Dating Advice Thread... Cuz I'm Dumber Than Sh**...

[Machx72]

Listen kid, start up a conversation with her, preferably away from the others, then just say "Hey, let me take you out." If she's up for it, she'll go. If she says, "You are too young" at least you dropped a pair and asked her.

Remember the worse thing she can say is no.

I know, but my problem with, "her saying no," wasn't so much that'd she'd reject me, as much as it was that I'd have to be around the awkward **** afterward, throughout my theatre's rehearsal process, and possibly future ones.

 

[Erzengel]

http://members.lovingyou.com/vbulletin/upload/index.php?



Here. I found this for you. Its website about this kind of stuff...Its a much better place then a comicbook movie board...

Yeah cause look at this type of advice.

I recently met a guy, I have heaps in common with him and we get along really well when we spend time together, he told me early on when we met that he can't get into anything serious because of family problems that he is dealing with, but that he really likes me and wants to see me, but doesn't want to get too attached until he moves out of home and away from his family problems.

He is a teacher and works all week and he never talks to me all week, he talks to me one day on the weekend and we will usually end up meeting up, he will say that he is busy all week because of school and his family and that is why he doesn't contact me on those other days.

I have never dated anyone before so I am really unsure all this...

Is he a playing with me... or is he genuinely just asking me to be paitent and wait for him?

And is only contacting me once a week just normal when you have only being seeing someone like a month?

This is one of the replies.

Everything sounds perfectly normal to me. I would just relax and go with the flow.

I felt like signing up there to tell this poor girl the reason why he's not calling you all week is he probably has a gf/wife. What guy likes a girl but only calls her once on the weekend.



Yes great advice at that website.

 

[Superman79]

http://members.lovingyou.com/vbulletin/upload/index.php?

Here. I found this for you. Its website about this kind of stuff...Its a much better place then a comicbook movie board...

yeah, but it's much more fun here. t:

 

[Machx72]

Effin' double posts...

 

[Erzengel]

I know, but my problem with, "her saying no," wasn't so much that'd she'd reject me, as much as it was that I'd have to be around the awkward **** afterward, throughout my theatre's rehearsal process, and possibly future ones.

There's nothing worse than regretting not doing something. So what if she's uncomfortable, weird around you, even if it does bother you that she said no, just don't show it and act like nothing is wrong. Trust me most people tend to go back to the status quo.

 

[Machx72]

Hm...

I'll keep that in mind.

I need to start thinking more, damnit.

 

[Erzengel]

No you have to start thinking less.

That's the problem.

You are thinking of all the if's and and's.

Yes there's a possiblity she's going to say no. I think most guys here have been turned down by women at some point in their lives. It's not a big deal. Don't make it one.

 

[Kyalesyin]

I'd drop em and ask her. Its not like you're in a bar and she keeps smiling at you. If a chick in a bar is looking at you, she's either using you to make someone else jealous, or she wants a free drink. I do both of these when I'm out alone.

Theatre rehearsals? She's probably there because she's not all that good at getting dates anyways. Heck, she might even tell her friends that you're a really sweet guy, and you'll wind up with one of them instead. Can't be a bad thing.

 

[Immortalfire]

Try wearing your underwear on the outside of your pants.

 

[Cmill216]

Try wearing your underwear on the outside of your pants.

QFT. Women think Quailman is HOT.

 

[Machx72]

@Kyalesyin: I doubt she's doing that, as we haven't really talked very much.

Try wearing your underwear on the outside of your pants.

Bingo. I'm goin' for this one.

 

[jaguarr]

Superman79 and Erz have got this one.

jag

 

[WeaponZ2]

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[WeaponZ2]

Yeah cause look at this type of advice.







This is one of the replies.







I felt like signing up there to tell this poor girl the reason why he's not calling you all week is he probably has a gf/wife. What guy likes a girl but only calls her once on the weekend.



Yes great advice at that website.

Its not the point. The point is when you want advice from the web about love go to a love site. When you want advice on weather you should pick up "Punisher: War Journal Vol.2"...you come here. Coming here for advice on love is like looking for hunting tips on website for animal rights activist.

