Good post. I think I need to refine a bit what I'm trying to say.
Both Donner and Snyder portray Superman as an exceptional person, because obviously he is. But I feel Snyder leans into it a bit more: the dialogue between Jor-El and Lara at the beginning where Jor-El says "He'll be a god to them", for example.
Ultimately, I think the reason I get this impression is more because of the third act of MOS, as well as Superman's demeanor throughout much of BvS. Where Christopher Reeve's Superman expressed concern for innocent civilians during his battle with the Kryptonians in Superman II, Henry Cavill's Superman destroyed whole buildings in his battle with Zod, doubtless leading to the deaths of countless people, and yet doesn't seem fazed by it at all. The moment where he kills Zod to save the family at the end is a weak attempt to compensate for his seeming indifference to human life that categorized the rest of the climax.
In BvS, Superman appears to help people out of some sense of grim obligation. He rarely seems happy when he's saving people, unlike Reeve's upbeat demeanor when he saves Lois during his debut in STM. Then you have Snyder's direction reinforcing the image of Superman as this distant god-like figure. That moment in the montage when the woman in the flooded area reaches out to Superman, who appears in silhouette hovering above the family like he's in no rush to save them, is a good example.
Another example of how Snyder's Superman comes off as more Randian than Donner's is in the scene when Martha Kent tells him, "You don't owe this world a thing. You never did." With Donner's Superman there seemed to be some indication that he should use his great gifts for the benefit of humanity; to use a motto from another superhero, "with great power comes great responsibility." But with Snyder's Superman, his parents are basically telling him to look out for number one.
Remember the scene in MOS when Jonathan suggested that Clark should have let a bus full of schoolkids die in order to protect his secret? That's what I mean.
See above. But his Earth parents did suggest in MOS that he should live an ordinary life, when Jonathan tells Clark that maybe he could become a farmer.
I hear what you're saying, but I think it's just a different take on how Clark views himself in the world. The Martha dialogue is more realistic than fantasy imo. So I'm not so sure it's about any philosophy on Snyder's part so much as trying to really ask the tough questions. How would these parents handle this extraordinary circumstance. What would a loving mother say to her son who felt the weight of the world on his shoulders and was starting to get criticized for everything he does. Would that mother say, "Clark, now, now, you have to do what's right, you know that," and thus put even more pressure on him, or would she she say something like, "Clark, honey, it's up to you, it has to be your decision to help, not because you have to, but because you believe in it. I know your heart, and I'm proud of you no matter what, but it's up to you."
The second response seems more realistic, more human, more motherly.
With Superman II (and to be clear, I absolutely adore the first 2 Christopher Reeve movies and they played a huge role in my childhood), Superman does call out Zod right there in the middle of Metropolis. He doesn't try to get them to chase him away from the city until AFTER he sees all the destruction. A main difference is that Donner took a more fantastic, safer approach to directing this sequence so not as much destruction is shown. But with beings of this power, what we saw in MOS is more realistic. So it's less about the choices Clark made (because he did the same thing in both movies), but rather how realistically the battle was depicted by their respective directors.
With respect to BvS and Superman being grim about saving people, I think that has more to do with Clark feeling the weight of the world. Remember, Luthor has been working behind the scenes to foment negative feelings against Superman. It's not unlike what's going on in the US today. There is already two different countries within one, two very different ways of viewing one's role in this country, but now we have a president that stokes the worst qualities in some people, that inflames the fears and anger and bigotry that was already there. Luthor is doing the same, but surreptitiously. The more things go wrong for Superman, the more that division comes out, the more Clark, who is still relatively new to this Superman role, is struggling with what his role is, how best to be Superman. He rescues the girl in Mexico, and he does have a kind smile on his face as he brings her to the ground:
It isn't until they all swarm him and treat him like a god that he begins to get uncomfortable. From his perspective, he's just a guy from Kansas who can do amazing things. The difference between Donner's Superman and Snyder's is Snyder is interested in showing Superman in a complex world, our world. What if people were in danger in another country that the US wasn't allowed in, should Superman just allow it to happen? Clark, who knows how fragile life is given that his whole race was wiped out, who has seen the planet from a perspective only astronauts have, doesn't see the borders and divisions like everyone else does, yet he also is becoming aware that every act is a political one and comes with controversy. How does such a being square away trying to do good in the world with the likelihood of overstepping boundaries, and what are those boundaries, when does he cross them and when doesn't he?
To me, BvS is exploring how he tries to figure all this out, but it's also exacerbated by Luthor behind the scenes. By the end of BvS, he has gone through his dark night of the soul (pun intended), and has, once and for all, made the declaration, "This is my world." He has come out the other side with renewed commitment and even sacrifices himself for it. Snyder never intended for Superman to always struggle with being Superman. He just presented to us the inevitable complexity of what such a being would mean to this world and how we would all struggle with how we feel about it. "They will stumble, they will fall, but in time, they will join you in the sun." We are seeing that play out, and I've always taken the line a step further (especially in light of BvS), that it also meant that Clark himself would stumble and fall, but in time, he would rise to the Superman we all know and love. Snyder's plan was/is to then show Superman AS Superman through the JL story. So it's no longer just Clark sort of playing at Superman, but Clark truly BEING Superman (or at least finding that balance in his life where he loves being both Clark and Superman). Snyder is just showing us the journey in getting there. It's not unlike what
Smallville does except that in MOS we see it with adult Clark once he becomes Superman rather than the teenage/young adult years of Clark as he works his way towards growing up in the role BEFORE he becomes Superman.
That's my view anyway. Good discussion.