Where did I say or imply that I think Nolan is condescending? You took every point in my post (and your own misreadings of my points) and mentioned it, so naturally I assumed that you were responding to me. Pointing out Nolan's omissions and his contradictory attitude toward the parts of the Batman mythos that aren't in his saga are valid criticisms. Like you said, if Robin is in a crib in BB, then what happens if TDKR ends with Batman putting away the mantle for good? If "Robin's in a crib," does he just stay Dick Grayson in his universe? Nolan started out trying to depict Batman's origins in a few films, and now he seems to be trying to capture the story of Batman in three episodes. It's not something we can confirm yet, but if Nolan's "completing" the story means retiring Batman, then yes, I think there has been some straying away from the view that Nolan originally gave us of this saga.
A lot of that would not be a problem if the eight year gap saw Batman living outside the law as a vigilante fighting others in his rogue's gallery, but I don't think we're going to see that.
My hope is that Nolan means he is completing his story arc: how Batman came to be the legendary caped crusader, rather than trying to complete the story of Batman. Based on what we've heard, it will be an amazing film either way, but it just bugs me for some reason.
I really don't understand why Nolan thought that a villain like Penguin wouldn't fit into his series, while Bane does. I've always had an issue with Bane being the final villain because that makes Knightfall such a pivotal influence for the film. People are going to have certain expectations about him being broken. I wish he had used a character who has been in the comics since the early years of Batman, but I since I can't think of a better villain, I've been pretty quiet about my dislike of his choosing Bane.
It seems to me that Nolan has created a very interesting final villain for Bruce to face, but I don't think he's the Bane of the comics, while I think the Joker is in more ways than not a good representation of the comics Joker in his darkest moments.