Advice and Relationships Again: A Hypester's Tale

[Erzengel]

I mean, what kind of f**ked up excuses do you have to have to objectify women like Dreadstar does?

I'd say his mother making him wear dresses and forcing him to wear makeup type of childhood abuse.

 

[Dreadstar]

Good job, you avoid another opportunity for an adult relationship.

How so? By running to her place and being her personal lap dog?

 

[Anita18]

Hey, you know you're talking to an actual ovaried woman, right?

Also, I think women spend $$$ to look good for other women, not men. Men are not that picky, in my experience. If it's tight, a man will be there, even if it's a cheap thing from Walmart.

Sorry for making you feel unimportant.

 

[Anita18]

I'd say his mother making him wear dresses and forcing him to wear makeup type of childhood abuse.

Hmmm, a Freudian angle. Could also explain the thing about women's panties. I like the way you think!

 

[SymbioticToxin]

Well you have to give a little bit more information.

Like...what does she like? Does she like Italian? Chinese?

From there, the internet is your friend. A lot of sites that break down recipes that even idiots can look like chefs.

I'd even do the recipe a few days before so you know it's going to be good.

I cook from time to time. I'm a big fan of Rizzotto, Tuna, and or Chicken because it's easy.

If you want to do red wine stick with Tuna of course.

I'd definitely include wine and don't go over the top with it. Keep it casual but class it up a little bit with nicer silver wear, plates and don't go overboard on candles and flowers. Kind of like you threw it together or a whim but it came together nicely. That's what I'd go for.

Steaks are great too, just a bigger production to do properly.

I just messaged her what kind of food she likes. She's at work, so I won't get a reply until she has a break or she gets off work later tonight. I do plan on looking up some recipes online, and we have a few cook books lying around the house. I don't plan on serving wine since I can't get a hold of it (And I don't have the funds for it.), but if I can get a hold of it somehow I might pour us a glass or two :P

We also don't have the greatest set of dishes, but I know we have a few nice plates that we use for big dinners, so I can try to find them in the cupboard somewhere. The candle is a nice touch, especially since I plan on having it out on the patio so we can be alone without people pestering us.

Thanks guys

 

[Anita18]

I just messaged her what kind of food she likes. She's at work, so I won't get a reply until she has a break or she gets off work later tonight. I do plan on looking up some recipes online, and we have a few cook books lying around the house. I don't plan on serving wine since I can't get a hold of it (And I don't have the funds for it.), but if I can get a hold of it somehow I might pour us a glass or two :P

We also don't have the greatest set of dishes, but I know we have a few nice plates that we use for big dinners, so I can try to find them in the cupboard somewhere. The candle is a nice touch, especially since I plan on having it out on the patio so we can be alone without people pestering us.

Thanks guys

Also depends on her tastes, but something with balsamic vinegar. It makes everything better, and fancier, I think.

 

[SymbioticToxin]

Well, I do enjoy trying to make things fancy....*sips tea with pinky extended*

 

[Dreadstar]

Of course it explains the panties. My mom let me play dress up in her clothes when I was very young, before I started kindergarden, Once school started, I was not allowed to do that anymore. But by that time it was too late.

 

[Anita18]

Well, I do enjoy trying to make things fancy....*sips tea with pinky extended*

Good! I recommend this one, although it's red wine vinegar and not balsamic...

http://www.marthastewart.com/348049/vinegar-glossed-chicken

I use whatever kind of chicken I have lying around, but bone-in makes it look fancier. It's really REALLY good.

 

[Erzengel]

I just messaged her what kind of food she likes. She's at work, so I won't get a reply until she has a break or she gets off work later tonight. I do plan on looking up some recipes online, and we have a few cook books lying around the house. I don't plan on serving wine since I can't get a hold of it (And I don't have the funds for it.), but if I can get a hold of it somehow I might pour us a glass or two :P

We also don't have the greatest set of dishes, but I know we have a few nice plates that we use for big dinners, so I can try to find them in the cupboard somewhere. The candle is a nice touch, especially since I plan on having it out on the patio so we can be alone without people pestering us.

Thanks guys

Just be careful of cooking times and her arrival.

If you do cook something like steak, you don't obviously want it sitting until she gets there.

 

[Anita18]

Of course it explains the panties. My mom let me play dress up in her clothes when I was very young, before I started kindergarden, Once school started, I was not allowed to do that anymore. But by that time it was too late.

She secretly wanted a daughter and you've never been able to get over the resentment. That explains everything.

 

[The Guard]

But...yeah. If you want to date around, don't be clueless and/or a jerk and imply that you're exclusive when you're not.

Yeah. In my mind, at some point during the first or second actual date...you should be getting to the whole "I'm not looking for anything serious" talk.

I feel like, having been treated to a picture of flared women's jeans...that it may be about time we get a picture of the famous Comic Chick, and Fling Girl and Vacation Lass and whoever else there might be.

As far as having sex with drunk girls making you a rapist goes...eh, I can't get onboard with that. It may make you a slightly less moral person, but it doesn't make you a rapist.

What makes you a rapist is either having sex with someone who has not indicated that they want to have sex because they are flat our incapable of communicating or passed out, or having sex with someone after they say "No". Although sometimes "No" means "Yes". Being a grownup is hard.

But plenty of people can be drunk, even very drunk, and still know exactly what they're doing.

 

[SymbioticToxin]

Just be careful of cooking times and her arrival.

If you do cook something like steak, you don't obviously want it sitting until she gets there.

Don't worry, I've put some thought into that as well. I don't want to make her wait too long, but if she has to wait like a minute or two than I think we can both manage.

