The Last Crusade of Relationships

[SpideyVille]

Gonna have a couple of "beverages" again?

It depends. Some of the guys weren't there at the bar last night so they want me to drink again so they could see me with their own eyes. But if my friend doesn't go and drives me back home, I don't think I'll be very reckless.

Maybe you can give someone an Eskimo kiss at your cast party.

I will admit, it did seem easier to want to make a move. I mean I was sitting next to my friend and there was this one point where we were talking and I just kept scooting closer and closer to her while looking into her eyes and I just wanted to give her a big ole kiss, but baby steps for now lol.

 

[steintym]

Liquid courage ... Not called that for nothing.

 

[SpideyVille]

Yeah, I finally understand what they mean when they say it removes you inhibitions. I don't think I would have behaved the same way had I been completely sober.

Though part of me still wonders which kind of drunk I'd be. I was pretty happy for most of the night, but had my friend not been there, I could've easily been very depressed.

 

[Dark Sentinel]

I spent my Valentine's Day by myself at a bar drinking straight Christian Brothers' Whiskey on the rocks..the drink of the cursed.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Yeah, I finally understand what they mean when they say it removes you inhibitions. I don't think I would have behaved the same way had I been completely sober.

Though part of me still wonders which kind of drunk I'd be. I was pretty happy for most of the night, but had my friend not been there, I could've easily been very depressed.

Probably the type of sober person you are.

Really, most actions while drunk, people just use the "drunk" as an excuse to do it. Yea, you lose some inhibitions and all of that stuff, but you really don't become some different person. At worst, you're an exaggerated version of your sober self.

Unless you're one of those dumb idiots that thinks that alcohol is a free ticket to being a *****ebag moron. But like I said, it's not typically the alcohol that does that, it's the person using the alcohol to be a *****ebag moron.

Know your limits, and drinking can be a great thing. It loosens you up, you feel good, and have a good time.

 

[DV8]

So I had some loose plans to spend time w/ my Valentine/SpecialLadyFriend but our plans got kind of botched; I don't really believe in corny Valentines presents, I like to spend time w/ people but since things didn't pan out that way she basically got salty at me (LOL); she was expecting flowers or something, sooooo yeah I screwed up

anyway, her birthday is next month so I plan on making it up to her then; can any of the LADIES here suggest some nice perfume brands?

 

[SpideyVille]

Probably the type of sober person you are.

Really, most actions while drunk, people just use the "drunk" as an excuse to do it. Yea, you lose some inhibitions and all of that stuff, but you really don't become some different person. At worst, you're an exaggerated version of your sober self.

Unless you're one of those dumb idiots that thinks that alcohol is a free ticket to being a *****ebag moron. But like I said, it's not typically the alcohol that does that, it's the person using the alcohol to be a *****ebag moron.

Know your limits, and drinking can be a great thing. It loosens you up, you feel good, and have a good time.

Well yeah I'm not saying it will make be be someone I'm not, but my understanding has been that it will make me do things that I want to but normally wouldn't. Almost as though I don't have as much of a fear of consequences.

For example, I've mentioned many times about how physical contact is a barrier that's hard for me to break, but after a while last night, I was looking for any reason to hug or put my arms around my friend. Obviously I wasn't going to take it too far since we are just friends, but its like I finally felt comfortable doing something that I wanted to do but felt like I couldn't for whatever reason.

 

[Erzengel]

Alcohol is a free ticket for someone's ass to hurt in the morning.

Amiriteguyz?

 

[amazingfantasy15]

So I had some loose plans to spend time w/ my Valentine/SpecialLadyFriend but our plans got kind of botched; I don't really believe in corny Valentines presents, I like to spend time w/ people but since things didn't pan out that way she basically got salty at me (LOL); she was expecting flowers or something, sooooo yeah I screwed up

anyway, her birthday is next month so I plan on making it up to her then; can any of the LADIES here suggest some nice perfume brands?

I've always just tried to pay attention to things the girl likes and cater the gift to that. Perfume just seems too cliche and if you don't get a scent that works for her, it's just plain bad. Try to get tickets to a play she might've mentioned she wanted to see. If there's something she's always wanted to do or see, plan to go there. My girl has wanted to go to the Biodome in AZ since we moved here last year, we just haven't gotten around to it. So I found a good weekend that would work and planned a weekend getaway to visit it.

 

[steintym]

I'm always listening to my wife, trying to pick up clues to something she might like. I step up the efforts around gift giving occasions.

My wife got an AppleTV for Valentine's Day as a result. Not the most romantic gift ... but something she was interested in and something that will get a ton of use. Made her very happy.

 

[Erzengel]

You are with someone long enough, you're not always going to go for the flashy sparkly home run hit. Sometimes, being practical is a great way to go.

Once I purchased an iPod and speakers for the computer.

 

[Anita18]

I'm all about the practical.

Once we get a garage, I might be the one asking for power tools.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well yeah I'm not saying it will make be be someone I'm not, but my understanding has been that it will make me do things that I want to but normally wouldn't. Almost as though I don't have as much of a fear of consequences.

