Lord of the Advice: Return of the King of Relationships

[lixdexia]

See...this is one of those times when you more or less have to find the will to ignore how "sad" she is, and how everyone's mad at her (there are probably reasons for it) and discuss what's going on, and what went on. It kind of sounds like she used how bad her day was as an excuse to avoid a confrontation/discussion of a serious issue.

yep. don't make yourself a doormat.

 

[Dreadstar]

You weren't actually considering a serious relationship with a teasing girl 25 years your junior, were you?

How is she teasing? YES I WAS CONSIDERING IT!!! I really enjoy her company. I am NOT going to drop fling girl for her but I dont know, I though she felt the same way about me that I did about her OTHERWISE WHY SPEND ALL THIS TIME WITH ME??? it makes ABSOLUTELY NO SENSE TO ME! NONE!!!!! I A M INTO Her, I THINK thats obvious! so WTF?????

I have NOT texted or replied to her since and that was about 30 min ago. SO IS SHE NOW getting the message??????? Can this girl REALLY BE that stupid??????

I would think she would at least try, WTF? I have everything going for me!

WELL SHE CAN forget about me giving her rides after our weekly meet ups and texting me and everything! I need something in return!!!!

 

[Anita18]

How is she teasing? YES I WAS CONSIDERING IT!!! I really enjoy her company. I am NOT going to drop fling girl for her but I dont know, I though she felt the same way about me that I did about her OTHERWISE WHY SPEND ALL THIS TIME WITH ME??? it makes ABSOLUTELY NO SENSE TO ME! NONE!!!!! I A M INTO Her, I THINK thats obvious! so WTF?????

I have NOT texted or replied to her since and that was about 30 min ago. SO IS SHE NOW getting the message??????? Can this girl REALLY BE that stupid??????

She's 20 years old, or just therebouts. Of course she can be that stupid. I didn't start getting emotionally mature until I hit 26 or so, and everyone ALREADY thought I was in my mid-20s when I was in high school. So my bar was already set pretty high, and I still feel like I didn't hit my stride until 26.

Also, you say nobody has ever given her any attention. So she's fishing for more attention. That's likely all she'll be able to handle.

I see you're very far removed from 20-year-olds....

 

[Dreadstar]

SO she likes the attention. OK, I get that. BUt I ONLY give attention for a reason!!!! Cant she figure out that I give HER attention and NOT the other females??? COME ON, its so clear!!!!! MY time is valuable, why would I waste it????

So is it safe to say she is NOW getting the message??????? Is no relationship, then she should sleep with me. Hey, She can still have ALL the freedom she wants!!!! No worries!!!

 

[Anita18]

WELL SHE CAN forget about me giving her rides after our weekly meet ups and texting me and everything! I need something in return!!!!

Didn't you consider her a friend before all this? Friends give each other rides and text each other and don't ask for anything in return...

You don't appreciate the teasing. Fine. But don't pretend you're her friend if you're going to be a jerk to her after this.

It could be a lesson to her as well, if you ditch her after she tells you she doesn't want a relationship. Male friends who ditch you after you tell them you don't want a relationship with them weren't really your friends to begin with...

 

[Dreadstar]

I am not a jerk! But you can go sleep with dudes that are jerks and NOT with me! I ssure dont want to hear all that crap!

Just sleep with me and it solves everything!!!

We were friends, but not in the sense that you think. I di d not text her or talk to her or hang out with her. She was more of an acquaintance.

I SAID IT BEFORE, MEN AND WOMEN, IT SEEMS, CANNOT BE FRIENDS!!!!!! THE SEX GETS IN THE WAY!!! JUST HAVE SEX AND ALL IS WELL> GETS THAT OUT OF THE WAY!

 

[Anita18]

SO she likes the attention. OK, I get that. BUt I ONLY give attention for a reason!!!! Cant she figure out that I give HER attention and NOT the other females??? COME ON, its so clear!!!!! MY time is valuable, why would I waste it????

So is it safe to say she is NOW getting the message??????? Is no relationship, then she should sleep with me. Hey, She can still have ALL the freedom she wants!!!! No worries!!!

