Dark Raven
It's not about what you deserve...
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^OK so how do I apologize?
1) In English
2) Explain to him your motivation and that you meant no harm
3) Don't make any further assumptions about him during the conversation (eg any of this stuff about him being Chinese or Japanese) - how do you know he's not even Vietnamese or Malaysian, or even a Russian from the Far East (some look very similar to Chinese)?
4) Don't talk to him about "his country". Where you live might very well be "his country".
5) Show him you understand the issues (mention some of what you've learnt here) - part of apologising and making amends is showing that you understand the problem and aren't contributing further to it.
6) Be friendly and treat him as you would anyone else deserving of respect, and as a potential friend - not just as someone you're trying to begrudgingly put things right with.
And even being afraid to go and apologise for some of the reasons you've mentioned earlier suggests some stereotyping on your part - as if all Chinese and Japanese have bad blood between each other etc. Get that out of your head so that it isn't an obstacle to you approaching him.
In essence, you apologise to him the same way you would as any person who is a member of the human race, whether white, black or otherwise. There is no special way to apologise to an Asian.