 

[Erzengel]

People tend to seek advice from those they can somewhat relate to. And yes while this is a comic book messageboard, this forum is basically designated for non-comic book discussion and a lot of posters here do feel connected and treat each other as "friends" if not, people they feel they can confide in.

Granted, most people only posts problems that they need verifcation of their decisions, a lot of times they just need that nudge.

 

[Kyalesyin]

@Kyalesyin: I doubt she's doing that, as we haven't really talked very much.

Ahh, sorry, I should have made that clearer. What I meant was that if you ask her on a date and she says no, she may still tell everyone you're a nice guy.

 

[Cmill216]

Heck, she might even tell her friends that you're a really sweet guy, and you'll wind up with one of them instead.

Word of mouth?

 

[Prognosticator]

Okay, so I'm in a theatre production at my college, and one of the girls there I recently took interest in. It's hard to figure out whether she's interested in me, given a lack of knowledge of "signals" people babble about all the time. Only thing I got is that she gives me those stares from her, as well as a few smiles [which judging from her personality, may just be her being nice].

Something about her told me she was pretty young, but I wasn't sure... However, physically, she looked older, as I told my friend, "about 24 or 25."

But I found out she's 24 [yet still single]. Having the low self-esteem when it comes to girls that I have, and the fact that I'm not sure many girls would go for a guy 6 years younger, what'd be the best way to approach her, find out if she's interested, perhaps ask her on a date if she is?

Hang out in small group settings first. If either one of you is a poor communicator then this is the best way to ever learn anything about each other.

Then, take a class with her, or use theater to create some middle ground.

Then, do some simple, non-threatening activities like hanging out at the local coffee shop. (this can be repeated as often as needed.)

Then, if it seems like both of you are still feeling it. Ask her out. IMO, it sounds like this is the best scenario (all joking aside) if you are ACTUALLY interested in the girl.

 

[GunBlade]

DO NOT ASK HER ON A DATE ON FIRST MEETING.

I absolutely ABHOR when guys do this. Instead get to know her first, talk to her then go from there.

 

[Cmill216]

I absolutely ABHOR when guys do this. Instead get to know her first, talk to her then go from there.

That's what I ****in' said.

Especially if you're the kind of person who lacks the confidence to go up and ask a girl out directly. Let her get to know you a bit and get a feel for you, as well as you getting a feel for her.

 

[WeaponZ2]

People tend to seek advice from those they can somewhat relate to. And yes while this is a comic book messageboard, this forum is basically designated for non-comic book discussion and a lot of posters here do feel connected and treat each other as "friends" if not, people they feel they can confide in.

Granted, most people only posts problems that they need verifcation of their decisions, a lot of times they just need that nudge.

I understand. But it still makes sense to me.

 

[Superman79]

People tend to seek advice from those they can somewhat relate to. And yes while this is a comic book messageboard, this forum is basically designated for non-comic book discussion and a lot of posters here do feel connected and treat each other as "friends" if not, people they feel they can confide in.

Granted, most people only posts problems that they need verifcation of their decisions, a lot of times they just need that nudge.

Bingo

 

[Immortalfire]

Curse fran, Mister J and Mee and DL...everytime someone asks girl advice, I think of a GR87 quip.

 

[Superman79]

Curse fran, Mister J and Mee and DL...everytime someone asks girl advice, I think of a GR87 quip.

and that's a bad thing how????


BTW- I believe I have achieved the Ultimate coup de grace over GR87... as my roommate IS a Hooters girl.

 

[Machx72]

Okay, here's the rundown...

I've already talked to her a few times, although only about costume measurements for my costume in my play.

I've gotta see her tomorrow, so I'm hoping I get the chance to talk to her, although the only real icebreaker I can think of is talking about the scene we're in together, how long she's been doing theatre, etc.

I'm still 50/50 on when I'm gonna ask her to do something, though. I think she's graduated from college, so taking classes with her is outta the question.