Return of the *Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[Anubis]

Or maybe she just don't like you and is too nice to say so.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Or maybe she just don't like you and is too nice to say so.

That's my point though. If you're indirect with people they'll be "nice" and won't say how they feel. If you're direct and ask them clearly what it is you want, they'll respond. (I don't mean you you).

 

[LOBO3315a]

Nice people will tell you how they feel.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Nice people will tell you how they feel.

Let's not get on the "nice" versus nice discussion again. We all know "nice" in air quotes refers to the pejorative "nice" as in "nice guys/girls finish last".

 

[B.A. Baracus]

It's true nice guys do finish last, women like a ****.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I think being open and honest about your feelings, even if they're shallow feelings driven by lust, is ultimately important when you meet anyone of the opposite sex. Even if your feelings don't get you what you want, you'll get the feedback that you need, the appropriate feedback.

 

[Anita18]

Nice people will tell you how they feel.

They aren't always nice, especially if they're gonna tell you that you're a loser.

Mature people who have better things to do than play games will tell you how they feel.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

It's true nice guys do finish last, women like a ****.

 

[Anubis]

There was a 40 + page thread about that, and we came to the conclusion that that's just bulls**t whiny, scary ass, losers use to explain why women don't want their dingus anywhere near them.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I thought I'd get some laughter for a hotlinked sight gag. Pity.

 

[Anubis]

I chuckled. Can't get an LOL for everything.

 

[Erzengel]

There was a 40 + page thread about that, and we came to the conclusion that that's just bulls**t whiny, scary ass, losers use to explain why women don't want their dingus anywhere near them.

To sum up.

Being nice =/= being attractive

Being nice for the sole reason of getting someone to like you means you aren't a nice person because you have an ulterior motive.

Lastly, just because Girl A doesn't like you even though you were generally nice to her, doesn't mean all girls are like that.

 

[DV8]

To sum up.

Being nice =/= being attractive

Being nice for the sole reason of getting someone to like you means you aren't a nice person because you have an ulterior motive.

Lastly, just because Girl A doesn't like you even though you were generally nice to her, doesn't mean all girls are like that.

excellent summary Erz

 

[Angel_Faerie]

I've known this boy since Junior Year of high school (so about 3-4 years, maybe?) and have had on-and-off feelings for him the entire time. Right now he's on his mission in North Carolina (he's Mormon) and he and I have been exchanging letters. Things have gotten flirty. Nothing serious, just some playful flirting. I'm just a little nervous things may get more serious, though. Usually that would be a great thing, but there's two problems.

1. He isn't here right now and won't be home for another year. Another LDR? No thanks.

2. My mom sort of has this rule that I can't get into a super serious relationship with a Mormon. She's a former Mormon and doesn't want me getting serious with one because if I ended up marrying one I'd probably be expected to convert to the religion, which she doesn't want. To be honest, I don't want to either. I don't dislike Mormons as people, but their religion is nuts. No offence to any here.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

LDR almost never works. Sorry, but it doesn't.

Also it doesn't sound like you would want to share in his Mormantastic lifestyle.

 

[Anubis]

Yeah, that whole Golden plate stuff is rather off putting.

 

[Angel_Faerie]

Don't get me started on the magic underwear...

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

I want to see that musical the South Park boys did.

 

[Erzengel]

I have magic underwear.

 

[DV8]

I would like to add that being a "jerk" for the sake of being a jerk doesn't work either . . . it's the same reason why being nice to get laid doesn't work

 

[Erzengel]

Also, I've been in a LDR.

But do you know when they became LDR, after I actually went on dates with them.

 

[DV8]

haha, you mean you actually MET them, Erz? that's just crazy talk . . .

 

[Calvin]

As an athiest, I would totally marry a mormon and convert to their religion. I feel like that would be interesting and fulfilling.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I've known this boy since Junior Year of high school (so about 3-4 years, maybe?) and have had on-and-off feelings for him the entire time. Right now he's on his mission in North Carolina (he's Mormon) and he and I have been exchanging letters. Things have gotten flirty. Nothing serious, just some playful flirting. I'm just a little nervous things may get more serious, though. Usually that would be a great thing, but there's two problems.

1. He isn't here right now and won't be home for another year. Another LDR? No thanks.

2. My mom sort of has this rule that I can't get into a super serious relationship with a Mormon. She's a former Mormon and doesn't want me getting serious with one because if I ended up marrying one I'd probably be expected to convert to the religion, which she doesn't want. To be honest, I don't want to either. I don't dislike Mormons as people, but their religion is nuts. No offence to any here.

Sounds like a bad idea to let yourself have romantic feelings since it probably won't work out. First he won't be around for another year, second he's on a Mormon mission, in other words, most likely very serious about a faith you don't believe in, that'll be a big problem if/when you did get serious.

 

[Erzengel]

And of course...she should at least meet him in person first.