Ah, you have at last realized the main difference between 50-year-olds and 20-year-olds.

How the heck should I know? If she's never gotten attention or even been in a relationship, she might be too chicken to sleep with you anyway. Did she say she was open to being FWB? Or just no relationship?

 

[Dreadstar]

She has had a 2-3 year relationship. She was living with a guy. BUt that was over 2 years ago. She has been single all this time ( over 2 years)

We never talked about FWB or relationships. But I think NOW that I did not reply, that should give her a good kick in the ASS!

 

[Anita18]

I am not a jerk! But you can go sleep with dudes that are jerks and NOT with me! I ssure dont want to hear all that crap!

Just sleep with me and it solves everything!!!

We were friends, but not in the sense that you think. I di d not text her or talk to her or hang out with her. She was more of an acquaintance.

I SAID IT BEFORE, MEN AND WOMEN, IT SEEMS, CANNOT BE FRIENDS!!!!!! THE SEX GETS IN THE WAY!!! JUST HAVE SEX AND ALL IS WELL> GETS THAT OUT OF THE WAY!

Not all men want to have sex with every female in the vicinity. They can very well be friends with the women they don't find sexually attractive. but are otherwise pleasant to be around. It's not usually that big of a deal.

It can be if you ARE the kind of guy who would like to sleep with many females and aren't so picky with your partners.

 

[Dreadstar]

Is not most of this THREAD all kinds of mixed signals between men and women and this "friends" BS?????????

Seems it just does not work, Sure, for some it does, but those are in the minority.

We have never talked about FWB or a relationship because I am NOT going to embarrass myself and potentially create an awkward situation between our group.

 

[Anita18]

She has had a 2-3 year relationship. She was living with a guy. BUt that was over 2 years ago. She has been single all this time ( over 2 years)

We never talked about FWB or relationships. But I think NOW that I did not reply, that should give her a good kick in the ASS!

Or if she's a reasonably-minded person, she could assume that you're busy or turned your phone off at a party or went to bed or something.

Assuming that not answering a text being an affront of some kind is what teenagers do...

 

[Anita18]

Is not most of this THREAD all kinds of mixed signals between men and women and this "friends" BS?????????

Seems it just does not work, Sure, for some it does, but those are in the minority.

That's cause you're only hearing from the guys who became attracted to girls they were originally friends with. The could have 5+ more friends who are female but aren't attracted to. You just hear about the ones who inexplicably became something more.

 

[Dreadstar]

WHEN is this chick going to WISE UP????????? How can someone be so stupid??? Cant she pick up the vibe?? If she was OUTSIDE the circle of comic friends, then I would ask her out. If she rejected me, then at least NO one would know or sense the awkardness.

 

[Anita18]

WHEN is this chick going to WISE UP?????????

Not until you tell her straight. Until that point, she'll assume you'll continue to participate in her game. Cause that's what 20-year-olds do.

And seriously, why is she vexing you so much? Are 20-year-olds really that intriguing to you? You've already got fling girl who you claim you'll try to keep because she's hot and loves sex and accepts your pantywearing fetish. So forget about comic girl already!

 

[Erzengel]

Okay, I'll acknowledge the elephant in the room.

Maybe the chick wants to sleep with guys around her own age?

 

[Dreadstar]

Not until you tell her straight. Until that point, she'll assume you'll continue to participate in her game. Cause that's what 20-year-olds do.

And seriously, why is she vexing you so much? Are 20-year-olds really that intriguing to you? You've already got fling girl who you claim you'll try to keep because she's hot and loves sex and accepts your pantywearing fetish. So forget about comic girl already!

OK, so help me to forget her. What is this game she is playing????? Please fill me in as I am clueless!!!!

NO WAY IN HELL I GIVE UP THE GOOD THING I GOT WITH FLING GIRL!! Sleep with guys her own age is fine, BUT she likes older guys. She admiited that. I am older, so lets go!!!!!

Why do I feel the way I do about her????? WHy cant I just ignore her?????

