The Temple of Doomed Relationships

[Daniel Thompson]

It's understandable. Like I said...keep your eye open for more ladies. Just sounds like she's a player and craves attention. Maybe finding someone else will light a fire under her. It's more healthy to find someone who likes you for you instead of just wanting your attention because they have issues.

Yeah my friend told me him and other classmates was in the lunchroom, and my friend asked her why she was playing head games with me and some other guy who also liked her at the school who she did not tell him she was not interested in aswell. And she said she already told me how it was, when she never told me she was not interested. And she told them she do not date young guys but older men instead.

I just feel like a fool to allow myself to have feelings for her that deep and thought she could of been the one when she just play games with people minds and lies. I guess the oldsaying is true, never turn a hood rat into a house wife.

 

[SpideyInATree]

Yeah my friend told me him and other classmates was in the lunchroom, and my friend asked her why she was playing head games with me and some other guy who also liked her at the school who she did not tell him she was not interested in aswell. And she said she already told me how it was, when she never told me she was not interested. And she told them she do not date young guys but older men instead.

I just feel like a fool to allow myself to have feelings for her that deep and thought she could of been the one when she just play games with people minds and lies. I guess the oldsaying is true, never turn a hood rat into a house wife.

Yeah, she's an attention seeker from the sounds of it. Let her have her older guys. Hey...I'm 31...I bet she'd be really interested in me! I know how you feel though...it does suck. However, you're still quite young and there is PLENTY of fun to be had. Take it from me. Your 20's are your golden years and some of the best years of my life were between 21 and 24.

I'm 31 and I'm still looking forward to having a few more decent times. Life can throw you some curve balls but you learn from the mistakes and it makes it easier to find the one.

 

[Daniel Thompson]

Yeah, she's an attention seeker from the sounds of it. Let her have her older guys. Hey...I'm 31...I bet she'd be really interested in me! I know how you feel though...it does suck. However, you're still quite young and there is PLENTY of fun to be had. Take it from me. Your 20's are your golden years and some of the best years of my life were between 21 and 24.

I'm 31 and I'm still looking forward to having a few more decent times. Life can throw you some curve balls but you learn from the mistakes and it makes it easier to find the one.

It hurts more when a chick does stuff like that. Rather a women be mean and nasty and say I do not like you get the hell away from me, then the mind games. I respect a chick more who does that then play head games.

I'm taking a break from women for awhile after this. I seem to enjoy life more when not worried about a female who is on my mind. And reason why this stings cause she was on mym ind alot, and as freaky as this sounds my dreams aswell. Hell even my dreams told me she was not interested in me lol.

 

[SpideyInATree]

It hurts more when a chick does stuff like that. Rather a women be mean and nasty and say I do not like you get the hell away from me, then the mind games. I respect a chick more who does that then play head games.

I'm taking a break from women for awhile after this. I seem to enjoy life more when not worried about a female who is on my mind. And reason why this stings cause she was on mym ind alot, and as freaky as this sounds my dreams aswell. Hell even my dreams told me she was not interested in me lol.

Let me tell you a story here. In my mid 20's I met this AMAZING girl. She was super hot and had a great personality...was into geek culture and comics, etc. She seemed to be the perfect girl for me. I ask her out and she says yes. We have lunch a few times and have these super amazing phone conversations. The kind where you really connect as people and feel something happening.

Like you she was on my mind ALL the time. So, she worked at a jewelry store and I needed to buy my mom a birthday present so stopped by her store and bought a nice necklace for my mom. We're talking, being flirty, etc. She asks me to hit up a bar with her that night and drink with her and her friends.

I get there and her friends are really cool. One guy keeps buying me shots and we play some pool. Things are looking REALLY good, right?

Well, I'm talking to one of her girlfriends and this guy walks in...kisses her on the mouth for a LONG time. I'm thinking, "What the hell is going on here?" Her friend sees the look on my face and says, "Oh, I thought you knew...that's her boyfriend".

At no point in the month of talking her up did she mention a boyfriend or ANY other guy. So, I'm at this strange bar with a bunch of her friends and watch her snuggle and make out with this dude who looked like a child rapist.

