How do you react when something like this happens?

[Sugarculted]

Oooh how I love that line.
Stick an banana in her cars tailpipe.

Is that code for; 'rectum', or something?

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Running around with an ex, including going on a trip to Florida with him for his brother's wedding without telling her current boyfriend, is not innocent. At all.

jag

after hanging out with her ex (where believe it or not you can become good friends with an ex ive done it) she explained her love for her current bf and since she did that i'd give her the benefit of the doubt, to show im trusting, but if i can tell she lied to my face about her reasons for not telling me she went to florida for her ex's wedding id kick her to the curb. its 3 strikes and your out in my book..

 

[Sugarculted]

You can't give her the benefit of the doubt. If there's no feelings between her and the ex, then surely she could've mentioned it to her current boyfriend.
Not telling him, especially whilst he's damn ill is pretty damn nasty, if you ask me. You can't give someone the benefit of the doubt, just because they say they love you. People lie and I hate to say, but if she can't tell her boyfriend that she's off to Florida, what else can't she mention?

 

[Sugarculted]

Damn the intarwebs, and it's accidental DP'ing.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

You can't give her the benefit of the doubt. If there's no feelings between her and the ex, then surely she could've mentioned it to her current boyfriend.
Not telling him, especially whilst he's damn ill is pretty damn nasty, if you ask me. You can't give someone the benefit of the doubt, just because they say they love you. People lie and I hate to say, but if she can't tell her boyfriend that she's off to Florida, what else can't she mention?

well heres how i look at it... every one makes mistakes in there life.. and everyone makes a big mistake in there life. it's human to error and make bad judgment calls, theres a 9/10 chance she's probably cheating, but theres still a 10% chance she's not. and if my life is on the line, and its either kicking her to the curb or dying alone i'm gonna make damn sure she's if she's in that 90% or 10% area. And if she's in that 90% chance... i want her to tell me the truth strait to my face or lie strait to my face so i can get over her that much easier for her being a heartless wench.

 

[Sugarculted]

well heres how i look at it... every one makes mistakes in there life.. and everyone makes a big mistake in there life. it's human to error and make bad judgment calls, theres a 9/10 chance she's probably cheating, but theres still a 10% chance she's not. and if my life is on the line, and its either kicking her to the curb or dying alone i'm gonna make damn sure she's if she's in that 90% or 10% area. And if she's in that 90% chance... i want her to tell me the truth strait to my face or lie strait to my face so i can get over her that much easier for her being a heartless wench.

Still, regardless of the fact she'll consider it a mistake...he's really gotta make sure he tells her it hurt him like hell, especially whilst he's been ill. I agree to some extent, I suppose...question her, seek the truth, then kick her to the curb if all else fails.

After he's received that transplant, though.

 

[spideyboy_1111]

Still, regardless of the fact she'll consider it a mistake...he's really gotta make sure he tells her it hurt him like hell, especially whilst he's been ill. I agree to some extent, I suppose...question her, seek the truth, then kick her to the curb if all else fails.

After he's received that transplant, though.

o i agree i never denied him telling her how he feels. i just didnt want him to just kick her to the curb without him telling how he feels and hearing what she has to say, whether its truth or bullshytake

 

[Scarlet spidey]

Is that code for; 'rectum', or something?

Somebody never saw Beverly Hills Cop

 

[Remy LeBeau X3]

i'm am very sorry to hear this, but as far as what to do, all i can say is trust what your heart says. i mean while all of us can say what we're saying, it's a lot harder than it sounds when you're in the box. when i was dating my bf (ex now) i had a few of my ex's in contact and while we were just friends, i saw how much it made my bf feel so i made a sacrifice and chose not to talk to very much if at all or hang out with any of my ex's anymore. i mean if you care, especially love, someone then making that sacrifice shouldn't be hard to make right? it's not about giving her an ultimatum, it's about what's right for your relationship. if she really feels for you the way you need it, then this shouldn't be hard for her to do.

 

[Sugarculted]

Somebody never saw Beverly Hills Cop

Of course I've seen Beverly Hills Cop. But like, I completely missed the reference.
Sorry Eddie Murphy

 

[Dangerous]

Okay. Here goes:

I've been diagnosed with a serious liver-related problem since February 15th. To that effect everything's been very disorganized, and grim. Haven't been to work for the past two weeks. In bed almost all the while. The only good thing going for me was my girlfriend of two years, who's been taking care of me.

However, everything changed. Her ex-boyfriend had been calling her since December of last year, and they've been talking as "friends" since then. He came back from London four weeks back, and since then, they've reignited their "friendship" if you will. Dinner, ice-cream, long drives, breakfast, brunch... they've done it all.

Still, I trusted her, and refrained from the confrontation which was sure to take place sooner or later. I concentrated on my deteriorating health, and regularly visited the doctor without her, as she'd be busy with work, or have errands to run.

Slowly, we began to have fights. Arguments which we never had. I learned new facts about her Ex, and how he was prepared to commit to her, and how he still loves her even after years of staying apart. Then, as is always the case, my sincerity was called into question, and obviously the matter of how he loved her for her heart, and I was only interested in sex... etc.

I tried to explain, and managed to convince her that I loved her, and that we could work through it. She then declared her love for me, and said that I was the only guy in her life.

That's dandy, right? Well, I thought so too. But...

Four days ago she calls me and says that she's going out of town (to Florida) to clear her head. I told her to do whatever was best for her. She left that same day. Then, a common friend told me that my girlfriend had gone there to attend the wedding of her Ex's brother.

Far away from home. With her Ex. Not telling me the truth.
She doesn't answer my calls, or reply to my texts. I get a message a day, like, "Fine. Call you when I can." etc.

