The Lord of the Advice: The Two Towering Relationships thread

[hopefuldreamer]

Well now, you can't just say a thing like that and not tell us more!

 

[Anubis]

Sorry, but that one I keep to myself.

Maybe I'll share next time I post drunk.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Sorry, but that one I keep to myself.

Maybe I'll share next time I post drunk.

I'll be waiting

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Edit - n/m

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Unrelated to my above edit, but, Optimus will be happy. My girlfriend and I broke up today.

I don't really want to go into any details about what happened, or who did what, or any of that, but I'll just say while I'm disappointed about the outcome, I'm doing alright with it.

 

[Boy Scout]

Sorry to hear that, man.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Unrelated to my above edit, but, Optimus will be happy. My girlfriend and I broke up today.

I don't really want to go into any details about what happened, or who did what, or any of that, but I'll just say while I'm disappointed about the outcome, I'm doing alright with it.

Sorry to hear that I really do think you deserve someone who will fully appreciate all you have to offer though It'll be worth it when you find her.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Unrelated to my above edit, but, Optimus will be happy. My girlfriend and I broke up today.

I don't really want to go into any details about what happened, or who did what, or any of that, but I'll just say while I'm disappointed about the outcome, I'm doing alright with it.

I don't understand why I'd be happy. I'm didn't make a prediction about you two breaking up?

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Didn't you say you thought she'd break up with me before she went away for the summer?

And anyways, it was meant in jest (something that I know doesn't translate well on the internet) because you've said a lot of stuff about her banging around with other dudes on the side, and how I should leave her and stuff.

 

[Anita18]

Best of luck, Nell. Hopefully having had a bit of experience being in a relationship will make the future ones a lot easier.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

Didn't you say you thought she'd break up with me before she went away for the summer?

And anyways, it was meant in jest (something that I know doesn't translate well on the internet) because you've said a lot of stuff about her banging around with other dudes on the side, and how I should leave her and stuff.

Ah. Well yeah, it sucks. I'd just start texting other girls or go out and do something, take your mind off of it.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

If I can just say one thing - I wish all the constant rejection I've gotten in my life was as simple and straight forward as this breakup, I probably wouldn't be so jaded.

It was perfectly amicable (amiable? Not sure the word I'm looking for) there are no hard feelings, there are no loose strings, it really is as simple as we gave it a shot, and it's just not the right place at the right time. It's disappointing, to be sure, you never get into a relationship wanting it to fail, but we gave it a shot, and found that it wasn't right, and so it's no more. You can't ask for much more than that really.

 

[Anita18]

If I can just say one thing - I wish all the constant rejection I've gotten in my life was as simple and straight forward as this breakup, I probably wouldn't be so jaded.

It was perfectly amicable (amiable? Not sure the word I'm looking for) there are no hard feelings, there are no loose strings, it really is as simple as we gave it a shot, and it's just not the right place at the right time. It's disappointing, to be sure, you never get into a relationship wanting it to fail, but we gave it a shot, and found that it wasn't right, and so it's no more. You can't ask for much more than that really.

Yeah that sort of attitude comes with maturity, though.

 

[Darthphere]

I mean, it's better than the alternative of locking yourself in a dark room listening to Adele.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I mean, it's better than the alternative of locking yourself in a dark room listening to Adele.

 

[Anita18]

I mean, it's better than the alternative of locking yourself in a dark room listening to Adele.

I have complicated feelings about Adele. I love her voice (second altos unite! ) but her songs are all sad and/or angry. Impossible to play at a wedding without raising some eyebrows.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

If I can just say one thing - I wish all the constant rejection I've gotten in my life was as simple and straight forward as this breakup, I probably wouldn't be so jaded.

It was perfectly amicable (amiable? Not sure the word I'm looking for) there are no hard feelings, there are no loose strings, it really is as simple as we gave it a shot, and it's just not the right place at the right time. It's disappointing, to be sure, you never get into a relationship wanting it to fail, but we gave it a shot, and found that it wasn't right, and so it's no more. You can't ask for much more than that really.

You're probably also better at spotting rejection now that you're more experienced in relationships (I mean I feel we can say that you are at this time), and then more receptive to it too. A lot of times people spare your feelings because they think they have to, and the fact that she is straight forward is because she thinks you can take it -- that's really not a bad thing. Means she considers you an adult. Which is really all you want.

I mean, it's better than the alternative of locking yourself in a dark room listening to Adele.

No reason to listen to that music ever.

 

[WillardNation]

I mean, it's better than the alternative of locking yourself in a dark room listening to Adele.

No reason to listen to that music ever.

I set fireeee to the raaaaain, watched it.... uh.... *ahem*.... Well, this is awkward.

 

[Nave 'Torment']

Hi everyone, I've been away from the boards for a good while -- i ... had to stop thinking so much over the same person over and over again, but i've been well, much better than before. Wasn't exactly avoiding the rest of the hype just have been a bit busy with everything.

Hope everyone's doing fine, and thanks for listening to my rants when ya'll did.

and Nell, I'm sorry to hear that. I really am. But you seem to be taking it very strongly.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Yeah that sort of attitude comes with maturity, though.

Or possibly it comes when you're not that emotionally invested in the person in the first place?

I mean, if you are rejected by someone you have very strong feelings for, it breaks you're heart, no matter how mature you are.

 

[Nave 'Torment']

Or possibly it comes when you're not that emotionally invested in the person in the first place?

I mean, if you are rejected by someone you have very strong feelings for, it breaks you're heart, no matter how mature you are.

I guess there's a lot of truth in this, but despite that once you have some experiences with rejection you do tend to invest in degrees without going into something full-heartedly. Perhaps that's the better way to go about it in the end. Not that it means you're "safer" emotionally or anything, just that you invested appropriately.

 

[Anita18]

Or possibly it comes when you're not that emotionally invested in the person in the first place?

I mean, if you are rejected by someone you have very strong feelings for, it breaks you're heart, no matter how mature you are.

Well sure, but you can also acknowledge that it just didn't work out and it isn't one person's fault.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I guess there's a lot of truth in this, but despite that once you have some experiences with rejection you do tend to invest in degrees without going into something full-heartedly. Perhaps that's the better way to go about it in the end. Not that it means you're "safer" emotionally or anything, just that you invested appropriately.

Yeah I agree with that. I think the more you've been 'burned' the less quickly you fall in love in the first place.

Well sure, but you can also acknowledge that it just didn't work out and it isn't one person's fault.

Of course you can. I mean you learn maturity in terms of how you REACT to a break up... you don't have to scream at them and call them a poo poo head

I just think that if you really loved the person, you'd be a lot more devestated that it was over. Not just dissapointed you're not in a relationship anymore, and that this attempt didn't work out.

Just says to me that, as hard as any break up is, this one probably happened at the exact right time. Before there was too much invested in it.

Which is totally the mature and sensible way for a relationship in the beginning stages to end, if one or the other is not feeling it 100% for whatever reason.

 

[Nave 'Torment']

Yeah I agree with that. I think the more you've been 'burned' the less quickly you fall in love in the first place

can't say how much that sums up exactly what i believe at this point

 

[Erzengel]

Sorry Nell. But just chalk it up to experience and use it to move on.