Thankfully one of my best friends was in the area and came to the bar. He brought his brothers with him and we just got super drunk.

I called the girl the next day and asked what was up with the boyfriend thing. She tells me, "Well, I just thought you wanted to be friends". At NO POINT did I just want to be friends! I was VERY specific about my intentions. Mentioning things like, "I really wish I was in person with you so that I could give you a kiss". So, I basically told this girl to go screw herself and that leading other guys on isn't something she should do.

Never saw her or heard from her again and thank goodness. Shortly after that I hit a great streak of women...had some fun...then met a great girl, who unfortunately I broke up with a few months ago. However, that's how the cookie crumbles. So, when things are at their darkest...there is always a bit of light at the end of the tunnel.

And, yes, there are going to be women out there who will be crazy and play some really messed up games with you. So, trust me...I know how you feel. However, plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[Daniel Thompson]

Let me tell you a story here. In my mid 20's I met this AMAZING girl. She was super hot and had a great personality...was into geek culture and comics, etc. She seemed to be the perfect girl for me. I ask her out and she says yes. We have lunch a few times and have these super amazing phone conversations. The kind where you really connect as people and feel something happening.

Like you she was on my mind ALL the time. So, she worked at a jewelry store and I needed to buy my mom a birthday present so stopped by her store and bought a nice necklace for my mom. We're talking, being flirty, etc. She asks me to hit up a bar with her that night and drink with her and her friends.

I get there and her friends are really cool. One guy keeps buying me shots and we play some pool. Things are looking REALLY good, right?

Well, I'm talking to one of her girlfriends and this guy walks in...kisses her on the mouth for a LONG time. I'm thinking, "What the hell is going on here?" Her friend sees the look on my face and says, "Oh, I thought you knew...that's her boyfriend".

At no point in the month of talking her up did she mention a boyfriend or ANY other guy. So, I'm at this strange bar with a bunch of her friends and watch her snuggle and make out with this dude who looked like a child rapist.

Thankfully one of my best friends was in the area and came to the bar. He brought his brothers with him and we just got super drunk.

I called the girl the next day and asked what was up with the boyfriend thing. She tells me, "Well, I just thought you wanted to be friends". At NO POINT did I just want to be friends! I was VERY specific about my intentions. Mentioning things like, "I really wish I was in person with you so that I could give you a kiss". So, I basically told this girl to go screw herself and that leading other guys on isn't something she should do.

Never saw her or heard from her again and thank goodness. Shortly after that I hit a great streak of women...had some fun...then met a great girl, who unfortunately I broke up with a few months ago. However, that's how the cookie crumbles. So, when things are at their darkest...there is always a bit of light at the end of the tunnel.

And, yes, there are going to be women out there who will be crazy and play some really messed up games with you. So, trust me...I know how you feel. However, plenty of fish in the sea.

I never told that girl how I felt but she knew I liked her. And she lead not only me but another guy on aswell. Just that guy had the smarts to play the field and talk to other females and not get hooked up on her. I should of did the exact samething but did not.

But I'm relieved at sametime this happened so can focus on my life again and doing what I have to do and should be doing and not focusing 100% on a female.

I like you cannot even be friends with her anymore, I'm not gonna talk to her ever again because friends would not do this to other friends. I would of still possibly wanted to remain friends if she told me the deal from the start but she did not so **** her.

 

[enterthemadness]

So,...I'm on POF again...I honestly don't know if I will find someone...cause I'm Pagan now, Neo-pagan and don't think it's gonna work out with a Christian..thoughts?

 

[Boy Scout]

So,...I'm on POF again...I honestly don't know if I will find someone...cause I'm Pagan now, Neo-pagan and don't think it's gonna work out with a Christian..thoughts?

Depends on the Christian. Your religion might not matter to them.

 

[SpideyInATree]

So,...I'm on POF again...I honestly don't know if I will find someone...cause I'm Pagan now, Neo-pagan and don't think it's gonna work out with a Christian..thoughts?

POF is a pretty solid dating site. I recently met a girl from POF and it's been cool. It just depends on the types of girls that you contact, etc. Also...here in Pittsburgh there are a couple people on the site who set up POF dances and it gives members a chance to meet up in person, etc.

