyone know any upbeat, happy love songs? The kind that you can dance to but still understand the message of? The girl I like is really into music, and I plan on surprising her on Valentine's Day. I've been searching for two days for a suitable song, but I haven't found one yet.

Justin Timberlake ALL DAY . . .

but without getting too much into it, I think your approach is all wrong; women say they like romance; they think they do; society tells them to, and while I'm sure she may appreciate it; not sure it's gonna help you get too far with her

 

[Boy Scout]

Oh my God.

 

[DV8]

I'm Bi.

Living proof right here on your monitor.

not too surprised by that; Lol; PS your avvy creeps me out I HATE RHPS . . .

 

[Boy Scout]

Justin Timberlake ALL DAY . . .

Not really a fan. Don't think she is either.

but without getting too much into it, I think your approach is all wrong; women say they like romance; they think they do; society tells them to, and while I'm sure she may appreciate it; not sure it's gonna help you get too far with her

The point is to just do something sweet to show her I care. I'm not looking for her to jump into her arms and ride off with me into the sunset.

 

[Anubis]

I got one!

 

[terry78]

The girl you "like" you're planning on "surprising?"

Does she know you like her exactly? Because that will be one hell of a surprise if you do this and she don't.

 

[Anubis]

Yeah, that could be rather devastatingly awkward.

 

[Boy Scout]

I got one!

That's actually not bad; but it's not exactly what I'm looking for.

 

[terry78]

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[Boy Scout]

The girl you "like" you're planning on "surprising?"

Does she know you like her exactly?

Oh yes. Trust me, I wouldn't be doing this if she didn't. The surprise isn't that I like her, it's the present itself.

EDIT: And yeah, normally I'd just buy a teddy bear or something, but I want to get her something unique. So...y'know...a singing teddy bear.

 

[bullets]

It is definitely a difficult one, and some people struggle with it more than others.

All of my exes are my friends still, and even the one who cheated on me with men I eventually did forgive, and we have hung out since.

But I remember when I was dating that guy, I had massive problems with his ex. For one, he still kept a picture of her on his wall. When I questioned him about it, he got very defensive and said he wasn't going to pretend that she hadn't been a part of his life just to make me feel more secure, and that I would just have to deal with the fact that he was always going to care about her (yeah, I know, he was a *****e ).

She even came back from uni for a weekend and he let her stay at his flat. In his room. While I slept on the couch downstairs like a mug.

To this day, I'm convinced they slept together. Not that he will ever admit it. Heck, he still won't admit he's gay!

I don't think you should worry about exes on facebook, but do try and reassure the girl your dating that it doesn't mean anything... just don't treat her like my ex *****e did basically.

Wow, Your ex is a real db , I can't believe he couched you but I'm glad you got out of that one. I hope all my exes are doing well but I don't sit there with a picture on the wall , lol.

I've jumped into relationships to soon after a break up though and gave it away by talking about them too much. Never a good thing.

 

[SpideyInATree]

Wow, Your ex is a real db , I can't believe he couched you but I'm glad you got out of that one. I hope all my exes are doing well but I don't sit there with a picture on the wall , lol.

I've jumped into relationships to soon after a break up though and gave it away by talking about them too much. Never a good thing.

Agreed. Wow...that guy certainly king of the *****es.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Firstly, I've asked all my mates and apparently I AM a tomboy, so DV8 was right about that!

Secondly, okay I'm right now doing something possibly really stupid.

One of my friends has been trying to hook up with me ever since he broke up with his girlfriend.

I've resisted until now, but he is cute, and I haven't been with anyone for a while. We've had sex before but I was really drunk and don't remember much.

Been flirting quite heavily all night though, I'm at a poker match right now and he's been rubbing my leg up all night... And I have been reciprocating.

Just had a snog in a corner of the pub where no one could see, and it does seem kind of fun.

Should I go for it?

Wow, Your ex is a real db , I can't believe he couched you but I'm glad you got out of that one. I hope all my exes are doing well but I don't sit there with a picture on the wall , lol.

I've jumped into relationships to soon after a break up though and gave it away by talking about them too much. Never a good thing.

Yeah he was a total *****e to the nth degree. And since he was my first real boyf, as well as my first time (was a virgin till 19) you can see why I've only really had casual relationships since.

When I was in love, I put up with way too much ****. I mean WAY too much. The guy was absolutely perfect for the first few months, treated me like a princess, was great with my friends (so supportive when one of them lost a father), he even cried when I went to uni.

