I'll ask you now, a two part question: did YOU ever cheat on someone? Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes.
And denying a physical act its emotional and psychological component is cowardly.
I said ascribing it a power it doesn't neccessarily have is dangerous. I never said that it has no power. The impact is has is up to the person who is in the situation. Of course sexual acts can have emotional and psychological impact...but it doesn't have to be a life shattering one...I believe in balance.
What you DO defines you. I don't give a **** what you say you feel.
I would imagine you don't give a **** about the intersection between feelings and actions becuse you realize that what you do doesn't inherently have anything to do with your feelings, which change from time to time.
Thanks for helping me make my point. A physical act does not mean you don't feel "love" for someone. Love is an emotion...loving is an act, but there's nothing inherent to the idea of love that suggests that you will never hurt someone.
If I screw another woman, I am proving I don't care about the emotional commitment I made.
No you're not. You're proving you wanted to screw another woman. You can very much still care about the emotional commitment you made...you just failed at it for the moment.
Its only a lie if you lied about the commitment.
You can't retroactively say an entire emotional commitment was a "lie" because you failed to succeed at the commitment.
That's high school nonsense.
I have proved that I am mentally feeble enough to throw away a promise to another person.
Thats because you are. You've basically proved you're human. All humans are mentally "feeble" enough to do such a thing...it's called free will and choice. We're all capable of hurting others, breaking promises, etc.
Sex is not the be all, end all of a relationship, but throwing that to the wind is childish.
Throwing what to the wind is childish?
If you dive in with your genitals, and then go "it's just sex," when you made a promise, you are an emotional and intellectual liar. For all the great game you talk, you have proved you are incapable of actually walking your talk.
You're only an emotional and intellectural liar if you lie.
What "game" are you referring to?
I'm going to bed. I'm going to go lie down next to the woman I love, the woman I would never betray, the woman I would never call a "*****". The woman I would never blame for my own transgressions. The woman I would never dream of making ****** excuses to because I was too stupid to take responsibility for my actions.
Never is a long time...and a dangerous word. And not everyone blames their partner for their own transgressions and makes excuses when they cheat.
So...what's the deal with people that like Sado Masochistic Bondage abuse? For the love of God I just cannot fathom why anyone would think that hurting another person they claim to care about is showing them love. Now I'm talking about something personal here and I don't keep it a secret that I was physically abused and it was not fun and it was not what I consider showing someone how much they love you. If it's an adrenaline thing I've listened to music that has made me feel much more positive adrenaline rushes, like certain battle themes from the Monster Hunter games. In my opinion though anyone that likes this stuff I think needs intensive therapy because bruises and scars are not indicative of love but self hatred and hatred of others if you derive pleasure from seeing others suffer. It makes me believe that person has a very damaged psyche that needs help before they hurt an innocent person that did not want to participate in their unhealthy fixations.
Its not about love…its about what gets some people off.
Pain. Intensity. Its about control, mostly.
A lot of people who have had control over sexual and social situations like to lose it from time to time, and this gets them off.