She's still not back yet. But when she does, I need to know the truth about what's going on... but my health is in such a state that I can't take an emotional battering right now. It's tearing me apart. Paranoia, jealousy, betrayal... I can't handle it.

Thoughts?

Drop her ass.

 

[The Spawn]

I thought he literally meant car tailpipe.

 

[The Spawn]

Where is The Mask?

 

[jaguarr]

after hanging out with her ex (where believe it or not you can become good friends with an ex ive done it) she explained her love for her current bf and since she did that i'd give her the benefit of the doubt, to show im trusting, but if i can tell she lied to my face about her reasons for not telling me she went to florida for her ex's wedding id kick her to the curb. its 3 strikes and your out in my book..

She's not just hanging out with her ex, she's going on out of state road trips to attend family weddings with him and lying about her whereabouts. There is nothing innocent about that at all. What's there to give the benefit of the doubt to? Taking off to Florida, for any reason, with an ex-boyfriend without telling you is inexcusable, regardless of whatever reasons she dreams up. And never underestimate the ability of someone you trust to believably lie to you if they are sufficiently motivated. Tell her she's a skank because you know what she did if you want to get it off your chest, but this is a girl that has violated the trust a relationship is founded on, repeatedly and getting more blatant about it from the sounds of it. He can NEVER...EVER trust her again and that's just not going to work in a relationship.

jag

 

[Erzengel]

It's possible to be friends with an ex. But I would never go away on vacation with one, I would never lie about any aspect of it to my current.

jag hit the nail on the head, she violated every aspect of trust.

Most of the time, being "friends" with an ex should be a warning sign for anyone.

 

[SuBe]

I'll give you a little bit of advice. Take it for what it is. Listen to Jag, drop her. But, before you do:

When you first see her. Talk to her like nothing is wrong, tell her you miss her, blah, blah, blah. Get her all Horned up, and get yourself a BJ. When she's done, break up with her and leave her. Don't confront her, you'll know for the rest of your life you did the right thing. And, if you ever think about her again, you know that the last time you saw her with with your **** in her *****. HAH!

I've done that to everygirl I've ever broken up with, and believe me, you'll feel better in the end.

 

[jaguarr]

I'll give you a little bit of advice. Take it for what it is. Listen to Jag, drop her. But, before you do:

When you first see her. Talk to her like nothing is wrong, tell her you miss her, blah, blah, blah. Get her all Horned up, and get yourself a BJ. When she's done, break up with her and leave her. Don't confront her, you'll know for the rest of your life you did the right thing. And, if you ever think about her again, you know that the last time you saw her with with your **** in her *****. HAH!

I've done that to everygirl I've ever broken up with, and believe me, you'll feel better in the end.

This is why my first post in this thread was "PIITB and then kick her to the curb." If you get that little bit of vengeance out of your system and get the last laugh on her before you dump her for her infidelity, it can be easier to move on and forget about her.

jag

 

[SuBe]

This is why my first post in this thread was "PIITB and then kick her to the curb." If you get that little bit of vengeance out of your system and get the last laugh on her before you dump her for her infidelity, it can be easier to move on and forget about her.

jag

Maybe I don't get PIITB. What's that?

But your right, last laugh and teaching a lesson.

Edit:

Nevermind: Put it in the **** ,Right....

 

[Erzengel]

Or PII His B, that'll show him.

 

[jaguarr]

Or PII His B, that'll show him.

Haha! "When you f'd my girlfriend, you f'd ME so now it's my turn to F YOU!!!"



jag

 

[SuBe]

Or PII His B, that'll show him.

Haha! "When you f'd my girlfriend, you f'd ME so now it's my turn to F YOU!!!"



jag

 

[Erzengel]

The joke would be on him cause you're not gay.

 

[Darthphere]

Supersoak that ho!

 

[The Mask]

Ok. Here is what happened today.

She came back and immediately went to her own place to "freshen-up", and then called me to ask me for a lift to her sister's. So, we're in the car, I'm trying my best to remain cool, my breathing is hard, fast, forced. I can't concentrate on the road, when suddenly, her phone starts to ring. I look, and the Caller ID is that of her Ex's. I don't say anything, just look on. She says, "I can't talk right now. I promise I'll call you as soon as I'm alone."

I keep driving. Thinking the worst things that a person in my position could think of. The roads roll on, and suddenly her phone rings again. It's him again. She says, "Can we please talk about it later? Please?" *laughs* "Come on, don't do this. Please? I'll call you. Just be patient." *smiles* "Okay. Talk to you asap."

I finally decide to ask who it is. She says it's her Ex. No expression. Nothing. Just a statement of fact. I obviously ask what he wants. She says, "Nothing." I told her that it didn't sound like nothing, and she gave a nasty expression and said, "I told you, nothing!"

So, I drop it, and keep driving. It's eating me up inside, but I'm just driving. Then, of all the things she could've done, she said, "Do you want to see pictures of Florida?" I turned, and the first picture I see is her with her Ex on the beach, his arms around her, her head on his shoulder.

That killed me, right there. I just said (in true Spider-Man style) - "Yeah. That's what every boyfriend wants to see..."

She snatched it away from me, and sat all grumpily in the car. Then, I dropped her off at her office, coz suddenly she had something to take care of there. As I was turning the car, she waved me to stop. I did. She told me that she had a gift for me and that it would be best if I came by and took her home in the afternoon. I was shocked.

I froze right there. Waited a couple of seconds before I could muster the strength to say, "No. I can't. I have a doctor's appointment. Remember?" She gave me the same nasty look as before, and said, "Fine. Whatever." and just walked away.

I drove around for a while. Now I'm at a diner contemplating what a gigantic Loser I am. I can't help but feel frail, and vulnerable.

Does anyone deserve to be treated like this?

 

[Erzengel]

Uh, why didn't you just let her have it right there?