I saw her last night, I picked her up, had drinks and a bite to eat with her, i picked up the tab, we went to a friends and did the fire pit thing and hot tub thing. I thought things were progressing swimmingly…...

 

[Anita18]

OK, so help me to forget her. What is this game she is playing????? Please fill me in as I am clueless!!!!

NO WAY IN HELL I GIVE UP THE GOOD THING I GOT WITH FLING GIRL!! Sleep with guys her own age is fine, BUT she likes older guys. She admiited that. I am older, so lets go!!!!!

You say she is plain, that she doesn't normally get attention. You give her attention. She likes it, but is uncomfortable with pursuing a relationship with you for whatever reason. (Age difference could very well be one of them.) But you give her so much attention and it feels so good! So she will continue to fish for attention from you until you get sick of it and stop giving her attention.

Is that simple enough?

I'm struggling to understand how you adamantly claim you won't give up the good thing you have with fling girl but will continue to pursue sleeping with comic girl if she is open to it. Normally women don't like to share....

 

[Anita18]

Why do I feel the way I do about her????? WHy cant I just ignore her?????

I saw her last night, I picked her up, had drinks and a bite to eat with her, i picked up the tab, we went to a friends and did the fire pit thing and hot tub thing. I thought things were progressing swimmingly…...

Because you feel good being attractive to such a young woman who teases you. It makes you feel young and in the chase again. Even if being in the chase vexes you.

And seriously...if you're not going to give up the good thing you have with fling girl, you're doing a crap job of it....

 

[Dreadstar]

I am texting fling girl as we speak!!! I text her almost everyday. I feel as we get closer, co,mic chick will fade……. hopefully//

I KNOW this is stupid, but I am being honest its the way I feel right now… I want to know why, then maybe I CAN LEAVE COMIC CHICK ALONE….

 

[Anita18]

I am texting fling girl as we speak!!! I text her almost everyday. I feel as we get closer, co,mic chick will fade……. hopefully//

I KNOW this is stupid, but I am being honest its the way I feel right now… I want to know why, then maybe I CAN LEAVE COMIC CHICK ALONE….

Just buy that red Corvette already and get that mid-life crisis out of your system.

 

[Dreadstar]

COmic chick cant be that stupid!!! We get along so well. How can she not see that???? WHy would I spend all this time with her?????? WHY? WHAT could the reason possibly be except that I have feelings for her? Its so obvious!!!!!!!!!

Makes absolutely NO sense!!!!!!

COmic chick invited me to some stupid big event thing on June 30th with a bunch of other friends...… SCREW THAT!!!!!!!!! …. I am going to spend that time with fling girl! YOu just lost it comic chick!

 

[Anita18]

COmic chick cant be that stupid!!! We get along so well. How can she not see that???? WHy would I spend all this time with her?????? WHY? WHAT could the reason possibly be except that I have feelings for her? Its so obvious!!!!!!!!!

Makes absolutely NO sense!!!!!!

COmic chick invited me to some stupid big event thing on June 30th… but I am going to spend that time with fling girl! YOu just lost it comic chick!

Of course she knows you like her. But she doesn't believe in a relationship with you. But she will continue fishing for attention until you stop giving it to her.

Seriously, she sounds really immature. The fact that you're so vexed by her doesn't exactly put you in the best of light either....

 

[Anita18]

Have you told comic girl about fling girl? That could either get her to put up or shut up.

Not sure if it would end well though...

 

[Dreadstar]

Have you told comic girl about fling girl? That could either get her to put up or shut up.

Not sure if it would end well though...

Thats the funny thing, YES I did tell comic chick… thats when this all seemed to go into high gear!

"For now, I am kinda digging the single life" Thats what comic chick said… For now…. NO MORE FREE attention for her! She just screwed herself!!!!!!

 

[Anita18]

Thats the funny thing, YES I did tell comic chick… thats when this all seemed to go into high gear!

"For now, I am kinda digging the single life" Thats what comic chick said… For now…. NO MORE FREE attention for her! She just screwed herself!!!!!!

Yup. Teasing.