Advice and Relationships Again: A Hypester's Tale

[Erzengel]

My sister-in-law gets involved in all kinds of crazy garbage. She is convinced that talking sex and sending nude photos of herself to guys she just met online is perfectly normal. This is her main way of trying to start a relationship.

... and not to be too mean, but ... she's not exactly a supermodel.

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[hopefuldreamer]

 

[Dreadstar]

Maybe I send her a text and ask her if I can see her tonight and go for a walk and talk. Then I can give her back her camera.

She will prob say yes just to get the camera back. Her son gave it to her, so it has sentimental value.

 

[Erzengel]

Maybe I send her a text and ask her if I can see her tonight and go for a walk and talk. Then I can give her back her camera.

She will prob say yes just to get the camera back. Her son gave it to her, so it has sentimental value.

Maybe before you go for a walk, you can practice a speech where you bare everything to her and don't worry I'm sure she won't punch you in the heart.



Seriously, you're trying to force a square peg into a round hole.

 

[Dreadstar]

Maybe before you go for a walk, you can practice a speech where you bare everything to her and don't worry I'm sure she won't punch you in the heart.



Seriously, you're trying to force a square peg into a round hole.

SO just move on? I thought its worth a try.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Yeah I'm with Erz. It doesn't sound like it's worth a try.

 

[Dreadstar]

I know this, but I want her back so badly, I am willing to do anything!

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

SO how long does it take to move on? Honestly, I cant go to some places in the city as it reminds me of her and it is too painful. She works downtown and I cant go there, I get really upset. I feel VERY empty inside, it actually hurts. I cant eat or sleep. I have NO energy to do anything. I usually go out with my other comic book friends tonight after our comic store closes to a bar for nachos, but I cant go! I am too down. I was suppose to take her for lunch tomorrow. Oh how I would give anything to be able to do that again!

I am prob going to start to cry tomorrow at noon, as thats when I would meet her at her work and take her out for lunch. I honestly cant take much more of this.

You're 50 right? I'm 28? It takes me a bag of weed, a few swear words and ten minutes to get over someone like that.

She sounds exactly like my last one, all I did with her was told her "I'm mad" then walked away.

Then I busted my ass, bought new clothes, got a haircut and the next time she saw me I was dressed to the nines and hanging with this hot chick.

Seriously dude. Quit acting like a little b****. That's probably why she broke it off with you.

 

[Anita18]

I'm still not over my ex and it's been over 4 years

I really believe what they say though, you don't get over someone until you fall in love with someone else. Or at least, it's not easy.

It can be done. I was completely over my ex before I met my current, and we were totally cool having convos with each other as if we'd just been friends.

It helps to realize that the relationship wouldn't have worked out because of personality differences. There were no "what ifs" just, "Man if I knew then what I know now about myself..."

I am thinking of texting her tonight and asking her for another chance. Tell her I will do anything to change. I will prob start crying. It will prob not work, but what have I got to lose. Then she will ask for her camera back. I will tell her I was taken by surprize and unaware. She says thats part of the problem, I could not see these issues but how am I suppose to see what she subjectively sees as issues unless you communicate them to me!

No. Just no.

If you offer that, then you will NEVER please her, because she will know she can even tell you to dump comic books and women's underwear if you're that desperate to stay with her. Everything's in her court.

Retain some of your dignity and just walk away.

 

[steintym]

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I'm doing you a favor by not passing this info along ... trust me, lol

 

[Dreadstar]

It can be done. I was completely over my ex before I met my current, and we were totally cool having convos with each other as if we'd just been friends.

It helps to realize that the relationship wouldn't have worked out because of personality differences. There were no "what ifs" just, "Man if I knew then what I know now about myself..."


No. Just no.

If you offer that, then you will NEVER please her, because she will know she can even tell you to dump comic books and women's underwear if you're that desperate to stay with her. Everything's in her court.

Retain some of your dignity and just walk away.

You are prob right. BUt I thought this would SHOW her that I REALLY CARE! But I dont understand how she can call me honey and always wants to see me and always hold my hand or lean on my shoulders, always texts me everyday, always want to fall asleep in my arms, etc, then all of a sudden say she is done! "I do not want to continue a relationship with you!"

And I would never dump comic books and womens underware, I know I would regret that and thats why one of the many reasons I liked her so, she was cool with all of that!

 

[steintym]

Optimus finally said what we've been thinking ...

