The Temple of Doomed Relationships

[hopefuldreamer]

6 inch stiletto heels. No one can be a tomboy and wear those.

But would I look sexy stumbling around and falling over, then taking my shoes off at the bar to rub the newly forming blisters?

 

[amazingfantasy15]

^ Yes I know FWB can be hit or miss, but like steintym said not every situation is the same.

Yeah, but you already have emotions for this girl. You can deny it all you want, but it's true.

 

[Lily Adler]

But would I look sexy stumbling around and falling over, then taking my shoes off at the bar to rub the newly forming blisters?

It's the work women go through to catch them a man. It's either heels or a baby lasso.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

But would I look sexy stumbling around and falling over, then taking my shoes off at the bar to rub the newly forming blisters?

Men don't care nearly as much about your shoes as you think.
　　
Also, you're rather tall for a woman do you really want to be 15cm taller?
　
I mean I like tall women, but its not the most common of male tastes, and if you want to maximize your odds, you don't want to exclude a high quality man who is 186cm, now that you look 190cm.
　
I would suggest wearing comfortable shoes when you go out, and if you want a heel, something 8cm or less.
　
Now on the other hand I think men should pay more attention to the shoes they wear. Especially if he is not as good looking in body or face.
　　
Men who are naturally good looking, who have six pack abs, chiseled features, wide cheekbones etc... Not shaving for a few days and dressing a notch down may actually help, as you look more attainable, otherwise a lot of women may consider you out of their league.
　
On the other hand, if you are short, out of shape, or have dumpy looking facial features, balding, or all of the above, then you want to dress a notch better than the other men. Visible signs of success and status can easily compensate for less than stellar physical looks.
　
- this applies to men much more than it does women. I did not make the rules of the cold and cruel human sexual market, and I did not make the double standards, I just know they exist. For a woman dressing up more can not do nearly as much to help her be more attractive to men, the way an ugly male dressing up more helps him with women.
　
That is why for girls I do not suggest anything that is painful, other than exercise and healthy nutrition. Hygiene is important, as is not overdoing makeup. Trying to dress too seductively may also send the wrong message. Too much sexual advertising with clothing choice is not a great idea. On the other hand, you should google sexy female bodylanguage, which can be a very useful asset.

 

[ComicChick]

This is why females can't just have "male.friends".. Its human nature to connect, grow and eventuallymorrmore

yes is it. i have male friends that i would never ever want to be anything other than friends with

 

[Lily Adler]

I have male friends as well and no we aren't friends cause they're INto me.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I'm capable of being friends with women. Just because someone is hot doesn't mean I want to bang them.

 

[BrollySupersj]

On the topic of friends, more specifically being friend zoned. Enjoy this image I found a while back. I aim to make portable copies of it, and the next time I am friend zoned, I'll give the girl this image and tell her to reconsider.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

On the topic of friends, more specifically being friend zoned. Enjoy this image I found a while back. I aim to make portable copies of it, and the next time I am friend zoned, I'll give the girl this image and tell her to reconsider.

Lol, why do you worry about the friend zone? Some women you just won't hit it off with, and you just have to accept that. I find people in the friend zone are just frustrated that they fell short. So really they make themselves a persistent presence. That's not really friendship. She's never 'keeping you around' when someone is in the friend zone, they're sticking around.

 

[BrollySupersj]

Lol, why do you worry about the friend zone? Some women you just won't hit it off with, and you just have to accept that. I find people in the friend zone are just frustrated that they fell short. So really they make themselves a persistent presence. That's not really friendship. She's never 'keeping you around' when someone is in the friend zone, they're sticking around.

I don't. Happened to me so many times, I've gone numb to it. I really only meant the post as a funny joke.

 

[Daniel Thompson]

Ok this the chick I told you gys about had told me to call her this afternoon when I was on break at work and so I did. We talked for awhile until both our breaks ended and were going to go hang out next saturday just the both of us. By the way she was talking she seemed disappointed that I had not talked to her in awhile on the phone.

Her exact words were..''you do not call me no more so hard for us to chill, but please feel free to hit my phone up anytime''. Now I think that maybe she might be interested in me, maybe not who knows. Ima see were this goes, but if she just wanna be friends hey I can dig it. So this means even if she proably not interested in me, she still wants to talk to me and hang out.