Went to one and it was freakin' great. t:

 

[Daniel Thompson]

Thanks for the advice SpideyInATree, only known you for an hour and you already seem cool.

 

[enterthemadness]

Depends on the Christian. Your religion might not matter to them.

That would be nice.

But I honestly have not improved my life much since last time I've had POF. It's just that when I get on my feet, being a Pagan can hold me back from dating. I live in NC, part of the South, part of the Bible Belt. I know not every Christian hates my kind, but still...

 

[WillardNation]

Believe it or not, some people have made the argument that if you let another dude suck your wang, they're the gay ones, not you.

...yeah.



If he has to try so hard to prove that he likes women, then he's probably 100% gay and just can't accept it.

I have heard that argument too. The guy I heard it from said "I mean...if you close your eyes it really doesn't matter!"

I read in a Dan Savage article one time that there are dudes who enjoy sucking off trannies but still claim to be straight because the dick they sucked belonged to a woman. I've even known a couple guys who have apparently told friends of mine, "I'm not gay at all, I just really like to suck dick sometimes. But I'm totally straight."

Not until they defeat me in unarmed combat.

Which they can.

Better have tried. Better have failed.

:cobra strike:

Let me introduce you to Michelle Waterson.

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[terry78]

Girls can get away with that whole bi-curious thing and not be deemed gay. Because both genders view that as kinda hot.

 

[WillardNation]

My gay friend will talk about hooking up with straight guys and I'm like, "Uh, dude, if they're hooking up with you, they're not straight. I don't care what they tell you or themselves."

 

[hopefuldreamer]

So I hooked up with my friend whose been after me for a while last night. And don't get me wrong, it was great, he's attractive and everything...

I'm just kind of sick of being this person though.

Why is it that guys so badly want to be **** buddies with me, and never wanna be in an actual relationship with me?

Other than the ex who slept with men, and a few brief and unmemorable week or two long stints at being someone's 'girlfriend', **** buddies is all I've ever known.

And I just don't understand it.

Do you know, it's been 5 years since I've been in love with anyone?

I used to fall head over heels for people all the time!

A part of me knows that some of that is just growing up.

But then again, most people do have a boyfriend at some point between 20 and 25

Sorry for the pity party, just feeling a bit blue.

This will be my first post here on SHH, so hello to everyone. Reason why I choose to have my first few posts take place in this thread is because I have for the past few months been dealing with what I call puppy love syndrome. See it was this women who I really liked who was going to the trade school I graduated from in november. Anyways it started out rough with me being shy and all but I eventually got her number.

What could I say it was the happiest day of my life as I got a hot girl number and I'm not use to that at all. So anyways my plan was to take her out 1 time and ask her to be my girlfriend. Well things never went the way I wanted them and found out by my friends who still go to the school that she wants to only date men who are 30 and up. She is 21 years old, 1 year older then me by the way and I'm 20 years old.

I feel like I played myself and she played me as she never told me she was not interested in me, but instead told other people and how I let myself fall for a chick who I never got to even date. I feel like a complete idiot and moron for allowing myself to have my life evolve around a women like that who never was interested in me. My friend says actions speak louder then words and warned me she was not interested, but I did not listen and well now I know. So what do you guys think of that? I can give you more details on the whole situation from beginning to end when get responses on this subject.

I'm going to be honest here - i've given my number to plenty of guys I didn't like, especially if they're drunk and so am I.

I used to think 'Well there's no harm in them having my number', and it's always such an easier alternative than saying 'No' and then having the guy go into a round of drunken begging - 'Oh, why?' 'Your single aren't you?' 'Come on, i'll buy you a drink' nonsense. Sometimes it's just easier. Besides, they rarely ever follow through on it when it's like that.

And sometimes i've genuinely thought they wanted it in a friend capactiy. Like this guy I went to school with and know fairly well was out with me and an old friend a few weeks ago and asked for my number, and I didn't even hesitate to give it to him because I thought he just wanted it for hanging out as friends.

Next thing I know he's texting asking if I wanna go out with him and sending me his entire work schedule so I can pick a day...

Needless to say, I had to do some gentle back pedalling.