 

[Dreadstar]

She broke it off with me because I am a little *****? What does that mean? I treated her very well. I never did anything to intentionally hurt her.

 

[Anita18]

You are prob right. BUt I thought this would SHOW her that I REALLY CARE! But I dont understand how she can call me honey and always wants to see me and always hold my hand or lean on my shoulders, always texts me everyday, always want to fall asleep in my arms, etc, then all of a sudden say she is done! "I do not want to continue a relationship with you!"

And I would never dump comic books and womens underware, I know I would regret that and thats why one of the many reasons I liked her so, she was cool with all of that!

Some really immature women will tell you what you want to hear, while secretly hoping to get you to read their minds. Logic does not work with these kinds of people.

 

[Erzengel]

Maybe you just weren't the guy for her. You could do everything in your power, but if somethings not there, it's not there. Maybe she was forcing something that she realized was a futile effort.

 

[Dreadstar]

Maybe you just weren't the guy for her. You could do everything in your power, but if somethings not there, it's not there. Maybe she was forcing something that she realized was a futile effort.

Your prob right. But her issues are ones that can be resolved. Its so stupid! Its not like I hit her or was a drunk or drug abuser or anything.

 

[Coca Cola Duracell Franklin.]

She broke it off with me because I am a little *****? What does that mean? I treated her very well. I never did anything to intentionally hurt her.

The girl at the gym told her about your advances.

 

[steintym]

Seriously, go out tonight like you were planning, have a beverage or two and take your mind off things.

 

[Anita18]

She broke it off with me because I am a little *****? What does that mean? I treated her very well. I never did anything to intentionally hurt her.

Um, besides humping a girl half your age and looking to date yet another?

Even if she didn't mention it, she might have either found out somehow or could tell from your demeanor that you had others waiting in the wings.

Don't play the innocent card here. My bf deleted his Plenty of Fish profile shortly after he met me even though we weren't officially an item for months. By keeping your options completely open, you showed exactly how committed you were to her. Which was, not at all. She just returned the favor by not beating around the bush. (No pun intended. )

 

[AndrewGilkison]

Um, besides humping a girl half your age and looking to date yet another?

Even if she didn't mention it, she might have either found out somehow or could tell from your demeanor that you had others waiting in the wings.

Don't play the innocent card here. My bf deleted his Plenty of Fish profile shortly after he met me even though we weren't officially an item for months. By keeping your options completely open, you showed exactly how committed you were to her. Which was, not at all. She just returned the favor by not beating around the bush. (No pun intended. )

So the player got played? Interesting.

 

[Anita18]

ZOMG I can't. It's two fronts of relationship crazy right now, on another forum I'm on.

The crazy spinster just admitted she's 1000x more torn up about the 5-month casual-dating non-relationship where she was dumped unceremoniously than the 26-YEAR-MARRIAGE SHE JUST GOT OUT OF.

And then she just mentioned she wears thongs. Just imagine a 50-year-old wearing thongs. You're welcome.

This along with the Olympics (namely the badminton debacle), there is not enough popcorn for me today. Seriously.

 

[Hound55]

Everything happens for a reason.

In this instance, it seems to be the reason is "for my amusement".

Dance, love and cry, puppets! Dance, love and cry!

 

[Schlosser85]

ZOMG I can't. It's two fronts of relationship crazy right now, on another forum I'm on.

The crazy spinster just admitted she's 1000x more torn up about the 5-month casual-dating non-relationship where she was dumped unceremoniously than the 26-YEAR-MARRIAGE SHE JUST GOT OUT OF.

And then she just mentioned she wears thongs. Just imagine a 50-year-old wearing thongs. You're welcome.

This along with the Olympics (namely the badminton debacle), there is not enough popcorn for me today. Seriously.

Where is this place?

 

[Hound55]

She's been cheating on us...

And she didn't even give us the courtesy of telling us it was because we're fat...

 

[amazingfantasy15]

She broke it off with me because I am a little *****? What does that mean? I treated her very well. I never did anything to intentionally hurt her.

BS! You're so full of crap! You were trying to bang a girl half your age and were planning on hooking up with someone else because she was going on vacation. You never cared about her until she left your ass. It's like I've been saying all along, thrill of the chase, that's all you care about. If she took you back, you'd be right back to your old ways of trying to get another girl. Let her go, you don't deserve her.