I guess things started to fall apart when he realised he was gay. But I can only see that now. At the time it just looked like he was being a *****e. Would only sleep with me on occasions, and not even on my birthday! He would flirt with other girls to over compensate, make himself look like an alpha male.

Let's just say my head was ****ed up by it all.

 

[bullets]

Secondly, okay I'm right now doing something possibly really stupid.

One of my friends has been trying to hook up with me ever since he broke up with his girlfriend.

I've resisted until now, but he is cute, and I haven't been with anyone for a while. We've had sex before but I was really drunk and don't remember much.

Been flirting quite heavily all night though, I'm at a poker match right now and he's been rubbing my leg up all night... And I have been reciprocating.

Just had a snog in a corner of the pub where no one could see, and it does seem kind of fun.

Should I go for it?

Hell Yeah, Go for it !

Yeah he was a total *****e to the nth degree. And since he was my first real boyf, as well as my first time (was a virgin till 19) you can see why I've only really had casual relationships since.

When I was in love, I put up with way too much ****. I mean WAY too much. The guy was absolutely perfect for the first few months, treated me like a princess, was great with my friends (so supportive when one of them lost a father), he even cried when I went to uni.

I guess things started to fall apart when he realised he was gay. But I can only see that now. At the time it just looked like he was being a *****e. Would only sleep with me on occasions, and not even on my birthday! He would flirt with other girls to over compensate, make himself look like an alpha male.

Let's just say my head was ****ed up by it all.

That's messed up and from what I gather he still hasn't come to terms with it ? At least there was nothing you could have done and it falls on him. It's still a mind***k but at least your out of it.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Hell Yeah, Go for it !

Okay, if you say so

That's messed up and from what I gather he still hasn't come to terms with it ? At least there was nothing you could have done and it falls on him. It's still a mind***k but at least your out of it.

Yeah that's kind of how I see it. There were so many times we'd fall out and break up, but we kept getting back together. I honestly don't think I would have gotten rid of him if it weren't for the fact there was literally NOTHING that could have repaired the damage of finding out he'd slept with three different blokes I knew over a year of me being with him.

Though insanely, he still tried to get back with me two years later one new years eve. Told me he'd never stopped loving me, that he made a mistake and wanted me back.

My response - ... But, your gay. He went balistic, denying it profusely I basically had to tell him there was nothing he could do to change my mind, as I'd believed he was for two years!

Even now, if he's out and so am I, if I'm flirting with another guy, he tries to undermine them, tries to flirt too. Stole my belt out of my trousers last time I saw him, cause I was talking to a guy I like.

Thankfully, he doesn't come out much, so I don't have to deal with it!

 

[Boy Scout]

How you can sleep with three men and still deny being gay is something I'll never understand.

 

[SpideyInATree]

How you can sleep with three men and still deny being gay is something I'll never understand.

Well, the guy, like a lot of gay men, is in denial. Something he needs to work on. Maybe sleeping with one guy you could shrug and say, "Hey, maybe he was just curious." However, three different guys he obviously ENJOYED something about it.

 

[Lily Adler]

I've slept with three men and I'm not gay.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

How you can sleep with three men and still deny being gay is something I'll never understand.

Join the club!

He says it was 'mistake'

What, you just tripped and fell into their bumholes? 3 times!?



Though I must say, I was an idiot too.

One of them told me, and I didn't want to believe it. I confronted him, and he told me so heartily that it wasn't true and the guy was just trying to get between us.

I KNEW it was true, but I so badly didn't want it to be that I stayed with him.

It was only AFTER I dumped him one night because he'd made me wait three hours in a pub on my own while he was round at this older womans house and then strolled in drink with her in tow.

A week after that, one of my best friends broke down crying and revealed the truth that he'd slept with him, in the same bed we slept in, a WEEK before I lost my virginity too him.

I doubt he even changed the sheets

 

[Anubis]

Guys a ****.

 

[Boy Scout]

Well, the guy, like a lot of gay men, is in denial.

Yeah, I get that, but I mean...it's one thing to deny it when you're just looking. Hell, you could even pass off sleeping with another man as "experimenting." When you sleep with three, I think you owe it to yourself to stop pretending.

Something he needs to work on. Maybe sleeping with one guy you could shrug and say, "Hey, maybe he was just curious." However, three different guys he obviously ENJOYED something about it.

Exactly.