 

[Anita18]

As far as having sex with drunk girls making you a rapist goes...eh, I can't get onboard with that. It may make you a slightly less moral person, but it doesn't make you a rapist.

What makes you a rapist is either having sex with someone who has not indicated that they want to have sex because they are flat our incapable of communicating or passed out, or having sex with someone after they say "No". Although sometimes "No" means "Yes". Being a grownup is hard.

But plenty of people can be drunk, even very drunk, and still know exactly what they're doing.

Plenty, but certainly not all. That's why there's that legal definition.

I agree that drunk sex is a very very murky area. Especially when both people are drunk. It's just...you can feel victimized even though you were also the assaulter. It's a messed-up situation overall.

Don't get trashed, people. I think that's the main lesson from all this.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I just messaged her what kind of food she likes. She's at work, so I won't get a reply until she has a break or she gets off work later tonight. I do plan on looking up some recipes online, and we have a few cook books lying around the house. I don't plan on serving wine since I can't get a hold of it (And I don't have the funds for it.), but if I can get a hold of it somehow I might pour us a glass or two :P

Yellow Tail.

It's basically a table wine that retails anywhere from $7-$11. I get it about every other time I shop for groceries and keep it on hand most of the time in my bedroom...

[BLACKOUT]I converted an end table I have into basically a little 'entertainment table' - I call it - I keep wine and booze on the top. First drawer has an iPod dock in it, speakers come out the top. Second drawer has glasses, shot glasses, and all my weed paraphalia. It's like having a mini bar in your room...it's great! Flatscreen will go above it next month hopefully.[/BLACKOUT]

Yeah, just do a table wine, they're really cheap and the Yellow Tail tastes quite good in my opinion.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

And now he doesn't understand the difference between women wanting to look attractive / presentable versus a woman willingly being a sex object.

 

[SymbioticToxin]

I'll see if the grocery store around here has it, which works out perfectly since we're going to the store tomorrow.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Plenty, but certainly not all. That's why there's that legal definition.

'Drunk sex' is incredibly hard to prosecute since you need to be able to show the person was intoxicated to the point where they were unaware. Usually since there's no eye witnesses at the time of the would be rape this is hard to prove. Drunkeness is a classic defense in court for all sorts of crimes, it's not something they accept on someone's word.

 

[Dreadstar]

She secretly wanted a daughter and you've never been able to get over the resentment. That explains everything.

Its true. I was suppose to be a girl! And its no secret, my mom told me that. My name was suppose to be Ashley. Thats why t this day, when I got my ears pierced, my mom got me diamond studs. She buys me floral bed sheets and gave me the old floral curtains she had for my kitchen, pink and purple ones! Pretty cool! And she also likes my flare jeans and says they look good on me! And, yes, she knows I wear panties. She was a really good mom and never brought it up or embarrassed me about that.


Prob not a good idea in hindsight.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

You're not kidding. It's pretty much a regular topic with my female friends. But that's different. They're just friends.

Friends can screw. Not an ideal circumstance but sex does not equal relationships.

It's not awkward for me at all. It's them I'm worried about. In high school, there's this general attitude that you're a pervert or something if you bring it up out of the blue.

Then be a pervert and don't give a sh** that others think that.

Look at Dreadstar, case in point. Thinks he needs to adopt avoidance tactics and manipulation to talk about something everyone else is straightforward about.

I'd rather be around an honest pervert than someone who was trying to lure me into a discussion/circumstance by doing/saying something else.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Its true. I was suppose to be a girl! And its no secret, my mom told me that. Prob not a good idea in hindsight.

I'm gonna start showing this thread around the office.

 

[Boy Scout]

Making innuendos or jokes, or if she says something somewhat flirty, you can come in with something a little more risque....

I've done that a couple times. Dunno why I didn't think of it myself. Thanks, man.

Again, believe what you want. You dont know her and when I post stuff, you default to the "I dont believe you" so its no use with you.

That's because you're full of ****.

LOL you think the sex talk is awkward?

Not really. I just know it can be, and I'd rather avoid making it so.

Wait until you get to the "Can you drive me home? My menstrual cramps are starting to get really bad" or the one-of-you-is-disgusting-ill part. Both of which my bf handled like a champ.

Sounds like standard procedure.

Thats where you are all wrong. WOMEN LOVE to be objectified!

 

[Boy Scout]

Friends can screw. Not an ideal circumstance but sex does not equal relationships.

I know. Trust me, if they offered, I wouldn't hesitate.

Then be a pervert and don't give a sh** that others think that.

If they want to go ahead and think that, that's their problem. I'd just rather not have to deal with it.

Look at Dreadstar, case in point. Thinks he needs to adopt avoidance tactics and manipulation to talk about something everyone else is straightforward about.

I'd rather be around an honest pervert than someone who was trying to lure me into a discussion/circumstance by doing/saying something else.

Yeesh...good point.

 

[Dreadstar]

I'm gonna start showing this thread around the office.

You do that. How old are you? Guessing in your 20s.

 

[steintym]

I'm not sure if this is where I ask this, but I figure some of you in here might be able to give me a few good ideas.
This girl I like is leaving on the 18th for Germany for a year. She's having a going away party, but I want to do something special, that being make her a nice dinner. Now, seeing as I've never done something like this and I want it to be special, I need some ideas of what to serve, atmosphere, what to say/do, etc. Normally I wouldn't stress over this, but I really do like this girl and I want to do something extraordinary before she leaves.

I'd make sure you have an idea what types of food/meals she enjoys and go from there.

My ability to cook a decent meal is pretty much limited to something I can grill. A nice meal prepared by me probably involves a steak or ribs, but I know that doesn't necessarily impress everyone.