What do you guys think? You think she just telling my friends stuff so they could not be in our buisness? Or she might just see me as a friend to have fun with?

 

[LOBO3315a]

I can run and walk in heels (don't tell anyone on the Bat boards), but stilettos are where I draw the line. Anyone who can where those is Queen of TEH GURRLY GURLZ!. t:

Yep, I haven't seen a tomboy yet who could.

But would I look sexy stumbling around and falling over, then taking my shoes off at the bar to rub the newly forming blisters?

Yes, yes you would!

 

[SpideyInATree]

Ok this the chick I told you gys about had told me to call her this afternoon when I was on break at work and so I did. We talked for awhile until both our breaks ended and were going to go hang out next saturday just the both of us. By the way she was talking she seemed disappointed that I had not talked to her in awhile on the phone.

Her exact words were..''you do not call me no more so hard for us to chill, but please feel free to hit my phone up anytime''. Now I think that maybe she might be interested in me, maybe not who knows. Ima see were this goes, but if she just wanna be friends hey I can dig it. So this means even if she proably not interested in me, she still wants to talk to me and hang out.

What do you guys think? You think she just telling my friends stuff so they could not be in our buisness? Or she might just see me as a friend to have fun with?

It just sounds like she is using you for attention. She knows that she has you wrapped around her finger and can use you whenever it seems necessary.

My suggestion? It mirrors another posters suggestion as well. You seem to HAVE feelings for this girl and REALLY like her. I don't think you'd be able to handle a friends with benefits relationship with her without getting further attached. Because what's just casual sex to her may seem like making love to you.

So, if you DO have emotional feelings for her then I would just move on. However, if you don't and think you can handle a strictly sexual relationship...then I say keep her around for sex.

She's already used you and played you. Time to either return the favor or move on and meet women who are more up your alley. Like I said...you are still quite young. You need to go out and have fun. Your 20's are the golden years of your life and you're going to have a TON of great times. Don't go getting yourself all wound up over this one chick who obviously has emotional issues and needs constant attention from men. When she's not getting it from one she gets it from another.

Tread lightly with this girl she sounds like a real crazy one, if you ask me.

 

[Daniel Thompson]

It just sounds like she is using you for attention. She knows that she has you wrapped around her finger and can use you whenever it seems necessary.

My suggestion? It mirrors another posters suggestion as well. You seem to HAVE feelings for this girl and REALLY like her. I don't think you'd be able to handle a friends with benefits relationship with her without getting further attached. Because what's just casual sex to her may seem like making love to you.

So, if you DO have emotional feelings for her then I would just move on. However, if you don't and think you can handle a strictly sexual relationship...then I say keep her around for sex.

She's already used you and played you. Time to either return the favor or move on and meet women who are more up your alley. Like I said...you are still quite young. You need to go out and have fun. Your 20's are the golden years of your life and you're going to have a TON of great times. Don't go getting yourself all wound up over this one chick who obviously has emotional issues and needs constant attention from men. When she's not getting it from one she gets it from another.

Tread lightly with this girl she sounds like a real crazy one, if you ask me.

I mean she don't have her fingers wrapped around me. If anything I have my fingers wrapped around her. And truthfully she never sued me or played me at all. She never sexually teased me like rubbing up on me and all. In school we had cool talks and that was it. I thought she was playing me, but other posters made it clear to me that she proably just sees me as a friend.

And my friends told me she said all that, for all I know she proably told them that so they can back off and stop asking her questions. I mean some people don't like it when others keep asking them if they like such and such.

I'm willing to give her a chance man, nothing wrong with doing that. If she no show next saturday when we chill I will know. But she wants to hang out with me, she told me to get back with her about next saturday when we chill.

 

[SpideyInATree]

I mean she don't have her fingers wrapped around me. If anything I have my fingers wrapped around her. And truthfully she never sued me or played me at all. She never sexually teased me like rubbing up on me and all. In school we had cool talks and that was it. I thought she was playing me, but other posters made it clear to me that she proably just sees me as a friend.

And my friends told me she said all that, for all I know she proably told them that so they can back off and stop asking her questions. I mean some people don't like it when others keep asking them if they like such and such.

I'm willing to give her a chance man, nothing wrong with doing that. If she no show next saturday when we chill I will know. But she wants to hang out with me, she told me to get back with her about next saturday when we chill.

