I`m taking this straight from Neal Bailey's SR review from Superman homepage:
" know families like this exist all over, that's why I resent it when people latch onto stuff like this and say it's politicizing Superman, showing how Singer wanted to "make the non-nuclear family shown as okay when it's really not," and "using Superman to do that bastardizes Superman." These criticisms fail fundamentally because there's NOTHING wrong with strange, untraditional families as long as there is a base of love. Lord knows I know that with the people I've known and the lives I've seen in poverty. But truth be told, what makes it bad for THIS film and THESE characters is the fact that THESE characters are MORAL ARBITERS. They are people who set the examples for others in the style of a greek myth (and not Dionysus, if you read me). So when they fail to make a family work, when they're in emotional chaos (even the bedrock, Superman), and it's readily acceptable about most viewers, the question is what that says about the viewership, number one, but on a fundamental level, it's a paradox, because Singer obviously knows these characters SO WELL with the dialogue and story he's made, but knows them NOT AT ALL because of this wrinkle he's added.
Yes. Families like that exist. They're the norm, not the exception. Mommies cheat on daddies with other lovers and still love another person when they're with another ALL THE TIME. And the reverse for daddies too. But fact one: It's always a result of someone's critical moral failing. And fact two: it hurts kids, so it shouldn't be glorified. Is it here? That's debatable. I say signs point to yes. It happens in movies.
BUT NOT SUPERMAN.
People do drugs.
BUT NOT SUPERMAN.
People beat each other up over insults.
BUT NOT SUPERMAN.
People drink bud to unwind.
BUT NOT SUPERMAN.
This, above all, is the epoch of flaw in this film.
Richard actually is so weak he sends Lois to go and be with Superman, knowing she's cheating on him, knowing it's throwing his own kid into upheaval. It's awful.
Lois kisses Superman in front of the kid. The kid kisses Superman like he's his daddy, and later they laugh it off when Superman comes into his room at night and acts like his father before giving the mother attention without getting any physical response and flying off into the night (which, hey, if they're going to excuse it with "people are like this," why not show Superman demanding Lois' physical attention as men do in real life? BECAUSE IT'S NOT SUPERMAN.)
Superman can NEVER be with Lois now without becoming NOT Superman. This universe has destroyed the Lois and Superman love. That's a BIG no-no. That's the focus of the whole shebang, next to the Lex/Superman rivalry. It'd be like a movie where Superman and Lex Luthor work together.
She kisses Superman in front of the kid, and it's "romantic." What would a guy kissing a sleeping girl in a room without her permission be? Rape, outside of sleeping beauty. Lois flat-out cheats on her guy in front of the kid, and makes the kid complicit. The kid in fact imitates her, kissing him, though with differing intent. It just reminds me of people I see in life who make bad decisions, and then their kids end up adopting those bad decisions, and their life is ruined too. Sucks."
This is what I think and what ruins the whole movie for me.