Gymrats & Stalkers: "I Was Assaulted In A Public Restroom"

[Lightning Strykez!]

I have made it clear to him that I am not interested in being his "experiment."

And I believe this is what Nell2ThaIzzay was getting at: Some straight people do use this gay thing as an excuse for whatever. I'll say this: I will be highly pissed if this turns out to be some sort of "Oh, I was curious once and experimented with this firefighter guy I know".



That would cut me to the heart.

 

[-Arya-]

Two times in one night?

Yes. It's not a farfetched notion to be anxious about an event more than once on a given day.

 

[Marx]

I have made it clear to him that I am not interested in being his "experiment."

And I believe this is what Nell2ThaIzzay was getting at: Some straight people do use this gay thing as an excuse for whatever. I'll say this: I will be highly pissed if this turns out to be some sort of "Oh, I was curious once and experimented with this firefighter guy I know".



That would cut me to the heart.

The fact that he is getting noticeably aroused would tell me that he isn't using you. You do not get physically turned on by another man if you're not genuinely attracted to them.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

Also, the fact he stated "I need to show you how I feel about you" and sex was the answer?

It points to experimentation. Especially as he wants sex on his terms.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

The fact that he is getting noticeably aroused would tell me that he isn't using you. You do not get physically turned on by another man if you're not genuinely attracted to them.

Aye. But that doesn't mean he's not using me as a piece of...meat.

 

[Marx]

Also, the fact he stated "I need to show you how I feel about you" and sex was the answer?

It points to experimentation. Especially as he wants sex on his terms.

I'm not so sure about that.

Aye. But that doesn't mean he's not using me as a piece of...meat.

You doubt yourself far too often...

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

He presses the sex issue, and afraid as he is, he's not really deferring to the more experienced guy for ANY pointers. He just gets frustrated and leaves.

 

[Marx]

He presses the sex issue, and afraid as he is, he's not really deferring to the more experienced guy for ANY pointers. He just gets frustrated and leaves.

I do see your point...it's just a little complicated by Jason going into another room to release himself.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

I do see your point...it's just a little complicated by Jason going into another room to release himself.

Oh no, it's MASSIVELY complicated. I'm just more curious about other things Jason does/says.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

I am thinking about canceling his stay this weekend. Do you guys think that's a good idea? I mean...we've established that he's gay. At the very least. But to me...there are still majorly mixed signals.

He's getting off work at midnight, so I need to decide now. All I gotta do is sent him a text...and I think he'll probably know the reason why.

I am just not trying to get hurt here. He says all the right stuff sometimes...and then he does crazy weird actions that just confuse me.

 

[knowsbleed]

Ground rules...

establish them.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

I'd sit him down and talk to him. Like Knows said, put your foot down.

Maybe cancel it and tell him you guys NEED to talk first. To let him know that he can't just get mad and go off whenever he wants.

 

[Marx]

I think you should ask him why he felt the need to go into another room instead of staying with you.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

Yeah, confront him with it.

Might break the ice and lead to what you both want.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

He'll know I was eavesdropping on him in the john though.

Isn't that tipping my hand a bit?

 

[Marx]

That depends. Was he loud enough for you to hear him from bed?

 

[knowsbleed]

Tell him about the cameras you have installed in the toilet.

 

[Gilpesh]

Isn't that tipping my hand a bit?

No. That's what he was doing.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

He'll know I was eavesdropping on him in the john though.

Isn't that tipping my hand a bit?

Did he know you were watching him?

 

[Marx]

You could always say he woke you up when he got out of bed and you heard him?

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

That depends. Was he loud enough for you to hear him from bed?

Not from the bed. But at the door I could hear him moaning and cussing like a sailor under his breath. Along with...other sounds. Ahem.

Did he know you were watching him?

No. The door was closed. And I left the lights off in the bedroom the whole time. He has no clue I was listening...and it's not like I stood there really long.

No. That's what he was doing.

That's the first time I've actually laughed out loud today. Thank you. LOL

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

lol Then there's no "tipping of your hand" there.

Gotta tell him, "Hey, Scro, caught you beatin the meat in my bathroom. Get in bed, and I'll show you how it's done." Be all authoritative.

 

[Gilpesh]

lol Then there's no "tipping of your hand" there.

Gotta tell him, "Hey, Scro, caught you beatin the meat in my bathroom. Get in bed, and I'll show you how it's done." Be all authoritative.

Yes. Ma'am.

 

[LouFerignoDemon]

No, that would be bad.

I'd just tell him, "Yo, caught you one handed, sometimes two. We're gonna make it happen," in that deep voice, and totally let him know you're pulling the rope.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

LOL

Thanks for all the suggestions. But I think we are going to simply have it out in a real heart-to-heart conversation about where this is going. And I am not going to bring up the sexual aspect, but rather ask him point blank: How do you feel about me?

Now I have tried to broach this subject a few times now, but before he comes in my front door I am gonna let him know that I am angry with him and that we need to talk. Perhaps that will make him understand the seriousness of what he's doing?