First time I've thought to grade all the films together. Upon reflection, here is my list as it stands today:
1.Amazing Spider-Man 1 - I loved the focus on Peter and Gwen's blossoming romance, handled infinitely better than the previous trilogy IMO. I liked the Uncle Ben relationship more than in SM1. Andrew's awkwardness was also more relatable to me than Tobey's. Although the Lizard had unfulfilled potential with the family aspect, I do love the scene where Curt creates a second arm through a reflection. The battle in the school felt like it came straight from the pages of an early Ultimate Spider-Man comic, major love for that scene and the score.
2. Amazing Spider-Man 2 - [BLACKOUT]Gwen's death was perhaps the most powerful scene in any Spidey movie, no other moment has affected me in such a manner.[/BLACKOUT] Peter and Gwen were great again, Peter's battle with guilt and responsibility was most evident in this film IMO. I loved the dynamic with Harry and Peter, shame there wasn't more of it! The 'you're my boy' scene is the best Aunt May scene in any Spidey movie. However, I didn't care for the Rhino or Electro, if this movie just had Harry, it could have been my runaway favourite. The slow-mo swinging scenes are gorgeous.
3.Spider-Man 1 - The original, perhaps the catalyst of Spidey fandom for me. Dafoe was incredible and Tobey was at his best in this one IMO. Still not sure how I feel about the robber falling to his death as Peter watches. Biggest point of personal criticism? = MJ's love interests in the film: Flash (a popular jerk/bully); Harry (a rich jerk), Spider-Man (a popular, masked sex symbol swinging around New York) and then Peter...its only 1 film! The Green Goblin is my favourite Spidey villain in the comics which is why this narrowly beats SM2.
4. Spider-Man 2 - I LOVE Doc Ock, he carried the movie but I never rooted for/nor believed Tobey's romance with Kirsten Dunce, especially in this film. Always felt sorry for John Jameson in this film, MJ was terrible towards him. WHY didn't Peter just set the record straight with Harry when he found out?! Its not that hard to explain rather than a rather *****ey "there are bigger things going on than you and me" - WHAT?! Your best friend believes you killed his father and this is how you respond?!
5. Spider-Man 3 - I simply can't watch it anymore. I stopped at MJ singing last time I tried, its too much a cringefest for me. Retcon or not, make Sandman the only villain. I thought he was the best thing about the movie.
As I think about it, Peter's personal relationships (family, friends, romantic) are what influenced my ratings the most. Numbers 2-4 could easily switch around they are that close together for me.