Let me tell you a story here. In my mid 20's I met this AMAZING girl. She was super hot and had a great personality...was into geek culture and comics, etc. She seemed to be the perfect girl for me. I ask her out and she says yes. We have lunch a few times and have these super amazing phone conversations. The kind where you really connect as people and feel something happening.

Like you she was on my mind ALL the time. So, she worked at a jewelry store and I needed to buy my mom a birthday present so stopped by her store and bought a nice necklace for my mom. We're talking, being flirty, etc. She asks me to hit up a bar with her that night and drink with her and her friends.

I get there and her friends are really cool. One guy keeps buying me shots and we play some pool. Things are looking REALLY good, right?

Well, I'm talking to one of her girlfriends and this guy walks in...kisses her on the mouth for a LONG time. I'm thinking, "What the hell is going on here?" Her friend sees the look on my face and says, "Oh, I thought you knew...that's her boyfriend".

At no point in the month of talking her up did she mention a boyfriend or ANY other guy. So, I'm at this strange bar with a bunch of her friends and watch her snuggle and make out with this dude who looked like a child rapist.

Thankfully one of my best friends was in the area and came to the bar. He brought his brothers with him and we just got super drunk.

I called the girl the next day and asked what was up with the boyfriend thing. She tells me, "Well, I just thought you wanted to be friends". At NO POINT did I just want to be friends! I was VERY specific about my intentions. Mentioning things like, "I really wish I was in person with you so that I could give you a kiss". So, I basically told this girl to go screw herself and that leading other guys on isn't something she should do.

Never saw her or heard from her again and thank goodness. Shortly after that I hit a great streak of women...had some fun...then met a great girl, who unfortunately I broke up with a few months ago. However, that's how the cookie crumbles. So, when things are at their darkest...there is always a bit of light at the end of the tunnel.

And, yes, there are going to be women out there who will be crazy and play some really messed up games with you. So, trust me...I know how you feel. However, plenty of fish in the sea.

That's harsh

Girls a total ***** tease!

Girls can get away with that whole bi-curious thing and not be deemed gay. Because both genders view that as kinda hot.

Is it weird that I think gay man can be kind of hot. Like that scene in Y Tu Mama Tambien?

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

So,...I'm on POF again...I honestly don't know if I will find someone...cause I'm Pagan now, Neo-pagan and don't think it's gonna work out with a Christian..thoughts?

I don't know much about Pagans, but as an atheist I can tell you that from my experience this is attractive to Christians, especially the fanatical ones. Something about me being proudly part of "the other" I think at least drives some interest. Plus it's rebellious to be attracted to an atheist or pagan if you're Christian. May not be a great long term formula but it can drive attraction I think.

 

[SuperFerret]

Thankfully, in reality, most people rightly consider their religion to be a part of their total self and not an overriding primary objective and religious conflicts rarely come up.

 

[Lily Adler]

Update: So my friend is now mad at me for not getting involved and saying "you're probably reading too much into it". He's pissed, I feel guilty and now I need to binge on some Skittles and AirHeads.

I'm also kind of afraid he's going to ask the question to his friend and possibly ruin his friendship.

 

[Erzengel]

Didn't people here say, don't get involved?

 

[LOBO3315a]

Yeah. That was me. Don't get involved.

 

[Lily Adler]

I'm not getting involved. I just feel guilty for not getting involved.

 

[Erzengel]

He should be able to handle his own s'.

 

[LOBO3315a]

I'm not sure why he should be mad at you for you not wanting to get involved. If he is a real friend, he would respect your position. It sounds a bit like drama to me.

 

[Lily Adler]

What's strange I expected him to respect my position, which he usually does. I guess that's why I feel guilty, he's never been like this. So I think it's either this friendship means a lot to him or he does like this guy, romantically.

 

[LOBO3315a]

Probably the second choice. I'd still stay out of it. If he wants to find out, let him do it on his own. That way if it blows up in his face, he can't legitimately blame you. He probably will anyways, but morally, you'll know he's off.

 

[Lily Adler]

Thanks, now I'll enjoy this giant bowl of Skittles and Air Heads and worry about the consequences of that later.