For example, I've mentioned many times about how physical contact is a barrier that's hard for me to break, but after a while last night, I was looking for any reason to hug or put my arms around my friend. Obviously I wasn't going to take it too far since we are just friends, but its like I finally felt comfortable doing something that I wanted to do but felt like I couldn't for whatever reason.

kind of.

When drunk I may give a hug that I normally wouldn't give but in general im not doing things I normally wouldn't.

My mind is still largely the same as when sober, im just a bit looser.

 

[DV8]

I've always just tried to pay attention to things the girl likes and cater the gift to that. Perfume just seems too cliche and if you don't get a scent that works for her, it's just plain bad. Try to get tickets to a play she might've mentioned she wanted to see. If there's something she's always wanted to do or see, plan to go there. My girl has wanted to go to the Biodome in AZ since we moved here last year, we just haven't gotten around to it. So I found a good weekend that would work and planned a weekend getaway to visit it.

yeah, I try to keep my gifts personal too, but she is a stereotypical "girly girl"; she likes fragrances, stuffed animals, flowers, corny **** like that Lol; she does a lot of promo gigs so I think a nice, professional perfume would do well to benefit her; her image is pretty important, and I don't think she has any nice perfume so I think it will be a nice gift all around; but I do see your point that whatever kind I get her should be specific to her personality; I wouldn't get her a teeny bopper fragrance, probably something a little more sophisticated . . .

 

[Erzengel]

Is perfume "the" gift?

 

[steintym]

I'm all about the practical.

Once we get a garage, I might be the one asking for power tools.

Nothing wrong with practical. Makes a lot of sense.

When we first moved into our home, that's pretty much all we purchased for one another.

 

[steintym]

Perfume has the potential to be an awful idea unless you have an idea of what she typically wears. Anyway to find out her preference?

 

[Lily Adler]

How does one know if someone is romantic or just desperate?

 

[Nave 'Torment']

Text her "It so does NOT!"

this.

So, um ... I think I'm a little drunk lol .. I went with some people to a bar after our show and my best friend (the girl I've admitted to having a crush on) went to and paid for some shots of tequila for me. I was pretty messed up after that but I have to admit that I did enjoy myself and we did share a moment of some true heart to heart. I really do love her more than anything in the world, but I'm glad to just have her in my life.

And I will say about the whole alcohol thing, I wouldn't have drank if it wasn't for her, and I don't regret it. It was fun and I think with other single, available girls I would've been able to get some kind of action, but tonight was an experience. Our cast party is tomorrow so who knows what will happen then, but all I know is that right now, in my semi-drunken state, I don't give a crap about that other girl I was talking about. I think she's too damn immature, given the fact that she's 18 and she's just stupid. Nice body, but stupid.

Also, what is up with guys who have girlfriends talking about how hot other girls are and how they'll "go after it". I admit women can be very attracted, so much that being in a relationship doesn't stop you from noticing other women. But still, its one thing to notice and another to want to pursue if given the chance and that really bothers.

Good to see you having some fun out there mate!

 

[Nave 'Torment']

So there is this girl in my class(An Artist, who I found out did nude portraits) who I started speaking with during class at the start of the semester. She is quiet (more than me) and she'd always look into my eyes a little longer than the norm. She'd laugh no matter how corny I sounded (I did that on purpose). I feel like I always have her full attention. By the end of the week I asked her out, something simple. She said "Maybe"

I took that "maybe" as her letting me down easy. So by next week, I was dreading an awkward moment. There was none.

It has been a few weeks now. But, she still gives that extended eye contact and laughs at my lame jokes. Even slows up to wait for me if I'm dragging me feet getting out of class.

So, what's the deal? Did I ask her out too soon earlier. Do I ask her out...again? Or is she just being friendly?

It sounds a lot like she's really interested in you. Talk to her, get to know her a little better, then ask her out again. I think what you just described are both universal signs of her having more than just casual thoughts about you. And I'm sure she's aware of it.

 

[Nave 'Torment']

How does one know if someone is romantic or just desperate?

Well... which one do you feel like more?

 

[Lily Adler]

Well, it's not me, but a guy I'm seeing.

 

[Erzengel]

How does one know if someone is romantic or just desperate?

Can you be a little more specific?

 

[WillardNation]

Well, when she's willing to drop plans with her friend at the drop of a hat to be with you. That's sign number one that she's looking for something more. You should probably just be up front with you on what you want, full on relationship or friends with benefits.

I told her yesterday that I couldn't be her boyfriend. She replied with, "I never said I wanted you to be my boyfriend. I'm not looking for a relationship. yada yada." But I take that as her just saving face. I then told her, "Cool, as long as neither of us are looking for anything more than a friends with benefits type thing, we can carry on."

 

[Lily Adler]

Can you be a little more specific?

I'll try. When someone does all these incredibly romantic things and talks about finding the one. I sometimes wonder if they're doing these romantic things because they're truly romantic or just desprate to fimd someone and settle down.