completely respected your point of view; but I need to give you some of mines:
*I was hyped and waiting too when they announced that chris nolan was godfathering new superman movie and to say it it exceeded my expectations...
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"Clark barreling Zod into downtown Smallville putting more lives in danger while his mom is still left with 3 kryptonians"
well man the team in charge did smth that was never done... a vulnerable superman emotionally... He´s not even Superman yet... He reacted as a human but the intention of superman wasn't to throw Zod into Smallville... that was a coincidence Superman didn´t know where they were gonna land cause at this time Clark only wanted to save his mom taking zod out of his reach (and as a consquence Superman knew that if he take down Zod the soldiers were going to be supporting Zod and not doing nothing until Zod gives an order... you know THE ARMY DOES IT...)
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"It is Superman's involvement in bringing the monster who caused these casualties that bothers me."
Well man that's a little unfair... Superman only put the key to know more about his people (he felt something is gonna happen) but that is a consequence but is not directly Superman's fault (he didn't knew about Zod tracking signals) I appreciate the responsability of Superman (and the way they handled... more like as if yeah I´m Zod and I came to Earth by playing chance and your solar system won.. I see that more realistic..
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"In some ways I find the movie more childesh, like Snyder built up these beautiful cities and sets and then BAM BAM BAM CRASH LETS DESTROY IT 'XPLOSIONS HAHAHA!"
you answered yourself... that kind of power and with Zod out of control... plus the military and the terraforming... but if you see it it was only a part of the city not all the city one thing that has this movie is not childish... its realistic in that way, that kind of power can't only damaged cars and little stuff
It is realistic to have such destruction and death toll from a villain of Zod's power.
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"It would have also been nice to see his xray vision and superhearing showcased more, maybe to look for survivors or something. And any acknowledgement of the destruction at all. "
(snyeder said that there was a scene but was cut that many people were evacuating the city before the w.e. attacked so we can assume there wasn't too much casualties)For me it will broke the Superman's scream and crying scene and the supes-lois moment, but we can assume Superman maybe used his powers like x-ray and strenght and superhearing but not in this film maybe they can use it to introduce the next movie like the WF movie intro or flashback things that could envolve that and will be more awesome to connect as TDK connect BB scene scarecrow in the begining...
"the trailers built up the movie as a hopeful, emotional, and character driven one."
and They give us that exactly.. the movie is hopeful yeah ( no matter how bad the humans were with clark he is the simbol of hope no matter that the military attacked superman also he also saved the Col. Hardy... emotional? man if smth has this movie is emotions since the goodbye my son till the end to clark jr. with the cape made me cry...) but has emotions enough I mean I didn't want another Superman Returns too emotional in excess... and character driven was great (with some details) but for the cmb genre all the important character has the perfect intro to explain us who the character were (even if in previous superman films we know who was each character), we didn´t want too much driven cause the movie could result boring and heavy, losing the fluency the movie has...
I know that you like the movie but some things bothered you.. the tornado scene for me was one of the most emotional I´ve ever seen and has a great message that Pa kent sacrified his life to Clarks destiny... but that´s your opinion... I have mine
I loved the movie... the story was great not perfect but Goyer and Nolan did a great job.. I liked the way the story was told like flashbacks things BB STYLE you know...but yeah it has its flaws... I also like the Donnerverse I and II only... but some people think that the action doesn't have consecuences and the superman that nothing happens was from the 70´s that no casualties no FACTUAL.. that´s because I loved the movie because even if he´s Superman he can't save everyone and that could be exploted in a good way