Well, good luck. If you're just looking for friendship then hopefully the friendship works. However, you mentioned something on another page about how she's out looking for friends with benefits. If she sees you as "just a friend" she probably doesn't want to have sex with you either.

For your sake...I hope it all works out and you tap that. t:

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

I don't. Happened to me so many times, I've gone numb to it. I really only meant the post as a funny joke.

Ah, I was thrown by your set up.

 

[DV8]

On the topic of friends, more specifically being friend zoned. Enjoy this image I found a while back. I aim to make portable copies of it, and the next time I am friend zoned, I'll give the girl this image and tell her to reconsider.

hilarious!

 

[DV8]

yes is it. i have male friends that i would never ever want to be anything other than friends with

that may be true, but you never know how they might feel . . .

I have male friends as well and no we aren't friends cause they're INto me.

possibly; but that's what YOU think

I'm capable of being friends with women. Just because someone is hot doesn't mean I want to bang them.

women may do a lot to turn you off relationship-wise, but deep down you KNOW that if they're hot, and you were both drunk some **** might go down!

Again, it's semantics now; yes, I have female friends that I occassionally hang out with strictly on a platonic level; but those are few and far between; most of the women that were my "friends" began as possible romantic interests, and most of them faded away; the others that remained are acquaintances or business associates; they are assets to me; not good friends that I keep in touch with like REAL friends . . .

you can continue to be friendly with people, but that doesn't make them real friends . . .

 

[DV8]

Ok this the chick I told you gys about had told me to call her this afternoon when I was on break at work and so I did. We talked for awhile until both our breaks ended and were going to go hang out next saturday just the both of us. By the way she was talking she seemed disappointed that I had not talked to her in awhile on the phone.

Her exact words were..''you do not call me no more so hard for us to chill, but please feel free to hit my phone up anytime''. Now I think that maybe she might be interested in me, maybe not who knows. Ima see were this goes, but if she just wanna be friends hey I can dig it. So this means even if she proably not interested in me, she still wants to talk to me and hang out.

What do you guys think? You think she just telling my friends stuff so they could not be in our buisness? Or she might just see me as a friend to have fun with?

don't call her anymore; make her come to you . . . don't completely ignore her, but make her work for your attention . . . she is an attention ****e

 

[Daniel Thompson]

Well, good luck. If you're just looking for friendship then hopefully the friendship works. However, you mentioned something on another page about how she's out looking for friends with benefits. If she sees you as "just a friend" she probably doesn't want to have sex with you either.

For your sake...I hope it all works out and you tap that. t:

Yeah well ima ask her to be my girl first and if that fails then friends with benefits. Ima say the right stuff so if she says not looking for a relationship right now, leave room for the FWB. I think she might be somewhat interested, she felt a certain way about me not calling her anymore. And again she told me to feel free to call her anytime.

 

[Daniel Thompson]

don't call her anymore; make her come to you . . . don't completely ignore her, but make her work for your attention . . . she is an attention ****e

I'am making her work for my attention.

 

[DV8]

Yeah well ima ask her to be my girl first and if that fails then friends with benefits. Ima say the right stuff so if she says not looking for a relationship right now, leave room for the FWB. I think she might be somewhat interested, she felt a certain way about me not calling her anymore. And again she told me to feel free to call her anytime.

no, don't do that; do the opposite . . . go for the FWB situation first; you don't even know what a relationship with her is going to be like . . . don't put the cart before the horse

 

[Daniel Thompson]

no, don't do that; do the opposite . . . go for the FWB situation first; you don't even know what a relationship with her is going to be like . . . don't put the cart before the horse

True but no harm in asking, she might say yes and life is all about risks. I mean women do like guys who take risks and not afraid of rejection.

 

[Anubis]

They also like Potpourri.

 

[DV8]

True but no harm in asking, she might say yes and life is all about risks. I mean women do like guys who take risks and not afraid of rejection.

LOL . . . asking for a relationship is not taking a risk, it is giving her your heart on a platter; women do not like that; you are just giving her all the power; save some leverage for yourself; make her WORK for it . . . it's a ****ed up part of life, but people don't want the things that come too easily to them

go for the FWB thing first, then make her WANT the relationship with you if it's what you really want . . . but get to know her and at least find out if the sex is good first JEEZ!

ps, are you a virgin? hope that's not too personal a question, but answer if it is feel free not to answer . . .