Well i'm sick of guys saying they just don't want a relationship, having a fling with me... and then a couple of months later they are in a committed relationship with some other girl and it's like 'Oh, so what you meant was you just didn't want a committed relationship with ME'.
A couple of months can make a pretty sizeable difference in a guy's mindset. Its more than likely that in those couple of months, they found someone that better suited them, or they decided that they wanted a committed relationship. I went through something similar last year. For six months, I didn't want anything except to date around, etc. There were a couple of girls that there was absolutely nothing wrong with that I didn't get into committed relationships with just because of where I was/who we were in relation. When they moved on, my mindset started to change a bit, and I made a commitment to someone. I've known that to happen a lot.
It's not just theater girls. Despite the perception, theater girls probably make up the minority of the types of girls that I go after. Yes, I've gone after my fair share of girls within the department, but I go for way more girls outside of the department as well. The "no's" come in the department, outside the department, they came when I lived in California, they come now that I live in Tennessee, they come from girls that I have spent time getting to know, and develop a connection and tons of mutual interests, and they've come from meeting a new girl, feeling an instant spark and making an immediate move. I've had one second date in my entire life... with my ex girlfriend.
Good. Only pursuing theatre girls will kill your soul. So what kind of women do you "go after"?
There might be millions of women out there, but the trend in my 29 years of life is that of the ones that I have had any kind of interest or attraction to, 99% of them have zero interest or attraction to me.
Do you have any idea why that is?
And the ones that did have some kind of interest in me (and there's only been about 3 or 4 of them), have some kind of emotional issue (including already having boyfriends...) that keeps them from having any kind of meaningful relationship with me.
Do you think that its really that those girls are the only ones that have interest in you...or is it that you have had tended to have the most interest in people who often have emotional issues, boyfriends, etc?
I mean, there's really nothing that you, or anyone else can say. Until I have reason to believe otherwise, I'm not going to have the confidence that I'm someone that women will be interested in sexually or romantically. Like you said, I'm gonna keep trying, but I just don't have any reason to believe that results will be different when they never have been.
I get that. You're someone who requires proof, and its difficult to believe otherwise when you've never experienced it.
I'll echo what several others have said; it may not feel like it, but it sounds like you might be trying a bit too hard in general. I find that romantic stuff goes better when you're not trying at all, and for some reason, relationships seem to happen more when you're not expecting them, hoping for them, planning to make them happen, and making that the focus of your hopes, but rather building some confidence and self esteem and generally being happy with yourself via the pursuit of other aspects of life. For some reason, a lot of people get initially interested and then immediately turned off by "effort". I'm sure they often perceive it as desperation. And girls who perceive desperation, especially those with underlying emotional issues, serious insecurities or unsatisfying relationships, many of them will use that to stroke their egos and to make themselves feel better about themselves, even if they have no real interest in you, or a passing interest.
I would not reccommend that book.
Personally, I enjoyed reading The Game, mostly because it gave me insight into the mindset of men who I'd always considered better at everything related to women, and revealed their insecurities and faults, not for the insight into women it provided. I found a lot of its insights about women to be pretty obvious stuff, they just gave it clever nicknames in the book. There are things you can glean from it about being good with women (and people, in general) that don't involve the "system".
You're not alone!
Not to say I don't love Dark Raven, but there's nothing that your friends or us can do to fix a defeatist attitude. But at least you're still trying.
Why would it, no guys had shown any interest previously, why would they just because it was prom?
